hey,

i got a girl frnd n we are so close. i asked her for a kiss n she said no. she asked me to promise her that never remember that incident. i dont understand why she's like that even though we discuss almost everything including her personal life.

any suggestions are welcome?

Sometimes a kiss is better stolen. Do as she asked. Forget the incident and steal a kiss. If she protests, just say your forgot. :)

Hi. My advice is that she only wants to b friends w u. She duz not find u attractive that wat. My husband & I were friends before marrying & we kissed becuz I was attracted to him but didn't want to b in a relationship w him at the time. Sorry if this is not what u wanted to hear. Start dating someone & c if it bothers her at all. How old r u & where r u from?

maybe she doesnt like you.

dont assume.

It's better to be alone and keep your dignity than to be in arelationship where you always sacrifice your self respect.

Indeed.

Maybe it's just too soon or the timing isn't right..sometimes you don't ask for a kiss, the moment will come and it will just happen...

probably true.....

You are not "that close".

You sir are unfortunately in the "Friend Zone."

The bad part is, once you're there it is really difficult to escape.

Good luck.

Close does not always lead to intimate.

Think boundaries The emotional house

The psychology lessons is on boundaries, this is throught the emotional house, its just a square divided


Into four Equal quadrants, one being the livingroom ,kitchen, bedroom & bathroom also has a front door &

fence. We would let friends in our emotional living room, say to watch the game or for a party and some

Real good one's inside are emotional kitchen to talk about some very private things.

the emotional bedroon is were your not.....and mabee one or two people enter your emotional bathroom,

or perhaps nobody.

She has healthy firm boundaries. ..so watch yours or you mite find yourself on the other side of that fence.

Very best,

She may be a girl and she may pretend to be a friend but she is not your girlfriend. You are a silent doormat to this girl who can tell you things in the guise of of being intimate but she does not care for you or she would not have asked you to pretend that you do Not have attraction to her when you do. That is selfish and degradeing to you as a normal male.

The suggestion I would make immediately distance yourself from this person who is useing you as and emotional dump site and invest in someone that genuinely cares about how her actions make you feel and is willing to reciprocate your feelings.

As far as "stealing a kiss" I would not recommend it unless you really want to get punched by her or one of her real friends or charged with assault since she has made it clear that the first advance was NOT WELCOME. NO MEANS NO.

this is one of the best posts I've seen from you, pony

and maybe one of the best posts I've seen period!

i agree completely

My whole thought process is this, why would you ask her for a kiss? That does nothing but make things so strange...IF you felt like she was inviting you in for the kiss, why didn't you just go for it? When you ask permission, IF there was that special moment, you just blew it all to he!!.
I don't know maybe you are trying to be a gentleman but please do not ask anyone if you can kiss them. That is like a trick question...if I say yes, then am I rushing things..if I say no am I being a prude. IF YOU ACTUALLY FEEL THE TIMING IS RIGHT, JUST DO IT. IF SHE DOESN'T SHE WILL TURN HER CHEEK TO YOU...THEN YOU KNOW IT WAS JUST TO EARLY!!!

Thank you sweetestgirl

A was in a bit of a rush as I was on my out to the sports pub to watch the UFC fights.

So of coarse the emotional bedroom would be reserved for a deep love and perhaps nobody will enter
your emotional bathroom in your life

nothing you didn't no i'm sure.

I didn't even make one joke either, that was the hardest part!

Well you're very polite,

Start discussing with her, Women you are attracted to. Go and date one of her friends. Or at least start flirting with them. Gradually start acting less interested in what she has to say. She will start to come around.

Well ok dad......what.....your bombed! !! ...lol..

Hey do you mind if we roast you ? ... I'll host a roast over in the funny sec

It would funny I got some good one's already lol.. are you surprised

Just good joke's, like Jonny Carson style....the x man's so abrasive, "how abrasive is here" when....

That kinda thing,

Step right up n roast the xman, ......just mes me ....peace outed

it sounds rough. I think its even more rough, How she is using him to unload. Its all psychological, He isn't a candidate for her because he is too available. Do the above I stated, Then she'll start realizing, "Hey i'm going to lose him" Thus roles are reversed. Then the shift in power creates interest.

Don't ask. Do.