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Hello,
My name is Greg and I am wondering if you believe in your own words enough to be willing to follow through with them. Would you be willing to believe in a relationship that is more than an occasional text message, emails, checking-in phone calls or once a month dates? Would you be willing to share a life with someone who doesn't live in your own back yard. Someone who believes in all the things that you say are important to you. Enough to consider seriously, really seriously, a relationship that that may demand that you give yourself completely in order to get what you want out of it, even if it meant changing your life as you know it. Maybe even more than you bargained for? What I want to know is are you willing to do all those things that you say you want your man to be willing to do? If you are really willing to do what you are asking somebody like me to do, shoot me an email and we will start from there. I am passionate and have been waiting all my life to find someone willing to allow me to give everything to a life long relationship with the woman I love. Perhaps we aren't meant for each other but there is really only one way to find out. If you aren't willing to take that first step to find out then you ought to consider changing your profile to convey what you really mean. Most people want what want, but only on their terms. That is not what great stories and great lives are made from, and that is why people read a lot so they can share the lives of those willing to do the things that they are too afraid to do. I hope I haven't scared you, this is pretty deep stuff, and I'm sure I will be easy to dismiss by just clicking delete and blocking me so that I cannot demand that you live up to your part of this life's agreement. (That you get out of it what you are willing to put into it.) Sincerely, |
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I copied and pasted this so It's not real for this post. I sent this to someone one day and wondered what response there might have been, (I didn't get one)
Occasionally you hear about 2 people who meet and 2 days later they are married for life. I was just trying of find out if there are women who think this sort of thing is romantic like you see in movies all the time or when it is real it is considered off the wall or crazy. When I sent it I was looking for a reaction, and I am still curious, what do you think? |
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You say you sent it just looking for a reaction. To me, that says you aren't serious about what you wrote. If you're just playing games and wanting to know what the reaction will be, how do you expect to get a serious response?
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Actually I meant every word I said (to her) but did not want to distract from the point of this post so please help me stay on track with what I am asking more than the why I am asking.
Thanks. |
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Ladies, is this passionate or psychotic? Passionate, well spoken. I would think anyone literate would go for it. |
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Edited by
1Cynderella
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Sun 06/02/13 05:27 PM
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Hello, My name is Greg and I am wondering if you believe in your own words enough to be willing to follow through with them. My opinion would depend greatly on what her own words were. 
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touche`
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Actually I meant every word I said (to her) but did not want to distract from the point of this post so please help me stay on track with what I am asking more than the why I am asking. Thanks. Well, then I guess it would depend on how life changing it would be and in what way. |
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Edited by
justme659
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Sun 06/02/13 06:00 PM
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Yes, I did that once. When I first got on JSH, Pre Mingle, I meet a fella that lived in Oregon. 3 Hours time difference, Talked on line 3 times a day for hours. I went to see him 3 times, he came to see me twice. He told me that there was nothing keeping him there, and he would love to move to be with his destiny. 9 months later he vanished from the face of the earth. I finally heard from him 4 months after his disappearance, his story, he found someone closer and they got married. I wished him well.
I am the type to follow through, but I am not willing to put myself in that position ever again. I truly feel that a "date" should be in real life at least every other weekend with your intended. Maybe one day I will find again my forever fella. And as for your original post, It is not psychotic, just not so practical in this day and age. |
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What I want to know is are you willing to do all those things that you say you want your man to be willing to do?
