So my boyfriend left me last night, we had a huge fights and i found out a few things I needed to know about him. He'd been doing drugs and cheating on me for the last 3 months, lying to me about everything, and I foolishly believed him. So now while he's out having a grand ol time, I sit here ripping myself apart, hating myself for not seeing it. I hope this will get easier and I'll get over him but I loved him sooo much, I don't know how to move on.

Believe it or not no matter how hard it is right now, it will get easier within time... Been there had it done and learned to move on more then once...

The main thing is one needs to learn not to let what others have done to you hinder the next relationship...

Take a few days get mad and let it out then look back on the situation. Funny how things seem to fall into place all the hints we ignored....

You will see down the road that it was the best thing that happened and that person was not for you....they are merely a stepping stone to that one that will be the right one....

hes been lying to you
the past 3months and
you wernt able to see
the signs of the drugs

that happens for you were
blind im sure others may had known
or were able to see
now that you have seen the lite
you can find yourself again
as you have a beautiful soul

you dont feel like you have hated yourself
its him that was in the wrong
he wasent happy
but i can say this much
dont allow him back into yourlife
no matter what.. for you deserve better

sense he had cheated on you
im sure he did the same to his past relationships

but you know its always some form of
lesson to learn....

(sending you hugs)

It is painful yes.
But you said it yourself...he is having a great time while you tear yourself apart.
DON'T !!!

Don't go destroying yourself so others can live. Move on. Don't look over your shoulder behind you while you walk through life. Look forward.
There is nothing anyone in life can offer you that you can not do for yourself. A heart is just something someone you will care about will get the pleasure of enjoying.

Move on and find your happiness.

This just happened last night so give yourself time. Things will bet better as time goes on. Wishing you the best

It takes time to properly heal

But in the meantime:
Surround yourself with good people
Do the things you enjoy doing
Stay busy
Realize that the scumbag did you a favor by showing his true colors ~

Good luck, you'll make it through

Hugs. You have experienced the sting of a taker, thank god he has left! Grieve, learn and when you feel ready to trust again, find a giver this time.

heart breaks are normal thing..a vast majority go through it.. See this as a blessing. Imagine if you had ended up marrying him? Ya it hurts but you will move on.. It happens. He is out there having fun and you killing yourself over nothing.. Cheer up my dear, your own man will come

Thank you all, I've been having it rough the last couple of days but I'm slowly recovering and will be happy again at some point. I think i let love blind me to what he was doing behind my back, I loved him so much I didn't want to believe he was lying to me. He still swears he loves but but he had to get out of the cycle we were in, i didn't know we were in a cycle.

It's his loss, I'll do better, i just had to spend the night convincing myself of that.

that was a poor excuse by him saying
the cycle... hog wash!!!!!!

and him stating he still loves you
come on

love is always blind
thats why you always
need to be cauious

my dear, things happen. Love is blind, love is blind, but my own love has 4 big eyes and sees clearly.. If only people will learn to love with there head and not heart, we wont feel so much pain.

You're better off without him dear. He's not worth your heartache although its all too evident you really loved him. Cheer up and look to the future. Life goes on.

I did love him but I deserved to be treated better. I deserve someone that will love me for who I am not who they can try to turn me into. I still love him but I have to let go and move on.

It seems to me you're a nice guy and he is a brute and an azzole.

This is true. Look at Lot's wife when she turned to look at the burning city of Gomorrha. Or was it Orgasmea.

And as this poster said before, I would really like to reverberate too, as per her literary heritage, that there is noffing anyone or somebody else in life can or cannot offer you that you can or can not do for yourself or for others.