Topic: I desire to be total be pure honesty.
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Wed 11/21/12 09:28 PM
I have thought about this a lot and Ive come to realize that in order to be happy and true to myself I have to honest from the start.
I have been bi since my 20's but haven't really been active since then. Just an appreciation for broad human se uality. I don't feel an intense drive for it, I just know its a part of me. Throughout my life, I've loved to be in love with women and intend on finding that again. However, I must find that special woman who will accept me for who I am.
I realize its a long shot, I don't need anyone to tell me that but to go forward while keeping something inside that has always been there would be incredibly disrespectful. That's not an option.
I have met many men who were bi or bi curious that kept it from their wives or girlfriends. Sometimes just hiding their feelings but sometimes hiding their activities as well. They were pained trapped people causing intense pain to someone they love. I cant and wont do that...ever!
Just deciding to stick to my convictions has made me happier then I have been in a while.
I will not judge or tell others how to live their lives only how I've decided to approach mine. The woman I find to spend the rest of my life with deserves nothing less then my total honesty. I will be patient and hold on for what I want and deserve so that I can give all of what I am.

I am what you see.

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Sat 11/24/12 11:06 PM
I understand ur search. I've decided to go back to my search for a good christian man who that wouldn't mind going to churchh with me, one that wouldn't mind waiting till o we got married to have sex with me. Been out in this world without a husband for 7 years, widowed. Took me 3 years to date again and in the 4 years all I've found is men that want to use me for sex even lie to me about there life in hopes of it. I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou

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Sun 11/25/12 07:05 AM

I understand ur search. I've decided to go back to my search for a good christian man who that wouldn't mind going to churchh with me, one that wouldn't mind waiting till o we got married to have sex with me. Been out in this world without a husband for 7 years, widowed. Took me 3 years to date again and in the 4 years all I've found is men that want to use me for sex even lie to me about there life in hopes of it. I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou
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Sun 11/25/12 07:33 AM

I understand ur search. I've decided to go back to my search for a good christian man who that wouldn't mind going to churchh with me, one that wouldn't mind waiting till o we got married to have sex with me. Been out in this world without a husband for 7 years, widowed. Took me 3 years to date again and in the 4 years all I've found is men that want to use me for sex even lie to me about there life in hopes of it. I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou

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Sun 11/25/12 07:38 AM
Thank you for replying. I'm glad you decided tonstick tonyour convictions. Being true to yourself isnthe only way to be. That way when you do find that special someone, you get the strongest of foundations. Please feel free to write back anytime.

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Sun 11/25/12 11:19 AM

I have thought about this a lot and Ive come to realize that in order to be happy and true to myself I have to honest from the start.
I have been bi since my 20's but haven't really been active since then. Just an appreciation for broad human se uality. I don't feel an intense drive for it, I just know its a part of me. Throughout my life, I've loved to be in love with women and intend on finding that again. However, I must find that special woman who will accept me for who I am.
I realize its a long shot, I don't need anyone to tell me that but to go forward while keeping something inside that has always been there would be incredibly disrespectful. That's not an option.
I have met many men who were bi or bi curious that kept it from their wives or girlfriends. Sometimes just hiding their feelings but sometimes hiding their activities as well. They were pained trapped people causing intense pain to someone they love. I cant and wont do that...ever!
Just deciding to stick to my convictions has made me happier then I have been in a while.
I will not judge or tell others how to live their lives only how I've decided to approach mine. The woman I find to spend the rest of my life with deserves nothing less then my total honesty. I will be patient and hold on for what I want and deserve so that I can give all of what I am.

I am what you see.

In that case shouldn,t you have a picture up and asnswer all the questions on your profile?The reason I say this is because it kind of makes you look like you aren,t being honest and hiding something.

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Sun 11/25/12 03:37 PM
Well, actually I did think of that. In this case I need to keep a certain amount of discretion because of judgements of those around me. Also my openness and honesty only needs toreally be extended to the one iwould share my life with and not the world.
I do however understand and respect your point. Baby steps, right? Maybe in time.

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Sun 11/25/12 03:50 PM

In that case shouldn,t you have a picture up and asnswer all the questions on your profile?The reason I say this is because it kind of makes you look like you aren,t being honest and hiding something.


All people should do this. Make it much easier to find out who people really are before you actually meet and talk and find out they are Not who they said they were.