Perhaps I am missing something here but, what is it that women or this one woman saying, that she wanted her man to be willing to do? |
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Yes, I did that once. When I first got on JSH, Pre Mingle, I meet a fella that lived in Oregon. 3 Hours time difference, Talked on line 3 times a day for hours. I went to see him 3 times, he came to see me twice. He told me that there was nothing keeping him there, and he would love to move to be with his destiny. 9 months later he vanished from the face of the earth. I finally heard from him 4 months after his disappearance, his story, he found someone closer and they got married. I wished him well. I am the type to follow through, but I am not willing to put myself in that position ever again. I truly feel that a "date" should be in real life at least every other weekend with your intended. Maybe one day I will find again my forever fella. And as for your original post, It is not psychotic, just not so practical in this day and age. I feel bad that things worked out the way they did for you. I wonder if there ever was/is/or will be a time when it will be practical, and that is probably part of the point. |
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Yes, I did that once. When I first got on JSH, Pre Mingle, I meet a fella that lived in Oregon. 3 Hours time difference, Talked on line 3 times a day for hours. I went to see him 3 times, he came to see me twice. He told me that there was nothing keeping him there, and he would love to move to be with his destiny. 9 months later he vanished from the face of the earth. I finally heard from him 4 months after his disappearance, his story, he found someone closer and they got married. I wished him well. I am the type to follow through, but I am not willing to put myself in that position ever again. I truly feel that a "date" should be in real life at least every other weekend with your intended. Maybe one day I will find again my forever fella. And as for your original post, It is not psychotic, just not so practical in this day and age. I feel bad that things worked out the way they did for you. I wonder if there ever was/is/or will be a time when it will be practical, and that is probably part of the point. It doesn't sound like you want practical, though. |
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Hello, Would you be willing to share a life with someone who doesn't live in your own back yard. Someone who believes in all the things that you say are important to you. Enough to consider seriously, really seriously, a relationship that that may demand that you give yourself completely in order to get what you want out of it, even if it meant changing your life as you know it. Maybe even more than you bargained for? I am passionate and have been waiting all my life to find someone willing to allow me to give everything to a life long relationship with the woman I love. -does that mean the woman changes everything for love while you wont change a bit? well sounds like that because whenever there is a difference between you two, the woman should be ready to change as otherwise she proves herself false to what she promises. Most people want what want, but only on their terms. - it seems that this too is the same?! so i find it neither passionate nor the other. I find it impractical because even though a woman changes everything.. life continues.. and there will be some point at which the woman might resist from changing further and then the relation is over . |
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Hi Greg
I think some are built perfectly for this type of relationship and some have a hard time keeping one foot in the sand and the other in the dream of this type of thing being true love. For those who can only think of this as a dream they don't make it, for the ones who truly live with this range of commitment they do just fine. I've been a part of both and want to tell you that the true forms of this were the best years and loves of my life. So much so that when I tried to engage in this with the one foot in the sand types it turned really bad really fast. This has nothing to do with these people being good or bad but everything to do with these people being ready to throw themselves into something without hidden agendas or safety nets that sooner or later will bite the relationship in the butt. One thing I would say to all who attempt this is at least take the time to find out if the person who says they can pull that foot out of the sand really can. Many folks say they can do something and start down that road with probably good intentions but in the back of their mind still have that dug in part. That part that doesn't know how to let go of being what ever it is that they hang on to. On one side they probably really do have a desire to truly make it work but there is something or somethings that keep them stuck playing tapes that lead to ruin. The other part also is if you both are able to share the same goals and ambitions in life, or for many of us older youngins rest of our lives. Some of us (I'm one of them) are pretty set in our ambitions and changing or bending that wouldn't work. I can be a part of hers and she a part of mine but having her change that part she has is not cool, nor would it be her change mine. The thought of spending the rest of your life in anger management is not the most thrilling thought in the world. Especially if you are somewhat happy with who you are. However I like the bold appeal and always support people on here coming right out with it. Not that you need or want my approval. |
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Sounds like a contract to me. I don't want anyone 'demanding' me to do anything.
