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Topic: Small Talk
Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Sun 04/14/13 03:01 PM
Depends on where I'm at- book store- books comic book shop or convention- comic books, characters church function- favorite scene from Cannibal Holocaust Okay the last one is a lie, I would never be found at a church function.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48928	Sun 04/14/13 03:03 PM
What are some good small talk topics you've found to be helpful ice breakers in social situations where you may not know many people? I usually ask, "What are you in here for?" ...err... Never mind.

Traumer Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 723	Sun 04/14/13 05:42 PM
If you're in a store, buying a certain CD, by one of your favourite bands/singers, sometimes someone will come up to you and say something like "Oooh, I love them", so you get talking about it. Or when I let my dog into the front garden, people see it through the gaps of the bars in my gate, and that has passers-by asking me all about him. I've been to group therapy before, and it was nice to just be able to vent to people who had more time to listen. I prefer group therapy, to one on one, as you can conversate with other phobics. My therapist told me a way to achieve inner peace was to finish things that I had started. Today I finished two bags of potato chips, a chocolate cake, a half bottle of bourbon and a cartoon video of Betty Boop that had been sitting in my VCR for 3 weeks. I feel much better already. Well, if a bona fide therapist says so...then I guess the healthiest thing for me to do is finish this bottle of wine I just opened. She was a sex therapist, does that matter...

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 04/14/13 06:30 PM
Serial killers. This is why "They" lock me here in this room and tell me "See? See why we can't let you have nice things?" No, but honestly...It doesn't matter what I break the ice with as soon as the question of "What do you like to do?" is followed by the answer "I like to study serial killers." Well, I mean, it doesn't typically go too far past that point. do you feel alone in your hobby?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 04/14/13 06:31 PM
I don't usually do much small talk beyond hello and good day if the other person speaks up I will participate as long as the topic is something fairly normal like serial killers or gardening

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sun 04/14/13 06:33 PM
I forgot: Baldness

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 04/15/13 10:11 AM
Serial killers. This is why "They" lock me here in this room and tell me "See? See why we can't let you have nice things?" No, but honestly...It doesn't matter what I break the ice with as soon as the question of "What do you like to do?" is followed by the answer "I like to study serial killers." Well, I mean, it doesn't typically go too far past that point. do you feel alone in your hobby? Do you know a lot of women who dig a guy that studies serial killers in his free time? I've met one, talking to her now...However, generally most of my dating experience ends with said conversation, I don't know why, can't say I give a f*. Just how it has always been.

Savannaa Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 4	Mon 04/15/13 10:17 AM
Muuusic

PrintsCharming Joined Thu 03/21/13 Posts: 547	Sat 04/20/13 10:34 AM
routine conversations are bad for attraction.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 04/20/13 02:24 PM
Serial killers. This is why "They" lock me here in this room and tell me "See? See why we can't let you have nice things?" No, but honestly...It doesn't matter what I break the ice with as soon as the question of "What do you like to do?" is followed by the answer "I like to study serial killers." Well, I mean, it doesn't typically go too far past that point. do you feel alone in your hobby? Do you know a lot of women who dig a guy that studies serial killers in his free time? I've met one, talking to her now...However, generally most of my dating experience ends with said conversation, I don't know why, can't say I give a f*. Just how it has always been. did you see Charles Manson's last interview from prison. what a whack job. but IDK if he was a serial killer or just a killer, either way he's probably the biggest nut case I've seen a live interview of. When I "came to" (as witnessing that interview astounded me) I found I had gone into spontaneuos prayer for his merciful death because he is way too derranged to be happy or appreicate life..........well .... clearly he has no interest in appreciating life anyway hopefully god will be merciful and take him soon...srsly

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Sat 04/20/13 03:07 PM
books restaurants that have great food movies trips

ChrisM81 Joined Tue 04/09/13 Posts: 37	Wed 04/24/13 08:45 PM
Ugghh I am the worst at small talk

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 04/24/13 09:01 PM
Ugghh I am the worst at small talk I disagree. That very statement opens up a great ice breaking conversation about never knowing what to say when it comes to small talk. Saying so will not only make the person you're talking to instantly relax and laugh that you are easy going enough to actually say it, and will inevitably lead to one of you sharing a funny anecdote about an awkward or quirky bit of small talk you once experienced or have heard of. Before you know it, there are 3 other people who couldn't help noticing the easy banter going on in your corner of the conference room and are now all sharing their own little tid bit. I have to say, Chis, you just went from ice breaker to party maker by just being yourself and tellin it like it is. Awsome!

