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there's a bar? Jack on ice pls 
I think I'll join ya!
K, but the gloves stay home cupcake...lol 
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Idk if I really say 2 myself ok i have to raise the bar but after a relationship of any kind is over I do reflect I do too...maybe we don't want to repeat the same mistakes....take on the responsibility of our part in it |
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Oh,the bar goes up alright!!
I want to be treated better! Be loved more! Appreciated more! Be together more! I know what i'd give back,so,i expect the same-not just me bedning over backwards!!! That or not at all!! I've found that,as i get older,i dont mind my own company.....so,the choice i make has to be a much better choice than my last; pickier,maybe that the right word!? |
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I wouldn't date someone I didn't have chemistry with. Is that what you meant? Kind of....more like less chemistry than what you've experienced in other relationships. Oh, that's an interesting spin...sure, since I think chemistry can grow stronger. Ive had relationships that had more respect from the partner than others, and ones with more passion than others, but ultimately I value the respect side more than the passion side. I want deep lifelong friendship, so if there is any chemistry and the friendship develops then the deeper attraction will follow. That's a nice outlook. I like that. 
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Idk if I really say 2 myself ok i have to raise the bar but after a relationship of any kind is over I do reflect I think my reflection is usually what makes me raise the bar higher. It's like...this didn't work for me...I want more than that one had to offer. 
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Oh,the bar goes up alright!! I want to be treated better! Be loved more! Appreciated more! Be together more! I know what i'd give back,so,i expect the same-not just me bedning over backwards!!! That or not at all!! I've found that,as i get older,i dont mind my own company.....so,the choice i make has to be a much better choice than my last; pickier,maybe that the right word!? I'm with you. I'd rather have nothing than settle for less than I feel I deserve from a relationship. I won't be with someone just so I'm not lonely.
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there's a bar? Jack on ice pls
I think I'll join ya!
K, but the gloves stay home cupcake...lol
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I view each relationship as a learning experiance. I learn what works and what dosent and i use that to adjust the bar.
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Edited by
Traumer
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Sun 03/24/13 11:24 AM
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Do you raise the bar every time you chose a new person to date? If so how so...if not so how so also? 
I don't know why, but I found that funny. I like to call it "getting more picky." Maybe I should have said Upgrading, but it sounds a bit like trading in a used car for a newer model.
Well, isn't that precisely what most of us do regardless of what euphemism we may call it. We all know that this entire society that we all live in, that we are all disposable; little or no deposit and no return. I despise it and will not treat a female as 'disposable' and yet, I have adjusted myself to be so treated and have been; it's nearly pointless to try and retain any sense of being considered 'romantic' but that is, has been my nature. And despite all the horrible things that I have seen and have had to do in Life, I do prefer it to just being some artificial creature that belongs in Huxley's Brave New World; totally amoral. Listen to our current language of choice; we speak in euphemisms because of convenience and it somehow avoids the stark and brutal nature of our existence as 'disposable items'. Is it any wonder that any of us even come close to finding that 'something' we should recognize as Love; one that is both compatible and complimentary to both parties...our modern 'societal instincts' now automatically kicks in and we reject anyone/ everyone for being possibly compatible; possible companions and certainly mates and grudgingly accept most anyone for whatever bestial urges we may be overheated with at any given moment and then send ourselves on our separate ways. I find this so called, much touted modern society inherently and totally disgusting in my heart of heart but I have made my adjustments to deal with it, as unsavoury as I find it, and with most people that swim around in this cesspool of hypocrisies. Apologies for this bit of being honest for a change. |
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Do you raise the bar every time you chose a new person to date? If so how so...if not so how so also?
I'm still trying to find the first person to date. Maybe my bar is low, so it must be me? |
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I have a simple taste, I'm satisfied by the best.
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