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Topic: Ego?
GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 11:31 AM
It's usually a put-down to say that someone has a "big ego.".. What does it mean to have a "small ego?"...What is your definition of having an "ego?"

lilott Joined Thu 10/12/06 Posts: 2295	Wed 02/27/13 12:10 PM
That idiot in the White House

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 02/27/13 12:12 PM
That idiot in the White House Get right to the point why don't cha? Someone who has an ego is never wrong is the best way I can describe it. And no matter what you've done, they've done better (in their mind as some things are impossible).

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 02/27/13 12:19 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence.

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Wed 02/27/13 12:45 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence. This^^^. Nice Answer.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 01:06 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence. Good post! I agree...And I think that people who come across as "all that" and arrogant probably have a lot of hidden insecurities. Don't you?...Secure people don't need to boast and brag and "pump" themselves "way up high."...This is how I feel anyway.. I'm all for "happy mediums" when it comes to ego's!...It's sad when people don't have very much confidence in themselves.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 01:10 PM
That idiot in the White House Get right to the point why don't cha? Someone who has an ego is never wrong is the best way I can describe it. And no matter what you've done, they've done better (in their mind as some things are impossible). Hard to be around big-time "know-it-alls!" And people who always insist they are "right!"

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 02/27/13 01:18 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence. Good post! I agree...And I think that people who come across as "all that" and arrogant probably have a lot of hidden insecurities. Don't you?...Secure people don't need to boast and brag and "pump" themselves "way up high."...This is how I feel anyway.. I'm all for "happy mediums" when it comes to ego's!...It's sad when people don't have very much confidence in themselves. Ooooo, two great postsGreeneyes and Cynda!! My definition of "ego" is this...Ego is normal and necessary... It is good because it is how we measure or compare ourselves to others as in creating good self esteem, self confidence, and strong self awareness... A small ego (not a good thing) could be a sign of low or poor self esteem or under valued self awareness and is often expressed as extreme shyness that follows a person into adulthood and comes across as a lack of self confidence... A big ego is defined as egotism, egocentricity, or being egocentric and is definitely not a good thing as it applies to a person who regards themselves as the center of all things they become involved in... Egocentric people have little regard for the interests or beliefs of others although it may appear just the opposite as they feign interest or naivety as a way of placing themselves at the center when ever the opportunity presents....Egocentric people place demands upon others for inordinate amounts of time and attention and transfer this forced attention into validation for their own sense of specialness or superiority...Some common "labels" for big ego might be self absorbed, self centered, self obsessed, egomaniac....

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 01:42 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence. Good post! I agree...And I think that people who come across as "all that" and arrogant probably have a lot of hidden insecurities. Don't you?...Secure people don't need to boast and brag and "pump" themselves "way up high."...This is how I feel anyway.. I'm all for "happy mediums" when it comes to ego's!...It's sad when people don't have very much confidence in themselves. Ooooo, two great postsGreeneyes and Cynda!! My definition of "ego" is this...Ego is normal and necessary... It is good because it is how we measure or compare ourselves to others as in creating good self esteem, self confidence, and strong self awareness... A small ego (not a good thing) could be a sign of low or poor self esteem or under valued self awareness and is often expressed as extreme shyness that follows a person into adulthood and comes across as a lack of self confidence... A big ego is defined as egotism, egocentricity, or being egocentric and is definitely not a good thing as it applies to a person who regards themselves as the center of all things they become involved in... Egocentric people have little regard for the interests or beliefs of others although it may appear just the opposite as they feign interest or naivety as a way of placing themselves at the center when ever the opportunity presents....Egocentric people place demands upon others for inordinate amounts of time and attention and transfer this forced attention into validation for their own sense of specialness or superiority...Some common "labels" for big ego might be self absorbed, self centered, self obsessed, egomaniac.... Great explanation! You know your "stuff!".. And I'm not just trying to "butter you up" either!...In regards to praise and flattery in the other thread I've probably been around too many people who "feign interest." (As you mentioned in your post.)...They toss out compliments left and right to "look good" and "bank" on getting a "big return!"

