An old guy named Ray picked me up yesterday and we went to install a toilet in this woman's house. It was a run down house and when I walked in I knew right away that it was a single mom. There were toys everywhere, unpacked boxes, a general sense of disorder. Ray told me she just got a job and had just bought the house. Ray is much older than me (87) and I told him I would handle all the heavy stuff—he could sit and supervise. He seemed to like this idea, so he sat on the edge of the tub and talked to me while I was installing the toilet. He told me that he had come to this house and helped put in the floor in the bathroom, because there had been significant water damage. I couldn't help wonder the plight a lot of single mothers have; the man is gone and this has placed them in a role they were never meant to fill alone.

I've known a lot of single moms. Most of them seem to handle this without any problems, but deep down I'm sure they wish they didn't have to. I wish they didn't have to, either. Having to handle the load by themselves has desensitized a lot of single moms; by necessity they've had to become tough, independent and fill the shoes of the missing male. As I was laying on the floor of this single mom's bathroom, installing her toilet, I couldn't help wondering how bad her divorce was and how it had effected what she now thought of all men. There is a growing epidemic of this sort of thing in our country today and I can't help thinking it's all just a set up for what is to come.

What a better way to wreck the family than to separate the man and the woman and have them reverse the roles, with the man being the bad guy. It's an ingenious plan, because the man is the head, and isn't that a typical plan of attack—destroy the head, and the Body will die.

Makes you wonder, doesn't it?

Any man that is a true "head" knows that God should be his head. If men would put God first, then maybe their wife would not find themself a single parent.

makes perfect sense,, very insightful

there is a balnance to life, there is work and reward and action and consequence,,, and we have worked so hard to make rewards more immediate and work less difficult and actions less likely to have consequences we dont like

that our balance is thrown,,,,and in our families, we work so hard to all be 'individuals' that the balance of the famly unit is thrown as well,,,

its very sad to me to see all the fatherless children (including my own) in this country, and the continued trend of denying the significance of the family unit, the mother and father in a childs life, and the individual roles of a family that should work TOGETHER to complete and help the unit run the way it was designed,,,