Who here believes that more relationships start due to attraction? I believe 80-90% start this way! A guy can approach a women and not know anything about her, but are still going to make the effort due to the sheer physical attraction that is felt when first laying eyes on that person. Ladies this question is pointed at you mainly tell me what you think?

Sorry, but mine start with what they say.
A peek into their soul.
A sense that they know who they are,
comfortable in their own skin.

They could be purple with 6 ears, I
don't care.
It is only important to me that they be
who they are.

Good point! But why did he approach you in the first place ( because he thinks your hot ) being comfortable comes after the ice has been broken true?

I would never presume to know what men are thinking.
One wishes they used the same standards.
Alas..

While I do think men overall seem to be more initially drawn by physical attraction, women do it too. I think we all stay because of way more than that though.
Chemistry is a really interesting topic. I've actually been watching shows about it on the science channel, all the research they've done on pheremones and stuff. Fascinating!

Thank you for your opinion! Your right chemistry holds two people together after they have meet. But what I'm trying to get at is the fact that the very initial motivator is physical attraction that is how most people first inter react. Male/female it doesn't matter. So the question I'm posing is why does more times then not the people we are attracted too won't give a person the time of day unless money is involved in someway shape or form. One of the reasons I ask this question is because all the profiles I have read on this and other site. The female states I love to travel but haven't done much. Is this a subliminal way of saying you want a guy whom will whisk you off to a beautiful beach or a mountain temple. I'm just curious is all and am trying to understand the way a women thinks. If you read my profile you will read that I'm an old fashion guy who is looking for a special person. But I am not having any luck due to the fact that I'm not rich. But I won't give up cause there is a women out for me I will find her

My profile says nothing like that! I'll be honest with how feel about it! I don't want a men to take care of me but, I certainly don't want him leaning on me for money either(been there done that). My thought is we both better have something to bring to the table! Just being Honest! Please don't take the wrong way but High maintenance Girls/Women are going to lay it on the Line they want a man with money for just one reason to take care of them. Plain and simple and they're open about what they want...you know straight front the door what you're getting yourself into. I'd rather for someone to be honest with their wants and needs ...than just have it dumped in your lap! One more thing the energy you may be putting out there ... is drawing you to certain women (women who want someone to take care of them). ^__^

if a man approaches me because I am "hot" I can usually see thru that right away and he wouldn't stand a chance (been there...)

I'd consider him shallow ... so he better have something more interesting that "hot" on his mind or I exit...

AGREE!

I agree with you that most of the time the initial attraction is physical, but it takes more than that for a lasting relationship. That was a good example about the travel thing. I 'would' love to travel, so I would be on the lookout for someone that could do that for me. But at the same time, I wouldn't just dismiss someone because they couldn't. Qualities like honesty, integrity, a desire to please your partner (even with little things), faithfulness are all important. Even a sense of humor could make or break a deal for me. I love to laugh, so someone that never laughed and was always serious wouldn't work for me even if they were a millionaire.
I think everyone should just be honest about what they're looking for (no one should be judging anyone else for what they like or want)...that way when we finally do 'hook up' with someone, it stands a better chance of turning into something real.
Don't give up...but don't settle either. I've been there & done that...it doesn't work & you end up getting hurt.
I'm finding that patience truly is a virtue! Good luck!!

I notice handsome men every day...but too often they open their mouths and ruin everything.

So I may take notice of their looks, but I'm only going to take interest if there's something interesting going on there.

I'm capable of making money too, so I don't consider that such an amazing trick. If he wants to impress me, he'll have to show me something I don't know.

Fair enough, I agree! I think you just answered your own question as to why older men are attracted to
younger woman
Definitely one big reason is their more impressionable!

Woman my age can be like two magicians "entertaining" themselves.

pulls a rabbit out of the hat, she goes "oh ya! big deal,can you do this "ya ! big deal



O P your 90% estimation must only applys to attractive people! So your poll excludes men
and unattractive woman! Good job! Good game you have!

This question includes all, no game just the truth!!

I actually include in my profile before (I edited my profile the other day) saying that I need to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to the man, and most of the "handsome" men I talked with are just full of s***..so I deleted the physical attraction but the rather focus on the attitude and their views in life. Who can live with someone who have a handsome or pretty face and have an attitude which is like a crap? Character must be on top!

I do want to be physically attracted to a man I'm dating, but find that the more appeal his character holds, the more physically attractive he becomes to me too.

Where others may see an average guy, all I can see is the total stud muffin I know him to be.

Sparkling eyes on me and the glow of warmth on someones face

Inspiration is only part of the puzzle, the perspiration you put into someone is the real reflexion of attraction

More relationships start due to attraction. I agree 80-90% start this way! Especially online, most men go for looks first, then get to know You, if they have a real interest, to pursue.