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What I want to know is are you willing to do all those things that you say you want your man to be willing to do? Perhaps I am missing something here but, what is it that women or this one woman saying, that she wanted her man to be willing to do? exactly plus justme's story is reminiscent of my expereince with LDR usuallt they've got someone else on the line as well as they do not usually tell you about that. But they try to make you feel like they are the only one (apparently while making several others feel the same way). It's way to difficult to judge a man's player meter with an LDR - so no, prolly not for me...I will make the kindsa promises in the OP to man who lives close enough so that I can gauge his sincerity. Sorry but LDR seem to be mostly for men who want to be like the old fashioned "traveling salesman" with a girl in every port lol |
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Edited by
justme659
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Mon 06/03/13 07:47 AM
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What I want to know is are you willing to do all those things that you say you want your man to be willing to do? Perhaps I am missing something here but, what is it that women or this one woman saying, that she wanted her man to be willing to do? exactly plus justme's story is reminiscent of my expereince with LDR usuallt they've got someone else on the line as well as they do not usually tell you about that. But they try to make you feel like they are the only one (apparently while making several others feel the same way). It's way to difficult to judge a man's player meter with an LDR - so no, prolly not for me...I will make the kindsa promises in the OP to man who lives close enough so that I can gauge his sincerity. Sorry but LDR seem to be mostly for men who want to be like the old fashioned "traveling salesman" with a girl in every port lol I have to say that it is hard to do LDR if there are children involved. I can be faithfull, make promises and keep them and follow through, but not any longer distance than an hour away.  sweetestgirl- Love the Blue Jackets Sweater. I was at the ice rink where the blue jackets practice. Rick's boys were in a tournament there. I should post a photo of me in my Pitts Pens sweater. Hockey fans unite!
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Sometimes I think I was born in the wrong decade, honestly for me if someone around my age said this to me I would take the time to talk with them, I believe people now are too interested I. Sex to honestly consider a serious relationship. I wish you the best of luck and if she didn't reply then clearly she's not worth your time!
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Hi Greg I think some are built perfectly for this type of relationship and some have a hard time keeping one foot in the sand and the other in the dream of this type of thing being true love. For those who can only think of this as a dream they don't make it, for the ones who truly live with this range of commitment they do just fine. I've been a part of both and want to tell you that the true forms of this were the best years and loves of my life. So much so that when I tried to engage in this with the one foot in the sand types it turned really bad really fast. This has nothing to do with these people being good or bad but everything to do with these people being ready to throw themselves into something without hidden agendas or safety nets that sooner or later will bite the relationship in the butt. One thing I would say to all who attempt this is at least take the time to find out if the person who says they can pull that foot out of the sand really can. Many folks say they can do something and start down that road with probably good intentions but in the back of their mind still have that dug in part. That part that doesn't know how to let go of being what ever it is that they hang on to. On one side they probably really do have a desire to truly make it work but there is something or somethings that keep them stuck playing tapes that lead to ruin. The other part also is if you both are able to share the same goals and ambitions in life, or for many of us older youngins rest of our lives. Some of us (I'm one of them) are pretty set in our ambitions and changing or bending that wouldn't work. I can be a part of hers and she a part of mine but having her change that part she has is not cool, nor would it be her change mine. The thought of spending the rest of your life in anger management is not the most thrilling thought in the world. Especially if you are somewhat happy with who you are. However I like the bold appeal and always support people on here coming right out with it. Not that you need or want my approval. Thank you for your remarks mg1959 I have long admired your ability to objectively and with great insight put pen to paper, so to speak. I had decided that my response to a profile that I interpreted to be both guarded and reaching for that perfect relationship at the same time was sufficient for this post. I see this type of profile all the time and it usually goes something like this: . . Incurable romantic Tired of kissing frogs and waiting for my prince charming (Mr Right) to come and sweep me off my feet and carry me away where we will be happy forever. Must not have baggage and live within 75 miles. PS: I am not a cougar so those with youthful minds please do not reply. . . I am paraphrasing here and there is usually much more added or subtracted but you seem to have gotten the point. You seem to have also realized that this is a general response meant for discussing the or lack of, someone's willingness to throw it all to the wind and not to be dissected and scrutinized word for word but rather taken as a whole concept. I am serious about the topic but also trying to have some fun with it as well. Some people seem to be mirroring their own biases and looking for this to be some kind of condemnation which I actually find surprising.....Oh well |
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