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...and I am just answering post.. I type slow.
there is usually 3 post before my post response shows up...lol |
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Edited by
KiK2me
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Mon 06/10/13 11:05 AM
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Some of your sentence doesn't make sense to me. I will try and answer to what I think you are asking me. If I dated a man who had a passion for a low paying job, but worked hard and helped with the bills,put our future together first, I would sacrifice, and I've had in the past. If I dated a man who was washing dishes because in this economy that's all he can get, but was trying to still find other work in his field... I am ok with that. This is different from your regular.. I am 40 something, live with mom and can't hold a job. Or, I make double what you make, but I have better things to spend my money on then bills.... My point is: At my age, I want someone who is established and willing to work together. Sounds like your frustrated more so this week since we've talked, I underderstand you!  |
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I will try this again. If Thomas, my live in, lost his job, and was trying without luck..key word is TRYING, I am ok with that! I will carry the load... but (true story) Thomas and I live together in a nice house sharing the bills, then his daughters college loan doesn't go through, he has always paid her rent, but has to now pay her school. Fine.. we move into a smaller place.. I pay the rent/deposit. I pay the rent, food, gas, misc stuff.. so his daughter can continue her education. NOW... if Thomas can go to the movies, sit at the bar, drop $100 on dinner, not pay the storage, tell me to budget my money better... Should I still stay and love this man? Only you can answer this, but it sounds like Thomas has bigger issues than money. I don't know Thomas, but if I was a girl Thomas would be out the door unless there was a serious understanding of the relationship. Part of that would be getting him the help he needs to put his head on. He may have a mental problem. If you guys agreed that movies and the bar are the therapy needed that's up to you, but if he is indeed only using you than the relationship is not based on true love anyway, it's based on money. Jetta, I have a feeling if you had a man who wanted to work together with you through thick or thin you would be up for that. Sadly this is not what you have and the relationship has become based (maybe always was) on something different from true love. If I were Thomas and could "not" find a job and you were doing what you are, you would have one H*** of a servant. I would do everything in my power to make your relationship as even as posible. If I couldn't find a job, I would create one and at least take care of my need to be productive. If Thomas is not productive, than this is a totally different story, but we shouldn't equate money with productive. And I firmly believe unless Thomas is ill that going job hunting is not enough. Some people use this as an excuse to be lazy. |
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Some of your sentence doesn't make sense to me. I will try and answer to what I think you are asking me. If I dated a man who had a passion for a low paying job, but worked hard and helped with the bills,put our future together first, I would sacrifice, and I've had in the past. If I dated a man who was washing dishes because in this economy that's all he can get, but was trying to still find other work in his field... I am ok with that. This is different from your regular.. I am 40 something, live with mom and can't hold a job. Or, I make double what you make, but I have better things to spend my money on then bills.... My point is: At my age, I want someone who is established and willing to work  I get it. You want to date a grownup.  Dont put words in her mouth 
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I get it. You want to date a grownup. ;) exactly 
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Sorry, with all my bad experiences in relationships.. I decided to break the circle. If you ask me for $5.00 on our first date..your *** is gone. If you live with mom and dad for the past 43 years... see ya If you can't hold a job, because you are too lazy.. don't call me If you want to do nothing but sit on the couch.... good-bye If you start taking advantage of me, emotionally and financially.. I am moving on. You don't have to be a millionaire. Just make me laugh.. and have some goals, a good working ethic, and be supportive. So with that... done with losers! Now your talkin and I'm with ya. It's about what you deserve as a person and as a woman. This money thing will screw with your head but if you find a good man he will be looking out for your heart and your well being. Money may come and go but sharing love and working together breeds happiness. I totally agree, losers be gone. But remember this, love is bought with a higher currency than the dollar. |
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I will try this again. If Thomas, my live in, lost his job, and was trying without luck..key word is TRYING, I am ok with that! I will carry the load... but (true story) Thomas and I live together in a nice house sharing the bills, then his daughters college loan doesn't go through, he has always paid her rent, but has to now pay her school. Fine.. we move into a smaller place.. I pay the rent/deposit. I pay the rent, food, gas, misc stuff.. so his daughter can continue her education. NOW... if Thomas can go to the movies, sit at the bar, drop $100 on dinner, not pay the storage, tell me to budget my money better... Should I still stay and love this man?  I agree with MG...he's a pretty smart cookie.
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I will try this again. If Thomas, my live in, lost his job, and was trying without luck..key word is TRYING, I am ok with that! I will carry the load... but (true story) Thomas and I live together in a nice house sharing the bills, then his daughters college loan doesn't go through, he has always paid her rent, but has to now pay her school. Fine.. we move into a smaller place.. I pay the rent/deposit. I pay the rent, food, gas, misc stuff.. so his daughter can continue her education. NOW... if Thomas can go to the movies, sit at the bar, drop $100 on dinner, not pay the storage, tell me to budget my money better... Should I still stay and love this man? I agree with MG...he's a pretty smart cookie. Your just saying that cause you want to dunk me in milk :) |
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I get it. You want to date a grownup. ;) exactly Manchild seeks companion, NSA! Leave your wallet at home! ..starting with the letter J and ending With the letter A  Keep the LD on the DL |
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I will try this again. If Thomas, my live in, lost his job, and was trying without luck..key word is TRYING, I am ok with that! I will carry the load... but (true story) Thomas and I live together in a nice house sharing the bills, then his daughters college loan doesn't go through, he has always paid her rent, but has to now pay her school. Fine.. we move into a smaller place.. I pay the rent/deposit. I pay the rent, food, gas, misc stuff.. so his daughter can continue her education. NOW... if Thomas can go to the movies, sit at the bar, drop $100 on dinner, not pay the storage, tell me to budget my money better... Should I still stay and love this man? I agree with MG...he's a pretty smart cookie. Thank you for now understanding. Thomas has a job..same one 4 years. (I've been with him 2 years.) I feel I am being used.. so I guess my thinking has stemmed from men using me. If I am inlove with a man, of course I would do anything to support and help him if he lost his job... but I am not getting that in return... Love does come first.. I don't care what a person drives and what they make for a living.. but if you are a loser.. we will not have a future. On my way to work :) bills to pay...lol I do like this board. Lots of good people here. |
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