how many people value substance in a person? i've noticed that people
fall for the "image" they try to portray alot instead of seeing past the
bullshit and peeping out who the real person is.

be honest and let me know how important it is too you that a person just
put on a good front in public if they are not that person.

i hate when people do that i want them to act in public how they would
normally act anywhere else. if they act different in public they must
have something to hide. if u want people to like u for who u are u can't
play different people u just need to be yourself all the time!

I don,t understand, do you mean posers?

kinda o. basically i'm sayin what is more important to you, a bad person
with a good image or a good person with a bad image?

i pretty much know what most of the answers will be but i have met a lot
of people who think it is more important for them to have a good image
rather than actually be good. the type that i am talking about would
not actually say this though....i was just interested in hearing what
people had to say.

I wonder if those who carry on this "good image" know that most of us
can see right through it. Are they that fooled by the image themselves?

i don't think they do know poet but not everyone can see through it.
it's a trip watchin that shit go on sometimes.

The sad fact of this is that there are far more of the good image/bad
person out there than there are bad image/good persons

Well, like my grandpa used to say... some people call me satin, some
call me a saint... and on any giving day, their both right.
But he was drunk most of the time.

and puppies have fun on ferris wheels but it don't mean they want to
lick the gum off the seats. lol


i'm not talking about the natural variances and moods that people go
through though

Well no one should judge others because we are not perfect. We

what does that have to do with the thread? just asking.

I think that more people should worry about character than
reputation...but then most people don't know the difference:

character is who you really are and reputation is just what people think
you are...

Just be who you are,,,th rest falls in line...M.

I agree with michael, I be myself,
I know some people here know when you are being
yourself and when you are trying to be someone you
wish to be, or trying to impress someone
it is so important to be youself in public or in private

i agree with you morena. i understand the reasons they give for putting
on a front but i don't understand why they do it. the person is going to
find out sooner or later so why do it in the first place.

what brought this question on??? very good one!!!
i can't stand peopl like that. one of my ex boyfriends was like that.
he'd be all poty mouthed and talk like he was some sex god when infact
he was still a virgin. he tried to be someone he wasn't. i brought it to
his attention but he didn't want to hear. i broke up wit him shortly
after that. i had asked him, how am supposed to know who you really are
and sometime down the line if we did decide to get married which one of
his personalities would i be marring. i needed someone to be steady as i
was. i don't give a shit what people think. in the bible, i think it's
in matthew is says that we shouldn't try to get the splinter out of
someone elses eye b4 we get the 2x4 out of ours. good advice and i try
to follow it the best as i can, but i am only human just as any one
else..

nothing in particular brought the question to my attention, just that it
is a concern with people and this is a forum so i wanted to hear peoples
opinions about it. i know people on both sides of the question and i
think there is so much worry from people about it that sometimes some
people put too much into it.
i like people who have something to them and when it is not only present
when other people are around.
i have different sides to my personality and if i don't act the same
way for every occassion some people try to say that i'm being fake or
putting on a front but the truth is i just feel different about the
situation.

i found out it does not matter what the person sayes to you! it may be
hurtful but in the long run in is in best intrest not to take it to
heart