To what degree have you shared your sexual history with the person you are dating?

I believe it is better to deal with past sexual experiences before marriage. When you are silent on this subject and enter marriage without discussing past sexual activities, almost always the past has a way of erupting into present. When it comes to marriage, something deep within the human psyche cries out of an exclusive relationship. And we are pained by the though that our date or spouse has been sexually intimate with others. The reality is previous sexual experience becomes a psychological barrier in achieving sexual unity in marriage. Thus, there is a need to discuss and be open about it:)

Interesting topic. I know many that wouldn't reveal their history in any instance.

If I were to be married, I would probably not want to know for at least a while. I would have no problems revealing anything if asked.

Did you find a nice man and he wouldn't communicate?


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Thanks for the "compliment"..lol. I am realistic in some ways and definitely not a poet: )

I am new in this site, like I just signed up three hours ago. So far I haven't contact or anyone contact me yet, my profile scares them away..you think so? lol

You're welcome, and you are a poet...you just don't know it yet.

I think women in general are scaring the life out of men these days without a profile. Most look and act like dudes, dude. At any rate, you're actually pretty. Too many words for a pretty girl me thinks....too many.

Let's just say every person have his/her own poetic side and maybe some of them are undiscovered before that certain person.

Well, I would like to believe also on that perspective.

And anyway, if my profile scare them away I don't mind at all. And thanks again for another "compliment".

If he is so paranoid about my sexual history, I wouldn't bother being with him. Why would a guy need to know about that?

You never know.

Our culture has taught that sex before marriage is recreational and that once you get married, you can simply wipe the slate cleam, commit yourself to be sexually faithful to ur partner and all will go well.

However, it is not easy to wipe the psychological slate clean. Some couples desire to know their spouse sexual history, and when they know it, it sometimes becomes a memory that is difficult to erase.

Why tell them about your history then you can just give then a few "presents from your past"

its a joke people..relax

I dont know, I know I can come back with a clean check up, the rest just showers off, doesn't it.

If it seems that they haven't had many partners then I would definitely play it down.

There just happy that you aren't that " hopeless romantic: guy.

There not nearly as inquisitive as you, you must a bin quite an inquisitive chld!
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I think, if there is the potential or interest in moving into a commitment with each other, if its at that stage, ,,that communication about these things is very important

I also think , as a female, I would want to kmow as much as I Can abot that mans values, his style of parenting, if he wants/expects kids, what his relationship is with his own relatives, parents, siblings, as well as his sexual expectations/experience

these are the conversations that arent necessarily 'fun', but those who focus merely on having 'fun' rarely have long lasting relationshps because every minue of life is not about fun even for single folks, and certainly not for those in relationships

the man who kep my interest the longest out of those I 'dated', did it rhough having the confidence and honesty to communicate with me about these types of things,, I was not used to the communication from men regarding sex , it was actually very endearing and 'sexy'

Unless my mate wanted to open up the topic I would not approach the subject.

I don't need to know the number of sexual partners someone has had, or all the details of their past relationships. I am interested in finding out what turns them on and turns them off, though. And knowing that they are clean is imperative.

I don't want to know and I don't care to talk about the past.

Definitely, so more said right away the better or never ever said at all

I dont care how open and raunchy she is, if she seems to agree in bed a lot (oh yes! yes!) and her eyeballs

were rolling in the back of her head then she can tell me anything, I would feel real secure with her

mabee the most secure with that scenario

Wort case is the one's that played innocent and more and more keeps comming out and now you love

....a very bad thing to do to a guy....I call it false advertising

This is the beginning of the end.. now your insecure, she's untrustworthy to you

My past sexual history is no bodies business but my own.

But...since you brought it up...what is your sexual history.

(Bear in mind you got the Christ name thing going with 4 topics referring to sex...how nasty are you religious types?)

no that is not something I share

Not a good thing to ask about. I don't kiss and tell.

If he wants to know about it then I don´t have a problem sharing the information, what I did or didn´t do was my decision and I´m happy and ok with that. He just has to respect that. Now if he gets paranoid or crazy because of that then he will be a byebye for sure.

Open book relationships are my favorite. Just don't bump the speakers.