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Topic: Romance addicts...
GreenEyes48's photo
Wed 02/13/13 01:55 PM







I've known women and even some men who seem to be "romance addicts."...I think some of it has to do with wanting to be "rescued" from a dull life. (Like the story-lines and plots in fairy tales.)...What do you think?


Yeah; I have known guys like that and is exasperating. I always believe there can be too much of something and that it gets annoying.
I think I get scared-off when guys send me introductory emails and call me "sweetheart" or "beautiful" (or terms like this) right off the bat because it reminds me of romance novels...I don't want to feel obligated to play a role in someone's "love drama." How do you feel about it?...I feel safer when men just "talk straight." And don't hint at love or romance when they first approach me.


Yeah; I like straight talk myself and tell guys to cut the crap. If a guy is all over the romantic stuff; then yep he will appear clingy and needy which is hugh turnoff.


So you are saying I shouldn't bring flowers on a first date?
I'm not a big fan of flowers...But a box of chocolate truffles or candy would be nice...I brought my female friend some french vanilla coffee when I stopped by to see her yesterday...She and her husband sent me home with a couple of steaks the other day...I brought one steak over to my neighbor who is a widower...Sometimes it's fun to bring special treats over to friends...I'm not against any of this...If someone invites me to dinner I try to bring a little something...I don't necessarily view it as romance...It's just fun to spoil the people we care about and bring treats or gifts when we feel like it and can...I'm not good with flowers. They are pretty but I feel sad when they die and I have to throw them away...Living plants probably work better for me.


I guess I am a difficult gal. I am not a fan of flowers, chocolate, lingerie, and especially jewelry. Now maybe a nice new Dewalt drill might get my attention. laugh
I hardly ever wear jewelry so it's not my thing...My husband bought me some "plain Jane" underware when he went out shopping one time. I was running out and he volunteered to pick me up a package but I usually got my own...I'm the one who requested simple and "plain Jane." I don't like frilly and lacy stuff against my skin...I do a lot of writing so my husband made sure I always had plenty of pens and paper and ink and paper for our computer printer etc.

navygirl's photo
Wed 02/13/13 02:11 PM
Edited by navygirl on Wed 02/13/13 02:13 PM








I've known women and even some men who seem to be "romance addicts."...I think some of it has to do with wanting to be "rescued" from a dull life. (Like the story-lines and plots in fairy tales.)...What do you think?


Yeah; I have known guys like that and is exasperating. I always believe there can be too much of something and that it gets annoying.
I think I get scared-off when guys send me introductory emails and call me "sweetheart" or "beautiful" (or terms like this) right off the bat because it reminds me of romance novels...I don't want to feel obligated to play a role in someone's "love drama." How do you feel about it?...I feel safer when men just "talk straight." And don't hint at love or romance when they first approach me.


Yeah; I like straight talk myself and tell guys to cut the crap. If a guy is all over the romantic stuff; then yep he will appear clingy and needy which is hugh turnoff.


So you are saying I shouldn't bring flowers on a first date?
I'm not a big fan of flowers...But a box of chocolate truffles or candy would be nice...I brought my female friend some french vanilla coffee when I stopped by to see her yesterday...She and her husband sent me home with a couple of steaks the other day...I brought one steak over to my neighbor who is a widower...Sometimes it's fun to bring special treats over to friends...I'm not against any of this...If someone invites me to dinner I try to bring a little something...I don't necessarily view it as romance...It's just fun to spoil the people we care about and bring treats or gifts when we feel like it and can...I'm not good with flowers. They are pretty but I feel sad when they die and I have to throw them away...Living plants probably work better for me.


I guess I am a difficult gal. I am not a fan of flowers, chocolate, lingerie, and especially jewelry. Now maybe a nice new Dewalt drill might get my attention. laugh
I hardly ever wear jewelry so it's not my thing...My husband bought me some "plain Jane" underware when he went out shopping one time. I was running out and he volunteered to pick me up a package but I usually got my own...I'm the one who requested simple and "plain Jane." I don't like frilly and lacy stuff against my skin...I do a lot of writing so my husband made sure I always had plenty of pens and paper and ink and paper for our computer printer etc.



