Agree. Ego sometimes are good in a way depends upon how you use it. If you have nothing left dont make this slip away from you because sometimes this is your stepping stone on surviving in this world.

I know when a guy is joking about it, and when he's not. Luckily. . A huge ego is a huge turn-off for me. Self-Confidence I like, but that isn't what a "bragger" behaves like. They are two complete opposites. Sometimes the advice from friends, doesn't add up, so I prefer to listen to my gut. As if suddenly going to some nightclub and picking up a stranger to sleep with would ever make me feel better ;)

I think everyone suffers some degree of insecurity at different times and for different reasons throughout the course of their life, I think it is only normal (human)...If someone told me they never felt insecure about anything I would call BS...The problems caused by insecurity arise when we allow those negative feelings to control our day to day living.....For me, being aware of my feelings and what is driving them is the first step to overcoming insecurity....

I'll pass on "pick-ups" in bars too...All the "old-school" stuff seems weird to me. (Where women are suppose to build-up and "stroke" a man's ego.)...And I guess men flatter women about their "looks." (Or their sexiness or ?)...Guess it's all part of the "mating game."...But it can lead to problems if it all "stops" after a couple gets married and settles into "real life.".. Don't you think?

Good post...I feel sad and sorry for people who feel compelled to "hide" and "deny" their insecurities all the time...Instead of trying to "cover" things "up" they could use their time and energy to "work" on "fixing" their insecurities. (In practical and constructive ways.) Or at least come to terms with their so-called strengths and weaknesses. Don't you think?...We all have natural born skills and talents (or interests) that make it easier for us to excel in certain areas. Don't you think?...This isn't saying we can't do "well" in other areas with practice. But it might take longer for us to learn and "master" other skills... This is how I view all of it anyway. It sounds like you realize this too.

Yes :) I think it's all too easy for some to almost act like they are the almighty. A pride thing. If no-one is there, to one day tell him/her how selfish they're really being, then the egotistical narcissist might think it's acceptable and normal. I just think some need taking down a peg or two. Even people in my own family, to be fair. Especially one of my sisters.

LEGO MY EGO !

Someone with a healthy ego admits when they're wrong and may back down even when they're right because it's not worth arguing over. They often assume insults are just jokes.

An unhealthy ego can't allow anyone to know he's made a mistake and will do almost anything to cover it. They also mistake complements for sarcasm.

I agree about the admitting or not admitting mistakes part, but I think unhealthy egos often mistake sarcasm for compliments because they are so enamored of themselves...Also think healthy egos have no problem deciphering the difference between insults and jokes...

Just my take on it...

I got a big ego and zero apologies for it.

I was raised by a kung fu disco biker who is still smooth with the ladies.

I got self confidence out the wazoo...got a big ego too....not to mention a penis I can Jack a car up with.

I have talent, etiquette,a monster vocabulary and a butt load of love to give.

No man has EVER made me bow.....

....yet you chicks somehow remind me that I am less of a man without a good woman to complete me.

Just be thankful that I am humble about the hugeness of my greatness.

:)

Well said ...For me, the next to the last line is what made it a great post

S'truth baby doll.

Honestly...my woman makes me whole.

....but don't let these flakes know.



......oh crap....I said that out loud didn't I?

Don't know who's luckier, you or the pretty one...Happiness babe...

One nice thing about egotists is that they don't talk about other people; they are me-deep in conversation...
we all know about most men's egos and how fragile they are: a woman gets excited and shouts out the wrong name and they go to pieces...
Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls stupidity.

Remember Seinfeld? Kramer Had a pretty healthy ego. George didn't.

Everyone on the show seemed a little "lost" when it came to understanding the opposite sex and/or relationships...But you're right...George seemed "clueless."...Kramer was off in his own "galaxy!" He didn't get "ruffled" very often.

Obviously...I am the lucky one..my girl has horrible taste in men....if she was more refined.....she wouldn't touch me with a 10 foot pole.

Thank GAWD you chicks suck at picking out your lovers

You skirts got wretched records.
Fortunately....I still was given a shot.

Best thing that has EVER happened in my miserable life....is my congressman

No doubt...you chicks definitely got some issues....but, who cares?

We all got issues...at least you gals are fine, fun, and humpworthy.

US dudes are just creepy.

C'este le vie.

People who have a healthy ego seem to "bounce back" easier when it comes to handling rejection and disappointments in life..They may "cry in their beer" and "get down" for awhile. (And process their feelings and "nurse" their "wounds" etc.)...But life's "upsets" don't permanently "damage them" or keep them "down" forever. (Compared to someone who has a fragile ego.)

I totally agree with you Claire!...Healthy egos feel no need to place blame or broadcast every detail of their relationship problems...They are more interested in looking inward to identify and correct their part in the rejection...