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Topic: Flirting with several people?
xtreme305 Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 388	Mon 04/22/13 08:39 PM
When I was a boy, I knew a very unremarkable man. Nothing special about him. He was no Brad Pitt. However every time I saw him. He was with a different girl. Some were quite attractive. So I asked him, What's your secret? How do you always have a different pretty girl? He replied, "Well boy the secret is this, If you speak to 5 girls. At worst 1 of them will agree to go out with you. If you speak to 20 girls at worst 5 will go out with you. Now if you speak to 50 girls, At worst 20 will go out with you. So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Just a thought i'd like to entertain?

lilott Joined Thu 10/12/06 Posts: 2295	Mon 04/22/13 08:46 PM
I think that one at a time is the best.

xtreme305 Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 388	Mon 04/22/13 08:49 PM
I think that one at a time is the best. Interesting, Why?

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Mon 04/22/13 09:53 PM
Nothing wrong with having options. Some women and men date several on the go, so that they know who is best for them. Though, I could be wrong.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Mon 04/22/13 11:50 PM
So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Not if that is what works for you.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 04/23/13 08:03 AM
Dating really is a numbers game (to some people) and there isn't anything wrong with that. However, in order to accomplish this feat ya gotta have the nutsack to talk to chicks. I guess this is why online dating is viewed as a "meat market". Guys will send out tons of emails to chicks cause the odds are you will get (at the very least) a few responses. But hey....if this process helps a person meet their true love, then it was worth it. Problem is that when you meet that one person ya gotts stop talking to chicks.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Tue 04/23/13 08:33 AM
So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Not if that is what works for you. IMO, this is the only right answer...Nobody's business how people choose to live their lives unless those choices directly affect them....

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Tue 04/23/13 08:52 AM
I'll flirt, until I'm dating just one, or one claims me. After that, one woman is all I can handle.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/23/13 09:08 AM
As long as you're honest upfront about dating several women, I don't see a problem with it.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Tue 04/23/13 09:38 AM
When I was a boy, I knew a very unremarkable man. Nothing special about him. He was no Brad Pitt. However every time I saw him. He was with a different girl. Some were quite attractive. So I asked him, What's your secret? How do you always have a different pretty girl? He replied, "Well boy the secret is this, If you speak to 5 girls. At worst 1 of them will agree to go out with you. If you speak to 20 girls at worst 5 will go out with you. Now if you speak to 50 girls, At worst 20 will go out with you. So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Just a thought i'd like to entertain? The more dates you have the more options you have to choose from. Everyone a person goes out with does not always want them as a potential mate.

xtreme305 Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 388	Tue 04/23/13 02:45 PM
Just because you go on a date with someone. Does not mean there will be a 2nd date. Nothing wrong with meeting several people a week or a month. At oh say starbucks, Just to see if you like the person or want to continue dating them.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Tue 04/23/13 02:59 PM
I think to take that style of dating very far, one would have to have a really good memory. How would you keep track of who said what if you're juggling too many?

xtreme305 Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 388	Tue 04/23/13 03:01 PM
Some women are more memorable than others

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Tue 04/23/13 05:19 PM
As long as you're honest upfront about dating several women, I don't see a problem with it. I agree with this. Always be honest. I don't know that I could handle dating too many though, I feel like I would lose track and lose the attentiveness that a guy would deserve!

Mirage4279 Joined Sat 09/04/10 Posts: 2466	Tue 04/23/13 06:16 PM
When I was a boy, I knew a very unremarkable man. Nothing special about him. He was no Brad Pitt. However every time I saw him. He was with a different girl. Some were quite attractive. So I asked him, What's your secret? How do you always have a different pretty girl? He replied, "Well boy the secret is this, If you speak to 5 girls. At worst 1 of them will agree to go out with you. If you speak to 20 girls at worst 5 will go out with you. Now if you speak to 50 girls, At worst 20 will go out with you. So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Just a thought i'd like to entertain? See this is where my logic falls short... on on hand I kind of want to find the perfect one for me.. which implies that I should go through several and choose from those... (I have social anxiety and kind of shy.... though perfectly possible to do if I pull myself from my computer ) On the other hand very old fashioned as far as limiting the amount of sex partners and being faithful to one.. and of the mentality to not have as many sex partners as I possible can ( society promotes this and I am slightly against it .. but whatever, she can be herself that's cool ) and likely to go for the most likely next one and not bother to try everything before settling

xtreme305 Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 388	Tue 04/23/13 07:55 PM
When I was a boy, I knew a very unremarkable man. Nothing special about him. He was no Brad Pitt. However every time I saw him. He was with a different girl. Some were quite attractive. So I asked him, What's your secret? How do you always have a different pretty girl? He replied, "Well boy the secret is this, If you speak to 5 girls. At worst 1 of them will agree to go out with you. If you speak to 20 girls at worst 5 will go out with you. Now if you speak to 50 girls, At worst 20 will go out with you. So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Just a thought i'd like to entertain? See this is where my logic falls short... on on hand I kind of want to find the perfect one for me.. which implies that I should go through several and choose from those... (I have social anxiety and kind of shy.... though perfectly possible to do if I pull myself from my computer ) On the other hand very old fashioned as far as limiting the amount of sex partners and being faithful to one.. and of the mentality to not have as many sex partners as I possible can ( society promotes this and I am slightly against it .. but whatever, she can be herself that's cool ) and likely to go for the most likely next one and not bother to try everything before settling Remember when momma said "Don't touch that. You don't know where its been! Thats a healthy attitude to take with strangers. I wouldn't advise you to sleep with every date you go on. On the contrary get to know them very well. Nothing wrong with getting to know a few at a time.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 04/23/13 08:28 PM
I think to take that style of dating very far, one would have to have a really good memory. How would you keep track of who said what if you're juggling too many? Tis why man invented Siri for the Iphone. That chick can keep track of stuff like this. Just don't ask her to tell you a joke. She sucks at that.

jaded72 Joined Tue 12/06/11 Posts: 1456	Tue 04/23/13 09:12 PM
As long as you're honest upfront about dating several women, I don't see a problem with it. I agree with this. Always be honest. I don't know that I could handle dating too many though, I feel like I would lose track and lose the attentiveness that a guy would deserve! How do you know what/who you like until you have the opportunity to check things out? My issue would be with time- there are only so many hours in a day!

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 04/24/13 08:37 AM
I think to take that style of dating very far, one would have to have a really good memory. How would you keep track of who said what if you're juggling too many? Tis why man invented Siri for the Iphone. That chick can keep track of stuff like this. Just don't ask her to tell you a joke. She sucks at that. You really should slow down Goof, you're giving Siri a headache.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 04/24/13 08:43 AM
When I was a boy, I knew a very unremarkable man. Nothing special about him. He was no Brad Pitt. However every time I saw him. He was with a different girl. Some were quite attractive. So I asked him, What's your secret? How do you always have a different pretty girl? He replied, "Well boy the secret is this, If you speak to 5 girls. At worst 1 of them will agree to go out with you. If you speak to 20 girls at worst 5 will go out with you. Now if you speak to 50 girls, At worst 20 will go out with you. So is there anything wrong with dating many people till you find what you want? Just a thought i'd like to entertain? in my opinion, no there is nothing wrong with it as long as you are honest and....don't expect that they will agree to sexual intimacy. not all women will be willing to have sex if they are not your 1 and only so if you can keep it light - not too heavy or pushy - and keep it honest - it's fine also keep in mind, some women will be put off by what they see as you "playing" women (it may look like that to them) and when you find the right one, settle in before you lose her