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If the glove don't fit, you must acquit! Oh wait....wrong subject.   Oh, I don't know. Seems appropriate, but maybe not on a first date...but who knows. Oh THAT glove. Well....for safety reasons, you need a good fitting glove. However, since this person has not dated in 20 years, perhaps glove convo should wait until date #20 or something. I mean, if you wanna talk glove action and you haven't dated in so long, then find a hooker. They know how to handle people with this kind of age gap. Not that I know about that stuff. Just reporting what was on FOXNEWS. I actually posted this with my own Mother in mind. Her first date with this gentleman was dinner at my house. Though it seemed like it went very well, she called me later saying that now she has to go on a REAL date and is not sure what to expect on a modern date. I chill a little when considering GLOVES in relation to my Mother’s future dates with men. 
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So far getting really great advice from everyone.
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When I was young, a woman would have a light snack before you took them out for dinner, so as not to act pigish; today its like they don't eat for three days prior to the date
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If its been 20 years since she's been dating then she should be old enough and strong enough to know what she wants and ask for it. If she needs advice she's not ready to be dating.
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If its been 20 years since she's been dating then she should be old enough and strong enough to know what she wants and ask for it. If she needs advice she's not ready to be dating. She is simply nervous about it and thinks she might make a fool of herself if she seems ignorant about dating. The man she is dating has been single for the last 20 years, whereas she has been with her late husband. I don't think it's unreasonable or insecure to want to know if a man will likely be insulted if she offers to pay, or if he will think she's "fresh"...her word, not mine...if she does not offer to pay. These are the kinds of things she wants to know. Unfortunately...I don't know what to tell her. I'm more of a take it as it comes up type. My advice was just to ask him. She thinks that might put him on the spot and make him uncomfortable. |
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When I was young, a woman would have a light snack before you took them out for dinner, so as not to act pigish; today its like they don't eat for three days prior to the date Seriously?
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo
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Don't think of it as a 'date.'
That way, there's no pressure to impress anyone. Getting back in the game can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo How do you know if you're really into someone until you've been dating him? |
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Don't think of it as a 'date.' That way, there's no pressure to impress anyone. Getting back in the game can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be Good advice, and I quite agree that dating doesn't have to be nerve wracking. There are very few things worth being anxious over and dating...not one of them. |
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If its been 20 years since she's been dating then she should be old enough and strong enough to know what she wants and ask for it. If she needs advice she's not ready to be dating. That's BS. Everyone can use advice now and then. Especially about dating. If everyone was perfect when it comes to dating, no one would be single and have no drama at all. Clearly that's not the case. |
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo That's what happens when you start dating someone. You find out if you're really into him or not. You don't necessarily know that before dating them, though. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 02/20/13 05:38 PM
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo How do you know if you're really into someone until you've been dating him? If you like his emails and then his phone conversations you like the way he communicates with you. You like him, before you ever meet him inperson/date. I do not meet with any man, that asks, just to have a date. I have to at least like the man, from communicating a while first. I had a man once tell me he went out to meet a lady, she took one look at him and said...OH NO WAY..and walk out of the Coffee shop. That was just Rude, at least you know you can have a decent chat even if the date doesnt completely turn into a romance. Imo |
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo How do you know if you're really into someone until you've been dating him? If you like his emails and then his phone conversations you like the way he communicates with you. You like him, before you ever meet him inperson/date. I do not go out with any msn, that asks just to have a date. I have to at least like the man from communicating first. I had a man once tell me he went out to meet a lady, she took one look at him and said...OH NO WAY..and walk out of the Coffee shop. That was just Rude, at least you know you can have a decent chat even if the date doesnt completely turn into a romance. Imo Not everyone meets online, so there aren't always profiles, emails and phone calls before dates. |
