I have been on this website really for a couple of days and I am totally confused.I have ran up on some of the dumbest men in the world. Like this guy. He tells me that he is San Diego and he has a son who is 12. Well I am chatting with this guy and something isn't right. First he tells me to send him a picture of me and my child. Hey I don't know you and why would I do that. Strike one. Then he tells me that his 12 year old is asleep because he has been playing in the park all day. What 12 year old goes to play in the park, and is in bed before 7? Strike 2. the straw that breaks the camels back is when I asked him the time where he was he told me it was 10:58 p.m. I live in central time zone and it was 9:58 p.m. where I was. So how can you be a hour ahead of me when you are in California? Guess what guy you are out of here. Strike 3.

Be careful on dating sites.

This site like any other dating sites is full of ****. Some female friends of mine informed me that there are all kinds of people on this site, who try to squeeze some money out of you, or behave in some perverted manner all the time. I would say there are more idiots around than sensible folk so you will have to wade through them till you find the right one, if you find the right one.

Tsk..tsk..bummers, huh?..cutiepie is right..be careful...don't rush into anything.,

This guy is a great reason to be really careful. And to copy your emails and conversations. It is not like a creep is going to rat themself out in big bold type but it is the little BS that will show you their true character. This is a gender neutral situation.

Take your time. Some of the creeps have been profecting their persona for years. They have been caught in their lies enough that they are really good at being believeable.

It comes down to if it is too good to be true it isn't.

People who are divorced or widowed live on limited means and their lives are generally as boreing as yours is.

The whole myth about soul mates that never argue, never go through trials and adjustments even with a new and decent person just does not exist. New relationships take time and effort. Someone who is in a hurry up, lets get together, forget the establishing wheather you really like each other stage is just one more misery waiting to happen.

Be smart nobody is going to be a hero and take you, and especially you and a kid on, unless they really think about it and spend real time getting to know you and your kids. Something you ALWAYS want to do AFTER you verify what kind of a person they are FIRST. Any person who doesn't care enough about kids in general saftey sure as heck does not deserve access to yours.

Just because someone has kids does not mean anything about their quality as a person or a parent and NEVER forget it. It is easy to pretend to be a parent. Thousands of folks use a "borrowed" picture even a "borrowed" or their own neglected kid to put on a show. Anyone who camps out too long on line makes me really wonder how good a parent they are. Yea this is a great venue for peer support and meeting good parents just figure however they treat their kids yours will get worse. Sounds negative? So be it that is reality. It takes time and a huge amount of effort and maturity for families to grow together.

OP good for you for keeping your eyes and ears open. Sorry you had to deal with another member of the Frog Prince(ess) Association. Keep his name and rap somewhere. This kind of jerk has the stupidity to show up again and again. Sometimes with the same photos and usually with pretty much the same story.

ahhh youve run across one of the many bull sh@# artist we have here. hold on tight, they get even more loony and somewhat creative too.

works both ways too, lots of beautiful white miami nigerians!!,, no really i believe they are,,, no? what? you serious? damn i just gave them my credit card info and sent them my passwords too!..

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Word to the wise. There are sites that actually track these scam artists and their phone numbers. Someone gives you an email, or a phone number, even address look it up in your search engine.

If they are legit then proceed carefully. If not you haven't wasted a lot of time/hope for nothing.

Some addresses are empty real estate others are roto rerouteing centers where paid scammers work shifts pretending to be some pitiful character that you will give enough info to so they can steal your identity or send them calling cards or your phone mumber so they can charge calls against your number. People don't have to steal a lot from anyone if they are getting a little from a lot of folks. That small "test" amount they get over on a few is worth their time to send you a paste and cut letter. If they don't want to actually talk to you about day to day or on site useing Mingle's free IM over one on another site blow them off they are trying to pull something, sell you something, or rip you off.

If you think hacking into your identity or your computer is difficult you are just conning yourself. Be smart change your passwords often and NEVER give anyone information they don't need about you. Until they meet you that is VERY LITTLE.

Do yourself a favor and actually research yourself and see just how much public information is out there on you. I think you will be shocked. You are much more vunerable to them knowing way more about why they should target you than you are able to find out about them. If you CAN'T find something about someone you should assume they are bogus. And JUST because you do find info on someone DOES NOT mean that identity has not been assumed. Sounds paranoid I know but don't kid yourself it is worth these creeps time if 1) they can sell your identity/access to your credit, 2) use your attention for company in a remote work location or prison, or 3) just show off for friends, coworkers, and or have someone to brag about to an Ex about.

