We've been separated for over a year now. I still love her. We were together for 3 years. What I'm wondering is, have I not given it enough time? Or is it because of the bond we share since we had kids together? I feel the same way about her as I did when we were together. She'll say she just wants to be friends one day, then say she wants to keep our lives separated so we'll stop talking. Then she'll pull the whole I miss you thing but go back to saying she just wants to be friends. Maybe I'm just taking it all the wrong way. But I kinda feel like she just enjoys throwing curve balls at me if that makes sense. I fall for it everytime but I put up with it because I wanna have a family with her. I dont know if I should play her "games" or just not talk to her unless its about our kids.

My advice; stop playing the game by her rules, make her decide one way or the other.
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This doesnt sound like a genuine relationship to me....
Why would you allow yourself to be toyed with,played with and used like that when things are not well for her somewhere else??
And again,this does sound like a bit of dependence or something like that...... Look IN yourself,see whats amiss and sort it out!
I read your profile sometime back when you asked to be rated,so,it means,you are on here to find some one.......Why not Choose/decide what you really and trully want and stick with that? Its up to you-your choice!
Goodluck!

After a year of being seperated . . Sorry sweetie but if she really wanted to be with you . .she already would be. Time to put on your big boy pants and move on. You need to find a healthy relationship not someone who plays games. All the stupid games are gonna do is get you and your kids hurt. So talk to her and set some bounderies. And move on. Good luck.

Thank you all. I just needed reassurance.

Sounds like she wants her space for some reason, she does not want to be together just friends or date every now and then. Not sure what the problem is, it maybe she is just loosing interest in You.

It's simply called playing 'Hot & Cold'. She knows exactly where she wants you to be... never too close but never too far away. Yes, you obviously do still have feelings for her, maybe deeper than even you realise... you have to understand that she's not reciprocating (returning) your feelings. She knows you've got them. She can see how you act around her when she plays those heart strings of yours up & down anyway she feel's like it. Your ex-partner would've made a more concerted effort to get you back into her life. Getting angry won't help. Point scoring trying to get revenge won't help either. Concentrate on your life & learning to let go of your once happy relationship. Bouncing you like a ball is just her playing with your feelings. Time to stop. When she realises that you're moving on - she'll start treating you with a little more respect?