Hi everyone, I've had this profile up for a while but because of few matches I've not messaged many people. Anyway, I've neither dated that much or been in a long term relationship. I don't really look forward to meeting ladies in bars or at parties, I feel too self-conscious and awkward in those situations.

I'd really like to meet a sensible lady younger than myself, really not looking for hookup or "short term" meaningless escapades! What do you think of my profile and what kind of lady does it appeal to?

Thanks in advance for your replies.

I like your profile...and you're handsome, as well. I had just looked at your profile a few moments ago, and then I saw your post...you must be doing something right...I looked at you twice :) Mickie

I fear that with just one reply to this thread that says it all! What's missing from my profile?

Good pics, well written. The only thing that might make a woman hesitate is that you sound almost too good to be true.
You cycle 150+ miles a week, you work with youth and you volunteer, it sounds like you do it all and it might be hard to keep up with you.
But if you are who you say you are all someone has to do is take that first step.
You sound like a great guy, good luck to you!

You're question stood out, so it made me curious :) You made me look. lol. It's a very impressive profile. Yes you may sound too good to be true, but who are we to judge if we've never met you? Nice suit, btw. Welcome :) Don't get disheartened at the lack of replies. It's just people log on at different times, and may have yet to view your profile.

Interesting that ladies might feel like that! I've refined this profile over a long time and while using several different dating sites, the intention being to advertise myself as best I could. So it's ironic that it might come across as a difficult to keep up with person! In fact I like active ladies and tend to feel more comfortable with younger ladies, so sometimes I worry about being able to keep up with those sorts of women!

Anyway it's worth saying that I *always* get very few messages or replies to messages whatever site I use which is *really* disheartening! OK I may dumb down some of the detail in the profile.

OK so I've changed the profile a little, but still (as is the case on other sites) virtually no one messages me??? Would anyone like tell me who my profile appeals to?

Maybe the problem is that you're waiting for people to message you, rather than you messaging others?

I don't think so, I do send loads of sensible messages either from matches or the result my own searches. This site probably has the lowest number of matches of any site I've used - namely none! So I haven't been sending as many messages as other sites. Otherwise I might send 100 messages and get 1 reply :(((. This is such a mystery for me!

hi jolly,,don't be discouraged at the low number,,just keep pressing through. one thing i did notice is the distance, that would deter me if i was looking for a relationship n i was living in the states. i hope you find your hearts desire, blessings!

Seems like your the whole package. But why younger women? Try posting in the forums here so people get to know you better

Well written!

Although,you made yourself sound too ''perfect''.....and there's no such a thing!!

And then,i doubt there are THAT many young women on here who live within 50 miles of you...

Sugestion; Say,within the UK or something-just to broaden your chances.....because,some of the young women in age range you chose,living near you are; gay or married or dating or looking for hookups or you dont appeal to them or them not to your taste.......that leaves quite a tiny number....and odds are not appealing!!!

Good luck to you

If you were as perfect as this lot are making out you would be getting dates. There's no mystery about it. Nobody uses that dumb matching thing and it sounds more like you are looking for an activity partner than a girlfriend. "Sensible" is kind of boring and you sound like you have very little confidence with women.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read my profile.







I'm not sure that I fully understand what people mean by "perfect", all I've tried to do is say something about what I do with my life and make it sound positive. Can anyone suggest an example in my profile of something that sounds too good to be true? As for distance, traveling more than about 30 miles form home is already likely to be a limit for me.

I am less experienced with relationships compared to many my age, e.g. never been in a long term relationship. When I was younger I found women my age 1-dimensional personalities - in fairness I had no idea how to approach them! Ironically when I finally had the confidence to meet ladies in my latter 20's, I tended to fancy younger ladies and feel more able to discern "sensible" personalities from the rest. I've always worked in female dominated work environments which has made me rather cynical about ladies my age - the jealously, "looking younger", sexual anxieties, gender anxieties.

As for confidence with women, I'm rather shy socially and not entirely sure what I want (or need) from a relationship. Nevertheless I "feel" at ease relating to women. Amongst other things I've coached women in an artistic sport, which entailed spending all day working with young female athletes and thinking about feminine aesthetics. So crude sexuality doesn't motivate me as much in the real world compared to many guys.

How could I make the profile more interpersonal without making it drag on too much? And what specifically makes it sound as if I have "very little confidence with women"?

I think that you could try to put a bit of humour into it. You say that you have a witty sense of humour but the whole thing reads like a CV to me.

That's just my take on it though and if what you want is someone "sensible", then don't change it so that it makes you look like a guy that knows how to have a laugh.

Bear in mind that the women rating you here are foreigners and to them you must seem like Hugh Grant or something.

Hugh Grant??
Is that a plus or minus???

Personally,i looked at Jollyface as him....

His profile reads like a sterile hospital room-no germs! Make it sound more human.....

Sorry,
Tripple post.

I suppose that I just meant the posh, well spoken but a bit awkward with women thing that some people find charming.

He's describing himself as "down to earth" but to me that implies that he's just an ordinary bloke that doesn't put on airs and graces and some of what he's saying could come across as being a bit snooty in my humble opinion.