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Sun 11/25/12 03:52 PM

I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou


I'm seeking a man in Church, I have met several and they believe in premarital sex, of which I do not. So, it is back to the search.

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Sun 11/25/12 07:49 PM


I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou


I'm seeking a man in Church, I have met several and they believe in premarital sex, of which I do not. So, it is back to the search.




Have you tried Christian Mingle.com?

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Mon 11/26/12 06:24 AM

Well, actually I did think of that. In this case I need to keep a certain amount of discretion because of judgements of those around me. Also my openness and honesty only needs toreally be extended to the one iwould share my life with and not the world.
I do however understand and respect your point. Baby steps, right? Maybe in time.

Well it certainly is up to you and your right to have a picture up and very little on your profile.
But when you join a dating site its kind of expected that you do because otherwise you are sending out huge red flags.
It really narrows down your chances of meeting someone .
Good luck and enjoy M2, its a great site and has many wonderful people here.


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Mon 11/26/12 06:44 AM
flowerforyou flowerforyou like ur response B ur good personbigsmile

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Mon 11/26/12 06:48 AM


I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou


I'm seeking a man in Church, I have met several and they believe in premarital sex, of which I do not. So, it is back to the search.
Me tooflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou it is out there you'll find it. And if u don't then it is God's plan.

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Mon 11/26/12 10:07 AM
Edited by BettyB on Mon 11/26/12 10:08 AM

flowerforyou flowerforyou like ur response B ur good personbigsmile

well my dear you are the cream of the crop and deserve so much more that you have had in the past. Good luck Carol. you know I wish with all my heart that you find a good man who will treat you right.:heart: flowerforyou

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Mon 11/26/12 07:08 PM
Is someone who doesnt show their photo being deceiptful? Are they hiding how they look in attempt to not show their face, body etc?

If you are being true to yourself show your face so even if you are recognised in your community it doesnt faze you.

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Tue 11/27/12 02:45 AM
Yes some r married. So no pic u figure that out quickly when u start talking to them.

stanier's photo
Tue 11/27/12 02:51 AM
I know what you mean. A younger relative who is recently divorced found a co worker on a dating website. He was married with three kids. What a jerk.

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Tue 11/27/12 04:03 PM



I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou


I'm seeking a man in Church, I have met several and they believe in premarital sex, of which I do not. So, it is back to the search.





Have you tried Christian Mingle.com?



Yes , some time ago.

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Wed 11/28/12 02:33 AM




I've just came to the conclusion I can't find what I want in the world for a man so best to go back to the church and if I don't find a man in church I'll just follow Gods plan for me, so be itflowerforyou


I'm seeking a man in Church, I have met several and they believe in premarital sex, of which I do not. So, it is back to the search.

Have you tried Christian Mingle.com?



Yes , some time ago.

Many years ago I too venture into the world of seeking companionship in church. As I grew in my faith and grounded myself in the word of God. I realized I was going to church for the wrong reasons and once I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior into my heart the church would be with me no matter where I was. Church for me is for the nourishment of my relationship with God and the blessing of finding someone to spend the rest of my life would come in the masters time. I knew the day I met my late wife she was the one. It was an amazing journey and I will always be thankful for the time we were blessed to be together.

I don't know if it is meant to be for me to find another companion, but I do know God will make it happen if it is meant to be. So I will do as his word tells me concerning the expectations of the world.

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him; for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

God knows the expectations of the world. What it deems worthwhile or valuable. Many seek silver or gold; like the poor man at the beautiful gate believing that money is the answer to their problems. Others seek approval from those they esteem, hoping it will give meaning to their broken lives. But what God offers is beyond price, beyond a quick fix, and often beyond preconceived notions. Good offers his Spirit and his Son already paid the price.

Through the gift of Gods Spirit, I can have life and wholeness in place of my brokenness, crippled attitudes, and stunt growth. God Offers me joy in the face of my worst sorrow. Because I am his child, I will Rise Up and Walk in Faith.

Acts 3:6 Then Peter said, Silver and gold have I none: but such as I have give I thee: In the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth rise up and walk.


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Sat 12/01/12 01:21 AM

I know what you mean. A younger relative who is recently divorced found a co worker on a dating website. He was married with three kids. What a jerk.
. Not surprised they even put up ther pic's and say there separated.ohwell