is it really that hard to find someone? cause i am having no luck

Being social (or attractive) is a skill. It must be learned and practiced. The more you go out and talk to people, the better you'll get at it. So, commit yourself to speaking to 100 attractive someones before getting serious about actually meeting a partner.

You have to get outside your comfort zone and do and say things that cross social boundaries. But, you really can't know where these boundaries are until after you've crossed them a few times. Don't worry if someone thinks you're a creep or weirdo because they won't remember you anyway.

Once you've learned how to start a conversation, ask the right questions, give the right complements and get a phone number you're ready to start getting serious about meeting someone.

No matter how hard it seems, there is always someone waiting to be found. Question is, how diligent are you in your search?

Hi Native.. hope I'm not speaking out of turn.. I agree with Muaness and TScoundrel too.

There is someone for everyone that will love and accept you for exactly who you are, without you having to go through a bunch of changes to become someone you really aren't. As you mature, you will automatically incorporate into your personality the various traits you see that work well for others, as you test the waters applying them in your own experiences.

The pitfall though of trying to imitate behavior that isn't your own style, results in putting on a false front, that may let you get the object of your affection, but it's easily seen thru in the long run as the two of you become comfortable with each other, letting your hair down, so to speak. It's only human nature to want to be loved and appreciated for who we really are.

And once the true personality is revealed, if the one that makes your heart beat for life doesn't like the person you are under the mask, feelings of resentment can begin to mount, causing serious problems that eventually lead to the deterioration of the relationship with your dream catcher.

Now, finding that special gem that you can polish and help to shine in your life with your own skills, is all about putting who you are out there.. just keep going.. you could try posting daily thoughts about what's fun to you, or about what's important, and if you write, you can post poems or short stories... anything that will help you get stronger and feel more confident with expressing your true self that people can recognize and want to be a part of your life.

Keep in mind too, that even if some don't "get" or like you, so what. With perseverance on your part, that somebody special will cross paths with you and then your journey together will begin.

Just be patient, and don't lose your will to strive until you're happy with the results of your efforts to get what you want. Peace flows out to you..

Luck? Dude, this has nothing to do with luck. I know. I know. When you meet a special person, you do "feel" lucky. But it's all about taking the chance. On a dating site, you come across a chicks profile. She is attractive, writes well about herself in her profile, and you decide that you want to "attempt" to make contact (cause you'd like to get to know her). It may work out. It may not. But as TS stated, it's all about getting out there and doing it. I've met some great women off of dating sites. Majority have become friends as it just has not worked out. Doesn't mean I'm not having any luck (due to the fact I'm single). So don't worry about why it isn't working for you. Keep at it. Yeah, it can be frustrating. But look at the positives. You get to hit on awesome single chicks.

^^^What he said.

Dude, there are rules in this game and its impossible to know all of them. Luck is a big azz portion in finding someone decent. Right place, right time, right moment, right state of mind, provided they aren't crazy or carry heavy baggage with them. You're not gonna find that perfect person right after a breakup.

In answer to the question: yes it is. A further answer: it just takes time and patience. Live your life, do what you need to do to better yourself. Someone may notice one day and take you off guard. I guess that's the wishful thinking in all of us.

Yes, for some people.

High Five for that LOL
Been here for for a while and have met a lot but seems like everyone has his own game.
Well, not my lost - Cheer up, you are not alone!

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If only we had more people posting in their local area maybe a group of us could get together and do some kind of activity. (hint... Springfield, IL area)