What I've learned is that being quiet and being shy gets u nowhere. Be aggresive enough to go for what u want but not so much ppl don't like you. Be a go getter. I know. I used to be the quiet one. Don't get me wrong I'm not rich or anything but I am happier with myself. Remember the last time u wanted something and u got it? U fought for it. U went and got it. Grab it by the horns. Success isn't luck its repetition. Go out there and get her. Ask her out say hello. Courage is grabbing that fear and throwing it across the room. Good luck.

Hmm...interesting point of view.

I thought that success was being comfortable in yer own skin.
That it had nothing at all to do with luck or repitition.
Getting the girl or whatever...
Shy/aggressive had little to do with it, either.

Some folks talk about "swag"... that they look for others that demonstrate such. Seems pretentious to me.

Me, I don't wanna "go get". I don't wanna be someone's idea of Pirate booty... and any girl turned on by such things would be my first clue that we wouldn't make for a good partnership.

But if that's what turns you on, I wish you all the best.
And I mean no disrespect in anything that I've said.
I just disagree with the foundational premise.

Never-the-less, I agree that removing fear is a good thing.
Hope that you're successful in that.
Others too...

If you wanna grab anything, grab your own balls and see how that works. Lol. Trying to impress others, really. I think I best sleep at night if I please myself

*ahem*...on a serious note, I agree w/what Teditis said about success is being comfortable with yer own skin~

Understanding where you're coming from, and I also wish you the best.
I'm 90% loner so I'm careful to warn others ahead of time that clingy ain't me. Sure it shrinks the options, but I'm not in it for quantity. I'm not shy, I just like my space and respect others. Being ugly helps in my bliss of solitude.
This has been my 10% for the day. Goodnight you fine people.

What I meant with this post is that most shy men see a girl they like and because of fear they hold back and let fear run their lives. I didn't mean to disrepect noones opinion just giving mine as a person who used to love solitude for the reason that I had fear. This is meant for them to help them go and find the girl. Or anything in general. Tell me, does anyone have what they have because they got it for free? I worked for what I have and keep working for what I want. And for that reason I do appreciate it. The money or the girl aint gonna fall into your lap, well not for 99.9 percent of us. If you say that isn't true then wOw. I'm sorry but then one of us is truly wrong.