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Topic: Muslim/Christian Relatioship?
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Wed 03/13/13 08:40 PM
So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?

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Wed 03/13/13 09:03 PM

So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?


Yes, there is a valid reason for her to not marry you and to not date you.

In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Apostle Paul writes, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." (ESV)

Your ex-girlfriend did you wrong by leading you to believe that her faith permitted an interfaith marriage. She owes you an apology, because by dating you, she prevented you from dating a woman who was spiritually compatible with you.

I am terribly sorry that you ended up in this situation. The fault is with your ex-girlfriend, not with you.


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Wed 03/13/13 09:23 PM

So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?



it depends, its more about the details of the belief than the religious label

I dont see how someone believing christ is not the son of god could have a family with someone who believed there was, I do think those intending to be parents need to be on the same page about which values to instill in their children

if children were not in the picture more 'liberal' christians may be able to overlook it and just pray for the partner who is unbelieving

but its best to not be unevenly yoked, not saying it cant work, but saying it increases the obstacles unnecsessarily

in hindsight, it was kind of her to let the relationship go once she realized the difference instead of trying to fake or force it,,,,

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Wed 03/13/13 09:44 PM
This whole "equally yoked" concept and argument is just as bad as racism.


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Wed 03/13/13 09:46 PM

This whole "equally yoked" concept and argument is just as bad as racism.




all depends upon how one interprets it

being compatible is important, it probably has little to do with RACE, but may have more relevance to culture, or values,,,etc,,,

ESPECIALLY, if there are going to be children raised together,,,,

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Wed 03/13/13 09:57 PM
Edited by MsDez2U on Wed 03/13/13 10:03 PM
I once dated a guy that was Buddhist and our differnet beliefs got in the way of us continuing to date. Children would have never been involved in our relationship. My problem with him was him wanting to impose his beliefs on me and others and bashing me and others about what we believe.

I know two couples that have marriages with different religions that have been married for over 20 years. In one instance, the wife that took on a husband that was Muslim. She soon converted from Christianity to being Muslim and they raised their children as such. When asked about the beliefs in the other case, they simply did not force each other to belief what they believed and loved each other unconditionally, but they also didn't have children and their religions are Christian and Jewish.

Both of you'll should have discussed this in the beginning and not let this go on without an understanding of how your household would handle this difference. This is just my opinion, so please don't take this personal. Muslims have strong beliefs when it comes to the standards in which they want their wive's to uphold. This may have become too overwhelming for her and she belled out to save herself from feeling she needed to be in compliance with your religion. IJS

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Wed 03/13/13 10:40 PM


So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?


Yes, there is a valid reason for her to not marry you and to not date you.

In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Apostle Paul writes, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." (ESV)

Your ex-girlfriend did you wrong by leading you to believe that her faith permitted an interfaith marriage. She owes you an apology, because by dating you, she prevented you from dating a woman who was spiritually compatible with you.

I am terribly sorry that you ended up in this situation. The fault is with your ex-girlfriend, not with you.




Thanks for the wise words my friend. I've been pondering over this a lot recently and it was her fault not mine as I told her I would respect and value her beliefs and never impose anything on her as I believe in free will and learning through knowledge, experience and love. Yes I do feel as if the time I spent with her was wasted. 2 whole years and nothing to show for it but sorrow and misery. I'm sure i'll get over it in a while. Again thank you and God bless you and yours.

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Wed 03/13/13 10:42 PM
Edited by SonnyA89 on Wed 03/13/13 10:47 PM


So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?



it depends, its more about the details of the belief than the religious label

I dont see how someone believing christ is not the son of god could have a family with someone who believed there was, I do think those intending to be parents need to be on the same page about which values to instill in their children

if children were not in the picture more 'liberal' christians may be able to overlook it and just pray for the partner who is unbelieving

but its best to not be unevenly yoked, not saying it cant work, but saying it increases the obstacles unnecsessarily

in hindsight, it was kind of her to let the relationship go once she realized the difference instead of trying to fake or force it,,,,


Yes I have started to realize that now. The pain of seeing my children not following the same path as me would be devastating and she made the right decision by leaving. The only reason I continued the relationship was because she showed signs of wanting to change and convert for me but I guess in the end, promises are meant to be broken, I have love for all religions and faiths and I believe that interfaith marriages can work but only when both parties are willing to sacrifice for the greater cause. This was not that. Thank you for the input. May God bless you and yours.

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Wed 03/13/13 10:46 PM

I once dated a guy that was Buddhist and our differnet beliefs got in the way of us continuing to date. Children would have never been involved in our relationship. My problem with him was him wanting to impose his beliefs on me and others and bashing me and others about what we believe.

I know two couples that have marriages with different religions that have been married for over 20 years. In one instance, the wife that took on a husband that was Muslim. She soon converted from Christianity to being Muslim and they raised their children as such. When asked about the beliefs in the other case, they simply did not force each other to belief what they believed and loved each other unconditionally, but they also didn't have children and their religions are Christian and Jewish.

