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| Topic: What kind of response are you really looking for? | |
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It has never crossed my mine to ask this question. Firstly, people lie for all sorts of reasons. Secondly, you can learn a lot just from conversation. Thirdly, we already know the answer- there is a word for people who can't do anything right and always mess up- Husbands!
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navygirl...It seems like sort of a "follow the crowd" type of mentality to reject someone because they haven't been married before...Kind of like "following trends" or ?? Or going with who or what seems "popular."...Would you describe it like this?..People who have strong individual selves don't need to have their choices validated by others. (Or society.)...It's not about being "in" with the "in-crowd" or "popular" with the masses. (As you put it.)...It's about making choices that fit "who we are" as an individual in our own "right."...Don't you think? Sorry you've run into so many "crowd followers and pleasers" during your life! Honestly Greeneyes; most of our society has a "follow the crowd" mentality but its because they are afraid to step out of their comfort zone. I agree it is about trends and what is popular. Me, I simply don't care what others think of me because if I did it would drive me crazy. I am not here to please anyone but myself. I can go to sleep at night knowing I did what was right for me and not the crowds. Life is too short and I am not spending it trying to please others or following the crowd. 
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It has never crossed my mine to ask this question. Firstly, people lie for all sorts of reasons. Secondly, you can learn a lot just from conversation. Thirdly, we already know the answer- there is a word for people who can't do anything right and always mess up- Husbands! Hey; I am not a husband and according to men I can't do anything right as well as always mess up. So; sorry dear you can't just label husbands for that as we women certainly screw up too. |
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Just because someone has never been married, it doesn't mean they're any different than anyone else. Who knows why they never got married. If it bothers you that much, then ask. In no way does it mean you're a freak or whatevs.
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Hallo dear how a u 2day
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Just because someone has never been married, it doesn't mean they're any different than anyone else. Who knows why they never got married. If it bothers you that much, then ask. In no way does it mean you're a freak or whatevs. I quite agree but the majority of the population would think otherwise and think there is something wrong with you. I stopped trying to explain my situation as it simply isn't worth the effort anymore. They feel they have me pegged; so it is what it is. |
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Most of the guys around are not what they say that they are,most of them are fakes and i cant countinue living a fake life,so i decided to be single and happy.
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Most of the guys around are not what they say that they are,most of them are fakes and i cant countinue living a fake life,so i decided to be single and happy. like say girls no dey fake abi? abeg fake full for everywhere. In fact, na una wey be women fake pass. |
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that's a spare the moment question. are you single?
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that's a spare the moment question. are you single? A spare the moment question? What is that? |
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I didn't realize that this question is so annoying to people. I have to admit I have asked this question to others not judging them but as a compliment like wow I can't believe a person as nice as you are single. Thanks for your input I will remember not to ask that.
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I just tell them what my Ex told me and that is., she made a big mistake.., The End.
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I didn't realize that this question is so annoying to people. I have to admit I have asked this question to others not judging them but as a compliment like wow I can't believe a person as nice as you are single. Thanks for your input I will remember not to ask that. Good to see you guys are learning. 
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I just tell them what my Ex told me and that is., she made a big mistake.., The End. 
Tony,u r funny
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I didn't realize that this question is so annoying to people. I have to admit I have asked this question to others not judging them but as a compliment like wow I can't believe a person as nice as you are single. Thanks for your input I will remember not to ask that. Good to see you guys are learning.
Thanks teacher. 
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this isn't a question I ask.. what's come before is not my concern.. it's who they are NOW that matters.. if they want to talk about it I've no problems with that.. after all.. we are a product of EVERYthing that has come before.. it's made us who we are today..
when asked though.. I simply answer that I just haven't found THE one yet that I want to spend forever with.. |
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I have been asked this before, and I am always careful with how I respond. I say careful cause while some people say they can handle anything, when you answer this question honestly it can drive some people away. People say that they don't expect to find perfection, and yet you name a flaw or talk about how you got hurt (in the past) and they wanna run from you like you have the plague. Heck, at this stage in my life, I know enough to know that we all have been hurt in a relationship. And just because you are single doesn't mean you have something wrong with you. I always get asked why I don't have kids. Some women even jump right to asking if I even like kids. Lol. It's like they assume I have this hatred for kids. People who are in the thirties and have yet to be married are asked why they haven't been married. It's like if you didn't take the plunge in your twenties then something must be wrong with you. Sigh. Aww goof; didn't you know that people expect you to be perfect especially when they aren't?
Hell...I figured that out just last week. I was getting to know this chick and so I called her one day last week just to chat...no answer. No biggie. We all lead busy lives. Now, she tried to call me back two hours later while I was busy. I didn't answer.....and about two minutes after she called she sends a text stating...."FINE! Don't talk to me"! I thought it was a joke until I actually did call her back and she was still pissed that I didn't answer when she called.  
Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that nutter.
Like Neo in the Matrix! |
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Many guys (and I'm sure women) start off by asking why we're single. Do you ask that question when talking to someone new? If so, what kind of response are you really looking for? I'm pretty sure I've never asked that question, maybe I need to add that to the list. 
Of course I've never been asked that question either, which makes me wonder if, after talking with me, the answer is obvious...
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I don't think that's appropriate for a first date.
I did have a man ask me on our first date, "If I were to ask your ex to describe you, what would he say?" I thought that was pretty ballsy. |
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I just tell them what my Ex told me and that is., she made a big mistake.., The End.
That answer works for Me. |
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