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Wed 02/27/13 01:47 PM
Very diva-type behaviour/demands/spoilt brat behaviour. I just don't get how some people can even be proud of being a diva. It means you making the whole world revolve around you. I can imagine Mariah Carey or Beyonce doing this. Oh but if they can't have what they want, by that number of minutes, then screw everyone else, because they must have all eyes on themselves. That's nothing to be proud of.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Wed 02/27/13 01:50 PM
Everyone has an "EGO"; it is a required thing, in anyone worth their salt. The key is to have an EGO with MANNERS. I like ego's & respect the rights to have one. RUDE EGOS are nothing but trouble.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 01:57 PM
Very diva-type behaviour/demands/spoilt brat behaviour. I just don't get how some people can even be proud of being a diva. It means you making the whole world revolve around you. I can imagine Mariah Carey or Beyonce doing this. Oh but if they can't have what they want, by that number of minutes, then screw everyone else, because they must have all eyes on themselves. That's nothing to be proud of. I'm not a fan of "diva's" either...How about all the talk about a man's ego?

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/27/13 02:03 PM
Everyone has an "EGO"; it is a required thing, in anyone worth their salt. The key is to have an EGO with MANNERS. I like ego's & respect the rights to have one. RUDE EGOS are nothing but trouble. I agree. We all have an identity and sense of self...But some people feel "overly-entitled" to do or say whatever they want without regard for others. And become obnoxious and annoying. YUK!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/27/13 02:50 PM
everyone has an ego. it is our sense of who we are. it's what you do with it that counts

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Wed 02/27/13 02:53 PM
Can't really cover the ego appropriately without looking into superego and id. It is a very limited picture of a much larger landscape.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 02/27/13 02:56 PM
Can't really cover the ego appropriately without looking into superego and id. It is a very limited picture of a much larger landscape. Superego and Id, I remember seeing them on American Bandstand in the early 80's.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 02/27/13 03:27 PM
Big ego to me is an overinflated sense of self worth. They feel that they are better than everyone else and tend to treat others as such. Someone with a small ego has low self esteem and does not value themselves highly enough to have any confidence. Good post! I agree...And I think that people who come across as "all that" and arrogant probably have a lot of hidden insecurities. Don't you?...Secure people don't need to boast and brag and "pump" themselves "way up high."...This is how I feel anyway.. I'm all for "happy mediums" when it comes to ego's!...It's sad when people don't have very much confidence in themselves. Ooooo, two great postsGreeneyes and Cynda!! My definition of "ego" is this...Ego is normal and necessary... It is good because it is how we measure or compare ourselves to others as in creating good self esteem, self confidence, and strong self awareness... A small ego (not a good thing) could be a sign of low or poor self esteem or under valued self awareness and is often expressed as extreme shyness that follows a person into adulthood and comes across as a lack of self confidence... A big ego is defined as egotism, egocentricity, or being egocentric and is definitely not a good thing as it applies to a person who regards themselves as the center of all things they become involved in... Egocentric people have little regard for the interests or beliefs of others although it may appear just the opposite as they feign interest or naivety as a way of placing themselves at the center when ever the opportunity presents....Egocentric people place demands upon others for inordinate amounts of time and attention and transfer this forced attention into validation for their own sense of specialness or superiority...Some common "labels" for big ego might be self absorbed, self centered, self obsessed, egomaniac.... Great explanation! You know your "stuff!".. And I'm not just trying to "butter you up" either!...In regards to praise and flattery in the other thread I've probably been around too many people who "feign interest." (As you mentioned in your post.)...They toss out compliments left and right to "look good" and "bank" on getting a "big return!" Very nicely put. I think that you, Leigh and I are birds of similar feathers.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/27/13 05:06 PM
Can't really cover the ego appropriately without looking into superego and id. It is a very limited picture of a much larger landscape. Superego and Id, I remember seeing them on American Bandstand in the early 80's. that was Martha and The Vandellas and the Beach Boys silly superego and id are psssssych 101 stuff

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14591	Wed 02/27/13 05:48 PM
Ego is, a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. I think of myself as being important and I have high self-esteem.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Thu 02/28/13 02:24 AM
I feel confident when I'm doing things I already "know." (In my areas of so-called "expertise.")...But my insecurities can "kick-in" (a little bit) when I have to venture into "unknown areas." Or learn new things "from scratch."...It helps when I cut myself some "slack." (Versus expecting myself to be "perfect" and an expert at everything right off the bat.)..How do you deal with your insecurities when they pop-up?...I try to be realistic when it comes to my ego and my abilities. Some things are easy for me to learn. And other things may take longer...I know I'll never be a total "pro" or expert at everything.