Not? Not to do it or not to actually talk about what is on my mind?

correct a double not

not to do it and not to choose that topic - I mean it may not be the best of first impressions either way....

Wait, you want a fake first impression? You want to spend time with me and only later realize that I tend to be rather "earthy"? Do you know how many women I have dated and 3-6 months later, you find bottles and bottles of psychiatric medication in their bathroom cuppard; AA books hidden on their shelves, etc. The answer is a lot. I know everyone has problems (I even dated a woman who loves the Dallas Cowboys, nobody is perfect), but not everyone actually really works on themselves- that bothers me; and the lack of honesty.

Think of a madman laughing hysterically for absolutely no reason...I do not have this problem.

correct. it would interfere with planning and fire safety

Out of all of that...I saw fire.

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you need a new obsession

this one is too dangerous

how about asteroids and planets?

It is only as dangerous as I allow it to be.

I'm also fascinated by planets and stars, asteroids not so much.

Does anyone else feel like they have the same conversations over and over when new people contact them on sites like these? I seem to get the same questions over and over. They all want to know how long I've been here, what I do for work, what I'm looking for and so on. It's like there is a list of typical boring questions that they think they're supposed to ask.

Does anyone else feel like they have the same conversations over and over when new people contact them on sites like these? I seem to get the same questions over and over. They all want to know how long I've been here, what I do for work, what I'm looking for and so on. It's like there is a list of typical boring questions that they think they're supposed to ask.

This is due to a lack of creativity. I have all kinds of conversations because I send unusual first messages and ask unusual questions.

That's just one of those things that will happen to those who are always on the net.

Not sure it really has to do with just being on the net. The boring "what do you do?" question comes up a lot in person, too. As does the "what are you looking for" and so on.

maybe her comment about being on the net has to do with the op. she even quoted what you asked. i'm sure i'm not the only one who can see the connection. i put it in bold to help those that missed it out (sites like these are all on the net)

Ok, here's the thing. I honestly don't know what you women are looking for exactly in a message. When I read someone's profile (and I do read the entire thing), if I like what I see, I'll probably ask something about one of your interests that I'm actually curious about. I'm sure this gets done a lot but WHAT ELSE DO YOU WANT ME TO SAY?? I'm showcasing interest in YOU therefor, I will ask something that pertains to YOU and is a part of YOUR life. So many women carry that "err not original" attitude and then wonder why they haven't "found" anything (I'm not saying that's you, singmesweet). I'd be willing to bet that you've ignored or turned down countless perfectly good men just because their first message wasn't as original as you wanted it to be and if you ask me, that is an incredibly stupid reason to deny someone the chance of getting to know you (then again, if that's the attitude you carry, you're probably not worth it anyway).

Here's a hint: when they ask you those oh so unoriginal questions, answer them (but only if you actually like their profile) and then ask them something back so you can actually have a reason to think that man is ''unoriginal'' should his answers not be what you're looking for.

Here's another idea, if you're so original (which your disdain for unoriginal messages clearly implies), why don't YOU start the conversation if you like a man's profile? Or are you with the always original "men should be the ones to do it" thought process?

I feel like it should only take a woman one thing to reply to a man's message and that's a interesting profile. I'd feel pretty stupid if a seemingly awesome girl messaged me and I turned her down just because the message was unoroginal.

If all you get is ''hey what's up'', then, I get it but if someone asks you something about what you do in your life and why you like doing it, that's not unoriginal, that's showing interest.