I have noticed a trend on sites like this. Women and Men come to these sites looking for "that special someone" and often find disappointment in the end. The part i find amusing is many may have have found "that special someone" but so many people are so shallow that they clicked right past them because of there outer appearance. The least attractive person in the world could make you the happiest person in the world if given half a chance. Here's a idea "stop being so superficial" after all it's not our outer appearance that makes us beautiful but what's inside that should matter. Here are some words to live by. "If you always do what you've always done, then you will always get what you've always got"

lets be real... physical attraction matters to most.
kinda feels like im settling otherwise.

i've noticed the older people get the more they tend to say these kinda pretentious proverbial sayings.

but i guess the moral of the story is - i want the total package. personality/sexy/all of the above.

dont judge me.

And how many ''total packages'' have you found so far??

Physical attractions matters to most of us. We tend to find the person of our personal preferences but in finding these we met someone who is beyond what we looked for. For me it depends upon who i am comfortable with.

Ha ha ha haaaaa
That means none,si??

LOL

true. a lot of what you say is. I think there has to be honest attraction tho .... a spark of chemistry for things to work out.

I know I can't be intimate with someone who I am not attracted to at all, but have you evr noticed that another can become more OR less attractive depending on what they are like as you get to know them? :)

it was an honest question - don't go blow up the planet earth yet, marv

Sometimes sinfully handsome dont look so good once he opens his mouth.

That's the truth of it too, I think it is more of a lesson learned thing. I married someone that I thought I thought was very attractive but on the inside he was an abusive alcoholic. After having dealt with that, I am definitely attracted to the way a person acts and the philosophy with which they live their life.

mmmmmmm
Usually,Mr.Eyecandy's flaw is unpalatable and rarely sorry about it!!

I honestly try not to do that! I met someone one time and we both decided that we would talk for a while before we exchanged pictures. IF you talk first, I promise you won't care what that person looks like. I think personality is the key and how you both connect to each other! I actually talked to a man for about a year and then we decided to exchange pictures. Then we started talking on the phone and our connection was great. When I got his picture I was not disappointed at all, I was already crazy about him and wanted things to move ahead.
So NOT everyone goes by looks alone...I go by personality and how they treat me!!!

There has to be attraction and commonality and diversity to for a lasting relationship with someone. Personally, I have found that conventional standards of beauty don't apply. I am connected with who I am connected with and I don't buy into the whole media machine of what has been annointed as 'attractive'.

That being said, I think that I and others (men and women) like me are in the minority....for now ...