I am extremely honest and dislike deceit and concealment immensely...so my profile is pretty honest...no secrets...

would some of you mind reading it..I was told it would scare men off..but never told why....I promise to listen with open ears ...to all comments...thanks

I see nothing wrong with your profile,you seem a self assured and confident woman.Some men may see this as a threat but personally i see nothing wrong with it.
bill.

Thanks a million Bill....you read me clearly...why do some men see this as a threat....hell...I'm as playful as a kitten with a partner...am just not needy...whiney....you would think men would want a women like that...Damn you men confuse me...

For Johnn

Share-a-hug, we are scared of you, because you boast you are strong, yet you come across as whiny on the forums. You state you do something, like bowling, and get defensive when someone believes you. You state you value honesty the most, and yet I never know what to beleive (like you like bowling or not, you are whiny or not, you are strong or not, you are playful as a kitten or not). I see a lot of things in you and their opposites, and these are things that are usually mutually exclusive.

I am scared because you keep asking "why", "why", "why", like why did this man stand you up, why did that man never call, why did this man put you down for your bowling, why did that man not understand that you bowl twice a year, not as a bowling-addict...

I would be scared of you. Yes, because you are like a mirage: you show something of yourself, I'd reach for that something, and my hands would go through the mirage as if through air, and the mirage would already turn itself into an image of something quite different.

You scare men because you can't see that you only scare some men. You scare one or two men, and you ask us why do you scare men. You are stood up by one or two men, and you ask us why men stand women up. One or two men don't call you, and you ask us why men don't call after a while, when they already shown interest.

This is a pattern in which your hurt is multiplied in magnitude in your perception, and we try to help, sometimes, when you ask. But you at the same time know men who don't stand you up, who keep calling, who are not scared. So... honestly, you see the negative in men. You accept the good of men as if it were the most natural thing in the world, but the unflattering behaviour by men makes you wonder.

It's not you, that two out of ten don't call, or two out of a hundred don't show. These happen to everyone. The reason for which you notice them so keenly and can't get over how that can happen, is what scares men.

You scare men because these are signs, showing the men there is zero tolerance for error for people in your life.

This is just my view. I am not agaisnt you, or against your kind. I am just explaining why I am scared of women who are like you.

WOW! I guess you told me..."women like me" ..steriotyped..I'm just curious as to why people in general do what they do..it's my honesty coming through..Idon't lie to people..or lead them on...and I don't whine..and am not whining hear...I am simply asking for advise...as I have been married for almost 40 years of my life and am trying to learn about the dating world...the bowling thing was a joke..it's been fixed between me and the other person...it was just a misunderstanding..that's why I deleted my post....Inever said I didn't like bowling ..the comment was that I am a good bowler..so let's stick to the facts please..if you're going to rip my personality...I don't have zero tolerance in people...BUT I do have zero tolerance for BS, liars, concealment...drama....so if that scares some men like yourself....that really isn't my issue...if honesty isn't there...it is a mirage....I'm not the mirage...the BS is because it will be seen someday.....thank you for your input...but you are dead wrong about me....you slam me for asking why>why> why> ......there is something called learning...curiousity...so a person understands...and is more able to grasp the world as it is today if they haven't been in this part of it for 40 years....now we've both given out opinion...I say you and I will agree to disagree..and stay clear of each other....because although you haven't asked...everything you write I think is nasty.

Im biased because we talked on the phone and I understand where your coming from I think your very sweet.However I think wux was right on some points in his email, you have been married for a lot of years and are used to a certain way of life. The single life is so different, I have been lied to, stood up, decived just like you and the others. Its hard but you and us have to push past these things and focus on the good people who are genuine in there approach to life.I do disagree with you being scary and whiney because once again we have had a conversation I think your a very sweet and sensitive attractive woman. If you come across a email thats not really your cup of tea just pass it by. When you post people will tell you want they are thinking please don't get mad at them or take it personal this is what the forums are for.Yesterday I recieved such a nasty email from someone on mingle and gotta admit it set me back. After awhile it rubbed off and now its water off my back. Enjoy your weekend and god bless

Jacktrades....my thanks for your understanding..andyou're right we have talked so you can see me and hear me better....Iunderstand what you're saying....to look at the few bad and walk away...I know not all are bad...and I actually was starting to learn that here ..what alot of you have been through....it means alot to me and I'm learning alot....I 'm real easy to get along with...am flexible...in my thoughts and actions and roll with the moment....that's how I've made it to this age and still smile inspite of some of my hardhships...all I really wanted to know is if people today are really that dishonest....it amazes me......and now that I know some have had worse than me....maybe I can sail through this a little easier....thanks my friend...

Actually your profile doesn't say as much about you as your posts do.