Any suggestions for a single man who is partially afraid or unwilling to take the first step on a dating site for fear of not only rejection, but just tired of woman not replying to your email? Also, why do men have to take the first step?

on here just jump in the boards and have fun, be yourself and the ladies will contact you at least some will

well ladies get scared too

we get scared of that rejection just as much as the gents


its just more reassuring to a lady if a gent takes the first step

does that make any sense?

Don't feel to bad TryingAgainMike, no body replys to my emails even if I say hi what's up wanna talk some time. And I get noting as well.

So your not alone.

Makes me wonder the same thing why does us guys always have to email woman and get no respond, I like to see how they feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

Yes I understand woman might be a bit scared of rejection and all but yet men some how are supposed to get rejectioned even more by no replys etc etc, makes no since to me.

Men have to take the first step because it has been written that way since the beginning of time!!!! We want men not scared little boys!!!! Who the hell is gonna kill all those spiders for us????

sure it does thats why they started the mutual match

spiders no one said there were spiders

this mutual match thing is too confusing.....bah!!!!

Not all men make the first move. I have emailed people and never get a response back, sometimes...it happens. Does it stop me from sending out emails now....no, it doesn't.

One thing I've learned....here especially. You will never know how someone will react...unless you try. To me...it's that simple. Nice to see you here, Mike.

Just my 2 cents worth..........

I posted something elsewhere but will repeat it here.

Posting in the threads is a great way to get to know people and to allow them to get to know your personality a bit.

I breaks the ice and when you email someone they already feel like they know you if you have interracted in the threads.

Also if someone you would like to know better writes something in the threads, you can always email them about what they wrote. They respond or not but it isn't a 'personal rejection' as you were just commenting.

Always be genuine. Insincerity is easy to spot.

I do this all the time without any sense of agenda...and to my delight I have developed some of the most wonderful friendships with people of both genders.

If they wrote something you agree with or would have said yourself, what is wrong with sending a quick note saying thank you for posting just what I was thinking?

Or if they spark you to think about something in a different way ... send a note saying I hadn't thought of it that way. I appreciate the new perspective.

You can do it in the threads too but if you send a quick note ... oh my, they just might write back

Good luck to you.

tryingagainmike....many,many times i emailed guys and no response, so i know where u r coming from..im to the point where i dont care anymore..only here for my friends anyways..just got out of dating a guy i adore so much, so im not interested in dating anyways

but it will happen for ya..dont give up!!

Johncenawlife316 - Exactly

Puffins1958 - Good to see you too...


ArtGurl - Thanks, just venting I guess. But I finally got the point and I am posting as much as I can!!! lol

venting is allowed

Just to throw my 2 cents in, I e-mail a lot and don't always get a response either, even from some who've added me as a "mutual match." Frustrating, maybe, but then I think, why would I waste time and emotion on someone so not worth it. And, just as an FYI, I always respond to e-mails, even if it's someone I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be interested in romantically.

It's funny how most people on here are allowed to vented and all but if I complaint or say something even remontly the wrong way I get bashed at. Crazy. No big deal I guess.

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Mike, slow down. You need to get into the threads & let yourself be known. You only have 39 posts, nobody knows you yet. I bet if you start chatting in the posts,there are several ladies that will chat with you. Lots of people know me & I don't get an answer to every mail I send out either. BFD.
I send them because I chose to, they don't want to answer; their loss. Some there is no need for a reply, their just a comment or compliment, machs nix to me.
Loose some of the control your hanging on to, life to short, go with the flow & things will be easier.
Want more ideas, e-mail me & we can talk.

You need to have a presence in the forums, seriously. It helps if you can write a little bit, make people laugh, make them think.

There are plenty of women on this very site who have no qualms at all about writing to a guy first, if he displays some respect and propriety. Trust me on this one!

i have to agree w/artgurl becuz as soon as i started posting in the forums my friens list grew. And i have had some not reply but i dont give up the next person maybe the 1 i'm looking for. keep ur head up Mike and post in all the formums.