Do good people exist? Yea but most are few and far between. And the best ones may be right in your own neighborhood where you can actually prove wheather you want them or not.

yes the above is sooooooooo true, research is key!

one thing ive noticed is once a member says they live in a certain area, i google map it and i say whats some of the main highways near you? i wait to see what they say, usually nothing!,,,, thats one way. thers other ways too. area codes not matching the area they say they live in etc.
also some words in sentences put in the wrong place, and strange wording of phrases in general. go with your gut instincts.

Just plotting when someone is on line and their time references trips a lot of these stories up.

Learning a little geography too. Nigeria is rarely called Nigeria any more. lol Nor is England. A favorite place for Nigerians to assume and identity from.

And if these con artists male or female say they are working and their kids are in boarding school you haven't found a Prince(ess) you have found a liar more often than not.

If they have the kid; it is a ward of the state and they are looking for a free nanny.

Or worse someone to wisk away into the sex/slave trade that trives in all countries but which your government here in the USA is NOT, I repeat NOT, going to lift a finger to find you from if you unwittingly get yourself sucked into chaseing fantasies.

And fellas if you think this only happens to women you are fooling yourself there also. There are people who will pay to enjoy tortureing you or do medical experiments on you, or only steal your dental work; to name only a few. And some American's are foolish enough to pay for the airfare to get there.

Do you think a computer scammer is going to leave a computer trail when they can remotely delete the obvious.

Or that municipalities have all the TV CSI resources to track down some written off divorcee or widower? Your family would just think you are pissed off and hiding and that is pretty much what they tell them when superficial efforts get nowhere.

And don't kid yourself you up and move to a remote location with whatever little you have for an on line love interest your chances of getting kicked to the curb homeless, unemployed or under employed, with no identification are really higher than you think. Credit cards you think you have will be trashed or cancelled, and the vehical trashed or towed within a month or two with expired or stolen plates, stripped, and an empty gas tank. Your out of state identification is worthless for public assistance and with out a certified birth certificate you can't get in a shelter. SO THINK AND BE CAREFUL because I guarantee you the ones who are in these scenario's can tell me that they knew better too. And many of them are not total dumbships; many of them were somebody at one point in their lives.

At least that guy was allowed to have a turn at bat. I have the dumb luck of being 2 years too old.

To everyone that commented I will say that Look for a prince is the last thing I am looking for. Just a real person that can relate to life. It's not a captain save a hoe syndrome. Just a friendly new face.

Melmacian faces can be friendly. That's one way we Melmacians get out of trou... ...err... Never mind.

Cool, you should be fine. Sounds like you know what you're in for already. Oh and a smart man is an epic oxymoron if there ever was one.

There are all kinds of Men on this site. Many not serious and many play games. I met a few nice guys and don't play games so keep looking there are few out there nice and serious.

LOL I had a guy message me yesterday...

We were kinda going back and forth in messages, (ive decided Italian was right in another post, I do need to answer messages to make friends, Sorry again Italian!) he tells me hes a cop in a town thats about 2 hours from me, a little while later he asks where I live, I gave him the name of the town I have listed on my profile, then he wants to know how far it is? Im thinking.. Wait, ur a cop, in the same state, and u dont know how far it is to where I live??? Huh? Its not like I live in some backwater town.... Only biggest horse country in the US!

Yup I knew what was coming, was just waiting to see how long it would take. About 3 messages! He was wanting to know if I was gonna go on a date with him and wear a skirt and thong... guess thats better than asking me to wire him money tho... lol

I can definitely relate to that girl. I'm just ending a 20yr 3-ring circus of a marriage and just want to have positive healthy people to interact with. I sure do not need saving, I already saved myself. Agree with you completely on the "friendly new face" and some decent "REAL" conversation.

I am new to this site and have been too trusting. But that said nothing ventured nothing gained. Thank you for the warnings I shall certainly be circumspect in the future.

Is it any different in real life?

Shoot. I have had email conversations with chicks that start off with normal convo. And then, like at about email #39, she asks for my bank account number, routing number, 401K status, etc. Sheesh!

Oh well, at least I didn't propose (which normally happens on email #40). She just saved me a boat load in future divorce lawyer fees and alimony. So maybe I should thank her for being psychotic.