Im new here.. Im posting this to gather information, ideas and advice that I can get to help me face the situation that im into..

should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements??

have this relationship for 2yrs now..
a lot of ups and down.. but one thing is for sure i really love this guy...

we had relationship for 6months when we finally find out that were married.. First Im boring with my life when i met him.. no idea that his married.. we started as a friend.. maybe we dont want to talk about our life specially about our marital status at that time.. we enjoy each other company.. then that friends relationship getting deeper..
Im falling to this guy when we found out that were both married.. we stop.. but after a months we see each other and said we cant stop this.. we move out and we live together.. after 1month we felt this guilt feelings and come back to our original partner.. we said that were not ready yet.. to live together..

but we constantly seeing each other and its getting deeper and deeper.. but he keeps on promising me.. i decided to stop this for once.. i made a promised to my self before the year start.. so stop everything to him.. i blocked him everywhere.. and never talked to him.. I move out with my husband and now living alone.. moving back to him was a big mistake bec. i dont love my husband anymore..

then one day i saw this guy standing on my front door.. and begging me to come back.. loving him was a dream come true..

I know I saw love on him.. he promised to divorce his wife..
but 3months later his still living on his wife..
should i give up and be more stronger or should i just keep chasing pavements even if it leads nowhere???

sounds like he wants to keep both incase one leaves, maybe he loves u both i dont know, only u can decide whats right for u, if ur not happy being the other woman then i wouldnt go there. hope i helped in some way

thanks.. u helped a lot.. just want to listen to people.. what they think..

no worries add me as a friebd if u like

Hi Kiddo

The interesting thing is, deep inside you know the right answer already. You wrestle with it cause your in conflict with feelings. Don't loose your feelings cause feelings are supposed to be there, but while your going through this your passing up one major factor. You!

If the guy is still with his wife for what ever reason he needs to find out what that reason is way before he can be what he needs to be for you or anyone else, and any mature person would tell you, take some time to love you.

A lot of us on here have gone through this and have all kinds of answers for you, and there going to go from one end of thought to the other. My thought though going through this myself is, how do you feel about you and why do you think you need this love you feel you have. I'm absolutely sure you love him on some level, but ask yourself. Who am I? What do I really want in life to be whole? Sometimes we jump into this lovely looking pile of fluff to wake up and see we haven't gotten to know ourselves yet.

Just from my own point of view, the absolutely biggest mistake I ever made in my love life was when I got involved in something that should have rightfully come to an end on it's own way before I ever got involved in it. I tried to justify it more ways than I could count but knew in my heart of hearts what was right and what was wrong. I didn't need anyone to tell me, I knew. However I totally lied to myself which in the end cost me more than I could have ever thought. It cost me my dignity and I will never stop paying for being in another mans place. Whether he was the best or the worst, it was not my place to be there. And she even though claimed to be mine was as far from being mine as I could possibly imagine. I never stepped into another persons life again and would never recommend it, no matter how strong the feelings are.

Thank God, when I came to my senses I met a Goddess.

my thoughts are with you my dear

Not all stories end the same, but there's mine if it helps.

Wow.. that was totally eye opener..
thanks for sharing that wonderful thoughts...
really feel ashamed about my self..
but life needs to move on..

nice story to share mg

my thought is that she knows it's got to end or she would not be posting. she did her part for her by leaving her husband which is very brave. she is right not to tie up his life if she does not love him

but this married man has not done the same and he has had plenty of time. he is another fella with "have my cake and eat it too" syndrome. if he loved you OP he would be with you instead of keeping you hanging

you deserve someone who wants only you and is willing to act on that

Im stupid giving my self a hope..
Theres nothing wrong if u cry sometimes??
anyways thanks for giving me strength...

Nothing to be sorry for cause that's what learning is. When we do something against what we know in our heart is the truth that's when we feel that conflict and that's when we have the chance to love and respect our self and do what we know is right.

Welcome to mingle BTW

Believe me when I tell you that the love you have to share will land on the perfect one, in the perfect way, when you have the perfect love for yourself.

love and peace go hand in hand

Oh forgot, crying is a good thing. How do you think we got oceans!

no nothing wrong with crying.

This guy sounds like he has some confidence issue(actually huge) since he wants to have you both. This wont turn out good for you. Although it's easier said than done, it's better if you leave him

You both are cheaters. As such neither of you have the moral fortitude to end an unsatisfying relationship before trying to better deal it. You both have self esteem issues because you feel the need to belong to someone, even if that someone is not right for you. If he (and you) are willing to better deal and cheat on your current spouse, what makes you think it won't happen again.

Secondly, why are you concerned that he won't leave his wife when you were the same with your husband. You're his fu** buddy, pure and simple. Why lie to yourself that it is something more.

well let's hope people who live in glass houses are careful.....you may want to reread. She left her husbans. She is not with him currently.

keith
i honestly understand ur reaction..
i got a lot more worst comment than that..
but atleast i know im starting to fix my life that once i forget that im in the wrong track...

i leave my husband bec. i dont love him anymore.. i dont feel sorry anymore bec. i hurt him.. i feel sorry for my self bec. i waste a lot of my times working for a relationship that i know from the very beggining it will never worked it out...

maybe once ive been a cheater and a sinner.. but i cant hide the fact, that was the one of the most wonderful part of my life...
and bec. of that ive learned a lot..

Reality is,you are with another woman's man-a man who lives with another woman!!!
Years can go by,and he'd still tell you that he's leaving his wife-then excuses; bad timing,kids,house,bad healthy,bad space,etc,etc.... If a man is to leave a woman for you,he does it at a drop of a hat!
So,my dear,at the end of the day,you are the only person who is going to be hurt!
Walk,while you still can...who knows,a baby could just come into the picture-and thats the last thing you need!!