there is this guy that i met last september and we dated for a few months and everything between us was awsome as we had a great connection spiritual as it blew me away, well any how i broke up with him after the new yr as i felt he was lying to me as he stated he was having his own problems so he more like chased me away from dealing with talking with me over his issue well over the last few months i guess he was with someone else and she wanted to get married and all and he did the same thing to her by running her off with his problems. well then now within the past week he tells me how he feels and all and wants to work things out so to speak but im feeling hes only after one thing and if we were to get together again is he going to do the same thing again run me off as not to be able to handle his problems and not wanting me to help him.. my emotions are haywire and i care a great deal for this guy but i have to put my guard up and go forward and not try and let him hurt my emotions again.... tell me if im doing the right thing, as i cant read my self.. and i have talked to a few other readers, my daughter and my older sister and they all said the same thing. but yet its my life as well... this is so confusing

i know how u feel

Queene...

The only advise I could give you is...keep your guard up to not get HURT again. That will be enough foryou to handle...

Girl keep on going...
The ones who go back and forth are usually using you...
Good luck with what ever you decide.
Just remember if they lie that does'nt stop.
Don't open yourself up to more hurt down the line, espeically
if your lonely. There are more fish in the sea...

i email him and told him what i felt he was up to and he email me back and express he couldnt belive what i was saying like i hurt him emotionally, come on hes the one hurt me first by me not be able to trust him as i felt i did and then differnt things were changing around him and he wasent confronting me with his problems

dump this fool .

i havent been with him sense jan and i have talked ot him off and on but then over the last 4-5months havent heard a word and then out of the blue he calls. it doesnt take the long to clear your problems up

Sound's to me he was on a rebound from one relationship to another and you became his quick rebound until things smoothed over between the other woman. Crazy but that just how it sounds to me.

His lost though. He should have been up fort and told you the truth.

Just move on, surely there are more better guys out there for you and if not even then you still have your kids that love you.

Have you expressed to him how important it is for him to open up to you? Have ya told him that tha fact that he scared you off tha first time by shuttin' you out is wha ended things tha first time?

Listen to your instincts. If they say run, then run!`

Take Care,
Alexia!

yea thats why i have been on other dating sites to see if i can find another guy, to fill the emptiness as i know if i meet someone then my emotions will be filled with joy and i wont feel like me being used or thinking all they want is one thing in life. everyone wants happiness. he even told me just think we (him and i) could had been married by now. well that was the case geeze then dont shut me out and hurt my emotions

i agree with rebound thing ur were last one left he needs someone at all times lying wont' never stopthat a guy for u i say u can do better

yes i have to him exactly how i was feeling that he should be expressing him problems towards me and he said he just blocks them out and deal it his own way .but doing that and chasing away a person that cares about him is the wrong way.