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo How do you know if you're really into someone until you've been dating him? If you like his emails and then his phone conversations you like the way he communicates with you. You like him, before you ever meet him inperson/date. I do not go out with any msn, that asks just to have a date. I have to at least like the man from communicating first. I had a man once tell me he went out to meet a lady, she took one look at him and said...OH NO WAY..and walk out of the Coffee shop. That was just Rude, at least you know you can have a decent chat even if the date doesnt completely turn into a romance. Imo Not everyone meets online, so there aren't always profiles, emails and phone calls before dates. True..but since we are Online on Forums, I thought that is what she meant. |
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If you were giving advice to a friend who had not been on a date in 20 years, what would you tell him/her to prepare them for their date? I haven't been on a date in 25 years so this thread was interesting to me. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 02/20/13 06:23 PM
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If its been 20 years since she's been dating then she should be old enough and strong enough to know what she wants and ask for it. If she needs advice she's not ready to be dating. She is simply nervous about it and thinks she might make a fool of herself if she seems ignorant about dating. The man she is dating has been single for the last 20 years, whereas she has been with her late husband. I don't think it's unreasonable or insecure to want to know if a man will likely be insulted if she offers to pay, or if he will think she's "fresh"...her word, not mine...if she does not offer to pay. These are the kinds of things she wants to know. Unfortunately...I don't know what to tell her. I'm more of a take it as it comes up type. My advice was just to ask him. She thinks that might put him on the spot and make him uncomfortable. There is a thread somewhere on here about who pays for a meal. Some have different ideas on that. I have no problem going dutch, but Men I date always offer to pay. I have to insist before, they let me pay. I love a gentleman like that, I am from the old school. |
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If you were giving advice to a friend who had not been on a date in 20 years, what would you tell him/her to prepare them for their date? I haven't been on a date in 25 years so this thread was interesting to me. I haven’t actively dated in over 9 years. I’m not counting outings with friends, who think they’re pretty slick, which turn out to be double or group dates in disguise. |
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Dating hasn't changed that much in 20years. Just be sure you meet a guy that you are "really" into before you go on any date. I think, a woman feels more comfortable with a man she is totally attracted too. Imo How do you know if you're really into someone until you've been dating him? If you like his emails and then his phone conversations you like the way he communicates with you. You like him, before you ever meet him inperson/date. I do not go out with any msn, that asks just to have a date. I have to at least like the man from communicating first. I had a man once tell me he went out to meet a lady, she took one look at him and said...OH NO WAY..and walk out of the Coffee shop. That was just Rude, at least you know you can have a decent chat even if the date doesnt completely turn into a romance. Imo Not everyone meets online, so there aren't always profiles, emails and phone calls before dates. True..but since we are Online on Forums, I thought that is what she meant. Either way I suppose. The topic was purposely vague to broaden response possibilities. I've still not wrapped my mind around meeting people this way, so your response was appreciated. |
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If you were giving advice to a friend who had not been on a date in 20 years, what would you tell him/her to prepare them for their date? This is true for me too, I haven't been on a date in 20 years... and all the modern ways and thinking takes getting used too... so if I was trying to help my girlfriend prepare for her first date, I'd tell her which outfit that she's trying on looks best on her depending on where they're going... I'd remind her to check her purse to make sure she has money, her cell phone, tissues, meds, in case she takes anything on a certain schedule... we'd both giggle about how weird it is that neither of us has had to do this in 2 decades, and we hope he doesn't turn out to be a total jerk and waste of her time.. I'd encourage her to take her own car and meet him at their destination, so she can leave at will, if she doesn't like the vibes he's giving off.. then I'd give her a hug as I'm fixing to go back to my house, telling her to call me as soon as she get's home, no matter how late it is, to let me know she made it there safe.. and as I close the front door behind me, I let out a "good luck"... What a good friend you are. And if she ignored my advice and went with him in his car, things went awry and she left him sitting where ever they were going, I'd tell her to call me and I'd be right there to get her, ASAP... my friends are like my family... and I care for and protect what's mine... 
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