thanks so much

Take Care.



- see no smoke

- Just beer

a guy know's his feeling way before 2 yrs, sounds to me as if he's just not wanting a to make the next step, put a little space there and let him know your not going to put up with it, let him see what he'll lose if he doesn't grow up and be a man.

Let's toast to Artist, may she find true love, drop the zero, and get herself a hero.

You have a situation that a lot of women and men find themselves in, you are in a long term relationship (2 years), you are exclusive, right? Everyone has advice but only you can determine if this relationship is worth your efforts. A lot of men are reluctant to make a committment to women with children. Even though you have not asked him to marry you, he is probably thinking that he will have to be responsible for your children, at least present himself as a father figure, depending on his age and how mature he is, some men just aren't ready for that. As far as him stating that he is "confused", that is a very real possibility. It is not only women that get hurt in relationships, men get hurt as well. I don't know if he is "using" you because I don't know how well he treats you. If he is a man that just comes over to have sex, doesn't take you anywhere, is emotionally withdrawn, doesn't talk and yet he calls you "his woman", I would have to rethink my position if I were you. In 2 years time it would seem to me that he should be able to sort out his feelings, the question is...are you willing to wait for him to do so?

elgantlady,

ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, it has been 2 years. He still doesn't know if he LOVES her. This is more than a simply issue of committment. She deserves better. She needs to move on and create a life for herself.

Well I talked with him tonight and he says he loves me but is not in love with me. So I told him I was done. I could not go on like this any longer. So its done. I cried alot and now I am ready to move on.

live life move on dont waiste your time waiting

Take care. Keep us posted. You have friends here! I know this doesn't make things better or easier, but you showed a lot of courage for talking to him about this. Not a lot of women or men have that type of courage.

Take Care,
Your Friend,
Alexia

Thanks Alexia. It means alot for you to say that.

bad sign dump him find someone else dont let him keep you on a string then throw you off the hook not good i had that happen

NOPE

There is no such thing as true love.

There is no such thing as a soulmate.

And

There is no such thing as happily ever after.

wow fine

I partially agree..I try to be optimistic though

Sorry boredchick but optimistic is not in the vocabulary anymore.

I feel that way quite often but I have faith someday it will happen only when it's meant to be. I can't rush it or control it. I've tried. really.

I see where you're coming from. All the divorce rates, cheating etc..

Boredchick,

Sometimes I wonder why guys prey on the ones that have the kind heart, the caring disposition, and show understanding to another.

Why must the heart and feelings be played with then RIPPED right out of you?


Makes you not want to care anymore.

It happens because it's the world we live in.

I pray for guidance when making decisions. I've been "played" before. So now I feel secure knowing what to do and what not to do ..and guidance and faith

WOW WOW WOW HOLD ON THERE LADIES i beg to differ its not jusy us men i meet a women last night i thought we hit it off and yet i have yet to get the phone call SHE said i was going to get tonight. SO I AM SORRY BUT I THINK IF SHE DONT CALL ME TONIGHT IM GOING BACK TO BEING THE JURK I WAS BEFORE