huh?

hey txsgal, i learned the same thing in AA lol

You said if it weren't for the kids, you and the dad probably wouldn't
talk. You mentioned trust issues with the second. Leave them both alone
and let your self heal.

Quote "Well, instead of having one drink a day... what if you have 7
drinks in
2 hours, and none for the rest of the week... are you still a
alcoholic?"

LMAO @ you

that depends on your tolerance for alcohol
and how bad you are waiting for the next week thinking about those 7
drinks.

are you and alcoholic then?
that is the question

Hazeleye, You will allways feel the way you feel about them. There is
nuthing wrong with that. But on the part that makes you feel
uncomfortable with both of them is what you should be paying attention
to. What It sounds like to me Is you don't want to let somethings go. I
was married to someone kind a like J. Same thing I left her because she
wouldn't change and the one thing I know in life is the only person that
you can change Is yourself. So if you are looking to change him by going
back. Not saying you are.But, your asking for trouble. Not from him but
from yourself.

I dont drink any more...






But... I don't drink any less either!


hahaha



No seriously, I think EFP summed up it well.

you're up late vanchau....



my favorite was i'm a drunk not an alcoholic...alcoholics go to
meetings. lol

One is too many a thousand is not enough.

from a youngen.... so take it with a grain of salt... but my mother
always said... you left for a reason and when u go back you gonna leave
for the same reason OR a bigger reason...so why go back? i no how u
feel i have a son. and not with him now.. there is that love BUT not the
love that should be. i left it alone and i'm single and very proud even
after a break up about a week ago.. there will always be that love and
it wont go away... but THE love isn't there.... do what ur heart tells
you... u might even have to try to get back with him just to get it out
of ur system... but Hey we all make misstakes and we learn from them...
well i thought i would put my 2 cents in... and again i'm 19... i'm
still a pup and in da dog house.. but yeah take it with a grain of
salt....

i just reread my post and well im not with his father.. i'm with my
son... prob would of confused a few there but i figured i would fix my
mess up...

Thx to all of you for your thoughts and advice.

I'm not at all making excuses for J but all truth be told. He has
changed since I left. He doesn't drink as often. He has his beer every
now and then just like I/we all do but it's not like before. He doesn't
hang out with the old friends. It's like that saying we all know too
well, "you don't know what you've got til it's gone". Well he says he
woke up when I left. I believe him. Maybe I shouldn't but I do. I agree
with a lot of what y'all said. Especially EFP who pretty much summed it
up to the T like TxGal said. : )

I can't see myself going back and forth with P although the passion that
I was always looking for was there. Passion fades right. Once that does,
there better be something there to back it up. Well there wasn't
unfortunately. He just messed up with me too many times for me to keep
wanting more. I don't think of him as much as I used to and find it
easier not to so I feel I'm moving on in some ways.

It sucks living in a small town. It really does. You can't get away from
the people you wanna get away from...lol. Which is why I'm glad I'm
moving back home in a few months. I'm sure there I can start a new
life....single?

Anyway, thx again.

Maybe you should come back to Cali

That is the plan Ontario. I should be back in my homestate by next
summer. I'm waiting for my son to finish this year off.

Where... L.A, the O.C.