Both of you'll should have discussed this in the beginning and not let this go on without an understanding of how your household would handle this difference. This is just my opinion, so please don't take this personal. Muslims have strong beliefs when it comes to the standards in which they want their wive's to uphold. This may have become too overwhelming for her and she belled out to save herself from feeling she needed to be in compliance with your religion. IJS


You are absolutely correct. However, we did talk about our future, a lot in fact and in the end it was her who did not have the heart to continue it. True love is supposed to triumph over anything and everything. Perhaps she did not love me the way I loved her and this is why it did not work out. I'm starting to believe that it is in fact true love and devotion that can make an interfaith relationship/marriage work. Thank you for your insight. May God bless you and yours.

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Thu 03/14/13 06:16 AM

This whole "equally yoked" concept and argument is just as bad as racism.


That is your opinion, and I disagree with it.

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Thu 03/14/13 07:22 AM
Edited by Conrad_73 on Thu 03/14/13 07:30 AM
Dhimmi-Status of anyone not Muslim and a possible conversion to Islam ought to be enough of a turnoff!

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Thu 03/14/13 04:32 PM

Dhimmi-Status of anyone not Muslim and a possible conversion to Islam ought to be enough of a turnoff!


Why do you say that? Perhaps you have just met the wrong Muslims and been watching to much CNN. I am for humanity, love and understanding. I partake in charity events and fundraisers for my community. I'm looking for a better world. Please do not let the actions of some affect your judgement on the rest. If I were to find another Christian woman and marry her I would let her practice her faith without any interference. Understanding and sacrifice are forms of love. :) Hope your day is going well.

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Thu 03/14/13 06:59 PM


This whole "equally yoked" concept and argument is just as bad as racism.


That is your opinion, and I disagree with it.


Of course you do... It was your quote that inspired me to write what I did.

You ignore the parable of the good Sumaritan, the Roman centurian having more faith than the Apostles, the fact the Yeshua came for the sinners, Romans 2 (no Jew nor Gentile etc.) and of course, 1 Corinthians 7:14...

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Fri 03/15/13 12:34 PM
Yes, it is a valid reason for her to dump you.
If this is very important to her to have a man of her Faith.
Some interfaith marriages do work for some people.

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Fri 03/15/13 12:36 PM

So I was with this wonderful Christian girl and we were together 2 years. Suddenly out the blue a midst all the talk about us moving in and getting married she dumps me because I don't believe Jesus is the son of God. Is this a valid reason for her to dump me?

What do you guys think? Could interfaith marriages work?


your faith doesn't allow it... why would you question someone else's faith?

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Fri 03/15/13 12:37 PM
It is both of your faults, you should of known each other better so you wouldn't waste two years.

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Fri 03/15/13 01:49 PM


Dhimmi-Status of anyone not Muslim and a possible conversion to Islam ought to be enough of a turnoff!


Why do you say that? Perhaps you have just met the wrong Muslims and been watching to much CNN. I am for humanity, love and understanding. I partake in charity events and fundraisers for my community. I'm looking for a better world. Please do not let the actions of some affect your judgement on the rest. If I were to find another Christian woman and marry her I would let her practice her faith without any interference. Understanding and sacrifice are forms of love. :) Hope your day is going well.


thats good to hear, it means you have an open mind, which is very good in this day and age... but you shouldn't change your core beliefs for anyone, and she shouldn't either... but i think it is possible, but would be really hard for both of you... but good luck, i hope you find what your looking for
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Tue 03/19/13 02:11 PM
Its good u guys are not together any more. Christian God loves jews. Muslim god hates jews. So what do u teach ur kids? In the long run children are more confused.The bible and quran has too many differences. Even though ppl wants us to believe we all serve the same God. Its better if you marry a muslim woman who will love you and serve Allah with you. Then you know your kids will grow up in a healthy stable religeous home where you don't worship two "gods"

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Tue 03/19/13 02:24 PM


Dhimmi-Status of anyone not Muslim and a possible conversion to Islam ought to be enough of a turnoff!


Why do you say that? Perhaps you have just met the wrong Muslims and been watching to much CNN. I am for humanity, love and understanding. I partake in charity events and fundraisers for my community. I'm looking for a better world. Please do not let the actions of some affect your judgement on the rest. If I were to find another Christian woman and marry her I would let her practice her faith without any interference. Understanding and sacrifice are forms of love. :) Hope your day is going well.
Read the Book!
Check past and present usages!

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Tue 03/19/13 03:56 PM
Edited by willing2 on Tue 03/19/13 03:58 PM


Dhimmi-Status of anyone not Muslim and a possible conversion to Islam ought to be enough of a turnoff!


Why do you say that? Perhaps you have just met the wrong Muslims and been watching to much CNN. I am for humanity, love and understanding. I partake in charity events and fundraisers for my community. I'm looking for a better world. Please do not let the actions of some affect your judgement on the rest. If I were to find another Christian woman and marry her I would let her practice her faith without any interference. Understanding and sacrifice are forms of love. :) Hope your day is going well.

You say some.laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

As in, how many millions, possibly billions of Muslims persecute and kill christians?

She is better off not settling for being treated as less tan a goat.

Perhaps, if you really wanted this woman, you'd give up the muslim life.

Sum-*****. Blowing fire at a deactivated account.laugh laugh slaphead

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