ChrisM81 Joined Tue 04/09/13 Posts: 37	Wed 04/24/13 09:10 PM
Ugghh I am the worst at small talk I disagree. That very statement opens up a great ice breaking conversation about never knowing what to say when it comes to small talk. Saying so will not only make the person you're talking to instantly relax and laugh that you are easy going enough to actually say it, and will inevitably lead to one of you sharing a funny anecdote about an awkward or quirky bit of small talk you once experienced or have heard of. Before you know it, there are 3 other people who couldn't help noticing the easy banter going on in your corner of the conference room and are now all sharing their own little tid bit. I have to say, Chis, you just went from ice breaker to party maker by just being yourself and tellin it like it is. Awsome! That is a really neat take on that, haha! Never considered myself a "party maker" before. You have opened my eyes!

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 04/24/13 09:25 PM
Ugghh I am the worst at small talk I disagree. That very statement opens up a great ice breaking conversation about never knowing what to say when it comes to small talk. Saying so will not only make the person you're talking to instantly relax and laugh that you are easy going enough to actually say it, and will inevitably lead to one of you sharing a funny anecdote about an awkward or quirky bit of small talk you once experienced or have heard of. Before you know it, there are 3 other people who couldn't help noticing the easy banter going on in your corner of the conference room and are now all sharing their own little tid bit. I have to say, Chis, you just went from ice breaker to party maker by just being yourself and tellin it like it is. Awsome! That is a really neat take on that, haha! Never considered myself a "party maker" before. You have opened my eyes! I have to make a lot of small talk and have found you can break the ice with just about anything at all that's non-political or religious. But the more simple and relatable the subject matter is, the more others will join in. The more the merrier, cause the pressure is now off you.

ChrisM81 Joined Tue 04/09/13 Posts: 37	Wed 04/24/13 09:37 PM
You are completely on point. I always make a point of avoiding political or religious talk unless I am really close to someone. Even then you may find out something you don't like. I'm good if the person has similar interests, but being that I'm an engineer, some would classify me as a 'nerd' and its sometimes daunting bringing up topics I'm interested in. You never want to fall flat on your face.

pkirk1225 Joined Wed 09/07/11 Posts: 72	Wed 04/24/13 09:44 PM
Serial killers. This is why "They" lock me here in this room and tell me "See? See why we can't let you have nice things?" No, but honestly...It doesn't matter what I break the ice with as soon as the question of "What do you like to do?" is followed by the answer "I like to study serial killers." Well, I mean, it doesn't typically go too far past that point.

Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Wed 04/24/13 11:11 PM
Serial killers. This is why "They" lock me here in this room and tell me "See? See why we can't let you have nice things?" No, but honestly...It doesn't matter what I break the ice with as soon as the question of "What do you like to do?" is followed by the answer "I like to study serial killers." Well, I mean, it doesn't typically go too far past that point. I had a friend once that whenever he saw a dead bird, he would pick it up and give it a proper burial or cremate it. He lost some girlfriends over that. He also liked to hurt people emotionally; he said it gave him a kick; we both used to place fake obituaries in papers of people who we didn't like, especially at work. We uses to make lists of people who had either hurt us, judged us or angered us and other things. The lists once had over two hundred names on them. The hit lists were for alleviation...but the hate was real. We were 15 or so at the time. We did all sorts of things together, but the one thing that I stopped was going with him to the hardware store because he would roam up and down isles fantasizing over the different tools to kill people with; 15 minutes at least always in the hammer section. Different strokes as they say. He went on seven tours during the Vietnam war and was arrested for sending his mother ears...he later became a grief counselor...go figure. two questions 1 Is he married? 2 If not do you happen to have his phone number?