I like friends from both genders
And i would hate to think i am too shallow and one track minded
To have friendships with women as well
Friendship should come with HOPE but not EXPECTATION in my opinion
And though i have been disappointed once or twice if i find a "Friend" i am attracted to does not return the same attraction for me
I value that friendship MORE than some urge to have a physical relationship ruin it for us
I don't ever want to go where i am "NOT wanted"


KiK

There is MUCH to be said for "No means No" or "I just don't feel that way for you"
Real friends should be able to SAY so and still remain friends
JMHO

....but you did say you were attracted....and hoping.
Exactly.

So true. My male friends don't really see me as a woman; just a friend so I know there isn't and never will be an attraction. Most are just interested in my military career so as friends we share a common interest. Most of them ask me if I know of any girls to set them up with.

When men and women adhere to (strict) gender roles they may not have much in common with the opposite sex or shared interests...The focus will be dating or sex or falling in love etc. (Traditional male/female interaction and relations.)...Simply being friends doesn't make sense... But it's different for men and women who "branch-out" and develop interests and skills in traditional and non-traditional areas...It's easier for them to be friends with the opposite sex because the "sky's the limit" when it comes to their interests...People like this are more well-rounded. (In other words.) And they don't automatically relate to the opposite sex in (strictly) traditional ways.