In by books, a practising Christian would not consider having sex before marriage as acceptable. You cannot follow some laws of Christianity, ignore others and call yourself a believer.

Respectfully I disagree.

Just because you are a Christian doesn't mean that you don't struggle with the same temptations as everyone else.

My pastor made a statement that was so profound to me, he said,'the moment that you believe that you are not in a battle you become vulnerable' and 'your last swing in the fight comes with your last breath.'

Christianity doesn't mean perfection and that you don't mess up. I'm a believer, and I'm not perfect, not near it and I'm going to mess up. Being a believer doesn't stop that. But being a believer means that I don't give up on God because He will never give up on me.

According to me, sex between two people who have the commitment, trust, understanding and love is alright regardless of whether they're married or unmarried.

Amen to that :)




Yes, we do struggle every day with sin, but that doesn't mean we should give in to lusts and temptations just because we are human.

"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

We may have temptations, lusts and all manner of fleshly woes, but we who are saved have been given the mind of Christ and the Spirit who intercedes on our behalf with the Father. With these blessings and His strength we can overcome anything—if we chose to do so.

The bible is pretty clear on what fornication is, but still people (even professing believers) can and will do what they want. That is their choice and they alone have to answer to God for those choices. Just because we are human doesn't mean we should do as humans do—Jesus calls us out to walk separately from the world, so we can be an example—a Light—among men.

Kind of hard to shine like a Light if you're behaving just like the rest of the world.

AMEN!

The Word of God is very clear that sex outside of marraige is not ok. God designed FAMILY. As members of the Body of Christ, we are to be holy, as He is holy.
A quick testimony to the divine plans of God in our lives.
WAIT FOR HIS MATE FOR YOU. Be sexually pure when you meet them. They will ask you how sexually active you have been or whether you choose abstinance. To profess abstinance gives them faith and trust in you. They shall know you have proved yourself to have self control and you will be a faithful spouse to them. It is better to not have to hang your head in shame.
As a widow, I wanted the man God choose for me. It was imperative that my mate fitted perfectly with me, because I am called to leadership in the Church. We each have our ministry, our mate can hinder or support us.
I began dreaming of my husband 14 years ago. God showed me dreams of us in leadership. He told me a lot of information about my husband to be. When I met him on this site, he was unsaved, lost and hungry for rightousness. God was already preparing him for when our paths would meet.
I always thought I would marry a man who had been a christian for years. From the outset my husband and I fitted perfectly. I talked to God constantly about him and He told me he was the one I had been waiting for. He quickly became saved.
As a couple we abstained till we were married. This is Gods plan, he asks us to be faithful to him and ourselves, so He can outwork the bringing of your future mate to you.
He may want to do some maturing, some healing etc in either one of you. But His timing and choice for you will be perfect. The fruit of abstinance yields godly companionship, security of belonging, family and real peace.

God's view on this is quite clear.....No sex before marriage....it cannot be side stepped....if one is going to become a christian then then that person must and by all meant try to live up to all the teachings of the Bible and that includes no fornication....

true

Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. As obedient children, do not comform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy. (I Peter 1:13-16) niv

Exactly. There is a nice passage in Galatians about this:

God's Spirit and Our Own Desires

If you are guided by the Spirit, you won't obey your selfish desires. The Spirit and your desires are enemies of each other. They are always fighting each other and keeping you from doing what you feel you should. But if you obey the Spirit, the Law of Moses has no control over you.
People's desires make them give in to immoral ways, filthy thoughts, and shameful deeds. They worship idols, practice witchcraft, hate others, and are hard to get along with. People become jealous, angry, and selfish. They not only argue and cause trouble, but they are envious. They get drunk, carry on at wild parties, and do other evil things as well. I told you before, and I am telling you again: No one who does these things will share in the blessings of God's kingdom.
God's Spirit makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. There is no law against behaving in any of these ways. And because we belong to Christ Jesus, we have killed our selfish feelings and desires. God's Spirit has given us life, and so we should follow the Spirit. But don't be conceited or make others jealous by claiming to be better than they are. (Galatians 5:16-26)

The scripture is very clear about this issue,sex outside marriage is a sin, worse still every other sin is done outside the body but sex before marriage is done in the body and our body is meant to be the temple of the Holy Spirit and any one who defiles that temple will not be innocent before God. Sex is a commitment and should not be done indiscriminately. Lastly all adulterers, sexually perverse and fornicator will have his part in the lake of fire that burns with fire and brimstone. If you are guilty of such sin, repent now because God is merciful but his merciful nature should nnot be taken for granted.

"I Am His"

My beloved is mine, and I am his.
(Song of Solomon 2:16)

Marriage makes us stronger; together we are more than we could ever be alone. Where once there were two, now there is one.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

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Following Gods ways as a human race is pretty much the hardest thing for us to do. There is that point when we must say to ourselves faith is what we must have, and the fact that mainly we all lose that faith sometimes knowing sex before being wed is a sin. At the end of the day We have a choice to make...And that is between whom you are and the Lord.

The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. First Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.

im brand new here, but glad i found this community.

Folks, I am not one who has had a perfect Christian walk when it comes to sex outside of marriage.

I learned the hard way that the flesh will make excuses for sex outside of marriage, and we Christian are still creatures of flesh even though we are born again.

I have noticed professed Christians admitting to having a personal struggle with sexual sin. They admit that their flesh wants that kind of sin. In short, they reflect what the Apostle Paul says in Romans 7 about his own personal struggle with sin.

Sadly, I have also noticed professed Christians acting as if there is nothing wrong with them having sex outside of marriage. I know of a case in which a professed Christian wants to create his/her own definition of marriage in order to justify his/her desire to have sex with someone to whom he/she is not legally married.

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