Hello,
Ive been talking to this guy for about a month now. He works 7 days a week so when we do get together it's usually for a few drinks and conversation among mutual peers.(He works late as a cop)
We have known each other since high school and oddly enough his brother in law is my first boyfriend, who has been trying to get us two together for two years. We kinda fell into talking on our own.
Long story short, he and I had plans for a date but he got held up and couldn't make it. So I told him it was okay and then did not hear from him for 5 days. When I finally caved and asked about it he said he thought i was upset about cancelling and that I wasn't contacting him. I told him that I was ok with the fact that he was busy and that I was actually hurt he hadnt contacted me, To which he apologized and said he should have said something. We are back to talking and I'm just afraid my being so bold may have turned him off. (last time we had seen each other was the night before our plans, he confirmed the date and kissed me on the cheek before leaving)
Sincerely
The overthinker

First,



to Mingle2.

Second, your situation could simply be a case of miscommunication.

Thank you :)

Im pretty definite that it is. Unfortunately we communicate primarily thru text right now seeing that our jobs prevent phone time hours(I work early he works late) Texting is hard to decipher sometimes..The phone conversations are great tho. I guess Im just scared that a good man could get away. Suppose I need to be patient? Let it unfold as it will..

Seems you have already read between the lines.
He canceled your date, felt bad, waited to call
again, you caved, called him first.

Had you not, methinks you would know by now his
level of interest.

Sounds like a guy who works hard and may have
to cancel more dates.

Maybe has had to do so in the past, and would
click best with someone who could take it in stride?

@soufie
Hi brother in law showed up at my work for lunch and casually asked me about the two of us ( i hadn't mentioned it to him yet). Supposedly he told him he had felt bad about cancelling and was going to reschedule. But like I said 5 days was a long time after a cancel to not say something, anything at all, and when I did contact him, he said he thought i was mad. I am perfectly okay with his being busy, I have a busy social life. I guess I just question his interest..

If only the women here would think that about me.

One must have nerves of steel to date..a barbaric custom.
I can understand curiosity getting the better of you.
Being a cop, he may like to hold and keep the reins :-)

What I suggest, as you are the one that said you 'caved'
is to grind your teeth, and wait for him to make
the next move. It is very easy to gauge their
interest that way.

It may well be worth it :-)

@soufie
Will try my best Gotta occupy myself to stop self doubt with over thinking.

It can make you crazy.
You may need a cop :-)

It can make you crazy.
You may need a cop :-)



Haha well the uniform is a plus

Don't try reading between the lines. Talk to him about what's going on.

Always.
You may have to return his cuffs though :-)

How do I bring it up without sounding to invested too soon?

That's something you'll have to figure out. But, trying to read between the lines will get you nowhere, as you'll start assuming things that are not correct. Communication is important.