This is something that I have a hard time wrapping my head around. This has happened to many people.

The part I have a hard time understanding, If you truly love someone, How can you get bored with that person? It sounds like an excuse to me.

Just because you get bored doesn't mean that you stop loving that person. It also sounds like a communication gap to me.

The way I was raised,When you marry, She's not only your lover,She is also your best friend. What do best friends do when they get bored? They talk to each other. When you talk you open doors. Doors that keep your relationship alive. I don't know your situation. None of my business I guess. All I know is myself, Me, If I did get bored the first person I'm going to talk to about it is my "best friend". I really think that's key, the way it's supposed to be. That's how we stay together.

I'm traditional and very much a home body. He greatly enjoyed having the creature comforts of a well run home and a willing partner in bed. Yes we were best friends. We had jello fights, shower sex, long summer evenings together on the porch with beer/tea and the dog, good friends who would come over for nights of music and laughter, life was sweet and good. Oh...it was sweet.
But he became involved with a group of friends at work and the men were all single, and they habitually went out weekend nights...it was a 'boy thing' and I was happy that he had made friends. I started worrying when he would 'sleep over' at a friend's home after hard nights of drinking...it was so unlike him. He became distant and I attributed that to stress at work.
You're right...it was a communication issue I guess. Next thing I know, he left for good with a wildly crazy, sexy woman who was so opposite of me. I couldn't compete with what she had to offer...excitement, I guess.
Yes, true passion exists, but it lives where there is honesty, where there is grace, where there is mutual respect. It thrives on simple pleasures, such as watching the sun rise in the morning, or watching a loved one sleep. It grows where there is a turning to each other in both times of joy and times of grief. It blooms and gives off its heady fragrance where there is a desire to be happy together, and not separately.

We may all define it differently, but to me true passion goes far beyond physical passion or even deeply devoted love...it encompasses both, but depends on neither...it's a soulful connection that love and attraction only compliment all the more.

Nicely put. I hope you find it next time. I like to think those that come before only served to prepare us to better recognize and appreciate what is to come.

So, here's to next time!

I think aside from communication problems causing break ups, not being too bothered about or not knowing how to liven things up, in the relationship, is the other major cause for break ups and divorce.

Beautiful. You have summed up what I am searching for.

I have a couple with whom I am friends. They've been together for going on thirty years, I think, and married for most of that time. Yet watching them together would make one think they had just fallen in love last week. If you talk to one of them and mention the other, you can see the stars in their eyes. If one of them is in a room and the other walks in, you can see them just light up when they see each other.

They hold hands in public. They touch as though each of them thinks of the other as being the most precious thing in the universe, save perhaps for their teenaged daughter whom they love more than life itself. And even she thinks her parents are adorable in their affection for each other. (I think she's incredibly fortunate to have such a good model for relationships.)

They support each other utterly, and without reservation. They are fully partnered in all aspects of life, and move in such harmony that it is a joy to behold.

In short, these two have what is obviously a deep and abiding passion for each other, and it shows in even the most mundane of settings. Seeing what they have and comparing it to my own dissolving marriage at the time was difficult, but it helped me to realize what I want and to know that such a thing does exist in the world. Now that I'm single, I hold onto hope that someday I will find the same kind of passion my two friends have, and that if I am fortunate enough to do so, I will treasure it and be able to hold onto it.

Even if someone never wants a relationship ever again, it's just nice to have happy memories of the good one's. All too often, I hear "I wish I would have married ? Instead of ?", mainly from friends. Some will always regret that one who got away, but they can't expect their "one who got away" to just suddenly come running back, when they have a new bf/gf.

Gramma always said.. "Don't marry the one you can live with, Marry the one you can't live without."

Hum, I can tell you this much. Their will come a day when he will look back at what he had and wish he had never gave it up. I'm speaking from experience. You see, That kind of woman excites a man. Really makes his thang go twang. Heat between the sheets. But, It doesn't last forever. Somewhere along the way that life style will get old to. So will she. I don't mean in age, I mean her ways. Eventually, what excited him about her will start grating on his nerves. Especially the wild side of her. If he isn't careful that wild side of her "might" get him hurt. That kind of woman attracts many men. It's very possible that one day another man will come along that excites her more than your X did or does now. That can turn into a really bad situation. Somebody could get hurt really badly.

That kinda wild woman comes a dime a dozen. The kind of woman that you can rely on to be there through all the good and the bad, The kind of woman who will love you till the day you die, The kind of woman who wouldn't hurt you or get you hurt for anything in the world, Just those things are getting harder and harder to find in this world. Anyone who throws it away now, Has to be an unworthy fool.

Smart woman!