Don't get me wrong I do have some frilly type of underwear from Frederecks of Hollywood but I am picky about what I wear. I don't like anyone picking out clothing or underwear for me and (really men don't always make the best choices when it comes to that). I don't mind a t-shirt or sweatshirt but anything personal; I want to pick out for myself. :smile:

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Wed 02/13/13 04:03 PM
Edited by mountainwatergirl on Wed 02/13/13 04:13 PM
I LOVE romance. I think I'd love to be spoiled with attention and affection.
Gifts, surprise trips and dates. I've never had that. Always had the plain dude with nothing on his mind but how fast he can get me into the sack with what little he had to offer me. Stupid. Not doing it ever again. I might get tired of romance though if the guy went all out all the time. I wouldn't know.
I would love to have a man pick me out something he wanted me to wear...but there is a finesse that needs to be used. He can't require I wear something that made me feel unwanted if I didn't.
Etc, with anything else along these lines.
But I don't think it makes me an addict, however I've been left to "jones" for romance like an addict being so deprived.laugh

GreenEyes48's photo
Thu 02/14/13 05:37 AM
navygirl..I can be a little picky when it comes to my clothes too..My husband was good at picking out bathrobes for me. He knew my style and likes and dislikes when it came to snuggly and cuddly bathrobes...He could be a little picky about his clothes too. So it was better for him to go out shopping and choose what he wanted for himself. Same goes for me...We didn't want to push or force each other into things...No guilt-trips. We didn't want to impose our "will" or "ways" on each other in other words.. We were happy and we worked great as a team. (And as best friends.)...But we enjoyed being separate and unique individuals in our own right too.

GreenEyes48's photo
Thu 02/14/13 05:39 AM

I LOVE romance. I think I'd love to be spoiled with attention and affection.
Gifts, surprise trips and dates. I've never had that. Always had the plain dude with nothing on his mind but how fast he can get me into the sack with what little he had to offer me. Stupid. Not doing it ever again. I might get tired of romance though if the guy went all out all the time. I wouldn't know.
I would love to have a man pick me out something he wanted me to wear...but there is a finesse that needs to be used. He can't require I wear something that made me feel unwanted if I didn't.
Etc, with anything else along these lines.
But I don't think it makes me an addict, however I've been left to "jones" for romance like an addict being so deprived.laugh
Hope you find a man who has a little romance in him!

GreenEyes48's photo
Thu 02/14/13 05:45 AM



Some people don't have a very realistic view about love or marriage...They aren't really prepared for a life of dirty socks and bills to pay and nights when their partner is dead-tired from a long and hard day at work...Life can still be pleasant even though there is stuff to do besides just sitting around and hugging and kissing and doing non-stop "baby talk."...I think it helps to have a realistic view about marriage versus expecting married life to be about love, love, love and more love (and romance galore) day and night...Don't you?

Well, yeah... I'd have to agree with that!

I guess that the word love has so many different meanings that I over-looked what you were referring to.
So thanks for taking the time to explain it further.
Thanks...I care about people and couples...I'd love to see every marriage and relationship succeed...It's sad when people become disillusioned and lose faith and trust and give up on love entirely. (Due to negative and unhappy experiences in their past.)

In regard to marriages/relationships that "fail", I don't think it has so much to do with a loss love... it's more like a loss of friendship/respect.
Love has endurance... imho... but some fall in love with aspects of another and don't take the time to see/know the whole person.

How folks express love is their own business... sometimes two peoples' ways can conflict though... and if we don't keep our eyes open in the early days, things can pile up fast.
I agree..Layers and layers of resentments can pile-up over time and cut off "circulation" when it comes to love and goodwill and the "good feelings" that a couple had in the early years. Sad!

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