Courting is different from dating because it is based on finding a partner to spend your life with instead of your night with. I, myself am interested in courtship because it shows intrest in the right woman or man. Now courtship goes both ways, it used to be the men who courted the women however; society has changed and now women should put effort into the courtship so the men dont tire out easily. Give them a reason to treat you. After they have caught your attention, encourage them to keep it by surprising them with little thank yous here and there. I am not talking about thanking them physically, though a kiss here and there wont hurt,I am talking about giving them something to look forward to after they have committed themselves to you. Bake them something delicious and drop it by their work, plan a cute date that would be something he is interested in like going go carting or take them to a sporting event if that is something he enjoys. Make it clear that you appreciate the effort that goes into planning your dates. As for the men .... yes we all know that intamacy is important in a relationship. However, good women are hard to find if you are just looking for someone to sleep with, real women are not easy women you need to work hard to play hard. You need to make a woman feel special, you need to get inside her heart and once you do you wont regret the work you put into doing so because when she opens up the honey pours out. Just sayin ;P So I rambled on a bit about how important courting is to me, I wouldnt mind hearing your thoughts on the matter.

I think when it comes to the positions of courtship it really depends on the individuals involved. For example people who are considered 'old fashioned' these days still believe that courtship is one way; from the male to the female and although this may be seen as sexist at the same time it can also be considered comfortable. Personally I will always believe that the male in the potential relationship should devote more attention and thought to a successful relationship just because of the fact that scientifically they can be considered to be the less thoughtful when it comes sexual interaction which always leaves a certain worry aspect in the female mind. Of course once the relationship is established a little give and take goes a long way but really compatibility is based on knowing your partner and being willing to keep your partner happy... this is applicable from both sides. But I guess what I'm trying to say is that essentially every relationship is different and if you know that your partner is the kind of person that requires this courtship and you are unwilling to give it, chances are you aren't a correct match.

This is very good advice. Imo

wow yes I do agree with that i guess i went on with that rant because I am old school and that is my way of thinking and I just got out of a 6 month relationship due to the fact that I felt I put more into it then what I was getting out of it which was forcing me to compromize my morals and standards but you are right. He obviously does not have the same opinions on it was I do and he was unwilling to put forth the effort so it is better that we end things now then me having to constantly push my feelings aside.