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Topic: Younger & Older
Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Sat 09/22/12 02:01 PM
Courtney Stodden stepped out Wednesday with her husband, Doug Hutchison, at The Grove in Los Angeles sporting a surprising and quite shocking new look. Get ready to do a double-take! The teen bride, who just celebrated her 18th birthday last month, showed off newly dyed locks and fresh makeup while out with her 52-year-old hubby ... and the transformation is incredible! Stodden now sort of resembles Blake Lively -- with a twist of Taylor Momsen. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/20/courtney-stodden-debuts-shocking-new-look_n_1900508.html#slide=429000 To me this is not a very good example. I may be wrong, But these two strike me as two people who are using each other. One to get into the lime light. The other to find his way back into it. No love here. He really strikes me as a pedophile.

SimplicityAtItsBest Joined Mon 09/10/12 Posts: 960	Sat 09/22/12 02:07 PM
Courtney Stodden stepped out Wednesday with her husband, Doug Hutchison, at The Grove in Los Angeles sporting a surprising and quite shocking new look. Get ready to do a double-take! The teen bride, who just celebrated her 18th birthday last month, showed off newly dyed locks and fresh makeup while out with her 52-year-old hubby ... and the transformation is incredible! Stodden now sort of resembles Blake Lively -- with a twist of Taylor Momsen. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/20/courtney-stodden-debuts-shocking-new-look_n_1900508.html#slide=429000 To me this is not a very good example. I may be wrong, But these two strike me as two people who are using each other. One to get into the lime light. The other to find his way back into it. No love here. He really strikes me as a pedophile. Ahhh... How fast kids grow up these days. When I was 18, I looked like a 10-yr old boy.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sat 09/22/12 05:32 PM
I have been going out with a 21 year old. I dont care what anyone thinks. But I know Im just a part time boy freind. But I'm good with that.

Thoseeyes Joined Sat 09/22/12 Posts: 6	Sat 09/22/12 07:27 PM
I dated someone older than myself. I thought it would be different,more mature,grounded,ect.Im going to leave it at that.But would i do it again? Yes,if the attraction was there :)

Thoseeyes Joined Sat 09/22/12 Posts: 6	Sat 09/22/12 07:31 PM Edited by Thoseeyes on Sat 09/22/12 07:32 PM
I looked like a baby at 25,but didn't look like a boy...that was cute that you said you looked like a boy,anyway! :)

jaded72 Joined Tue 12/06/11 Posts: 1456	Sat 09/22/12 07:42 PM
Sure, I would go for it, it the attraction was there. Age hasn't ever really been a barrier for me.

andrewzooms Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 2842	Sat 09/22/12 07:44 PM
As long as the person is full of energy and vitality I am willing to go older or younger.

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Sat 09/22/12 10:37 PM Edited by Charles1962150 on Sat 09/22/12 11:16 PM
You described your own experience. Fine. It's not everybody's. It was this paragraph that I disagreed with: I read a lot where people in general turn there noses up to people of certain ages. To me it seems we limit ourselves by closing to many doors. I can understand a 50 yr old man/woman shouldn't be trying to date a 18 yr old girl/boy. Way to big of an age gap there. But a 50 yr old man/woman with a 35 yr old man/woman, Shouldn't it be based on maturity level and where they are in there lives instead of just the number? Just looks like you're complaining about people who find happiness because the age gap was larger than the one your own experience provided. Larger age gaps? You're confusing. I've dated women with as much as a 24 yr gap in age. You can't get much larger than that and still be legal. I'm not gripping about anything. I'm just stating a fact. People in general do sometimes close doors to other opportunities based on just a number. I'm not saying that everything is open season. There is a cut off point. Me personally I wouldn't date a girl of 18. Most of the girls I meet that age have a lot of maturing to do. I'm 50. If I happen to meet a woman of lets say 25. But lets say she is on the same level as I am in maturity and we mix well, Why not date her? I see nothing wrong with that if the two are on the same level in maturity and they mix well. Me personally, I've met and dated women of 45 that were less mature than the 25 yr old. So, With that in mind why slam the door on someone just because of a number? My uncle is 70. His wife just turned 50. They have been married for 20 yrs I think. She had just turned 30 when they got married. He was 50. So far, As best I know, They have had a great life together so far. If either one had slammed the door on the other based on nothing but a number, They both would have missed out on what they had been looking for, For many years. Why do you need people to have the same perspective as you? The whole purpose of starting a thread on a forum is to post your perspective about whatever the subject is. Then,others come along and post their perspective on the subject. So far there have been something around two pages of other people's perspectives. Including yours. I could say the same thing about your perspective and all the others if I wanted to. But wouldn't that be kinda stupid? Everyone is allowed their perspective. That's the whole point in starting a thread isn't it?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 09/22/12 11:12 PM
To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand.

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Sat 09/22/12 11:26 PM
To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 09/22/12 11:33 PM Edited by navygirl on Sat 09/22/12 11:35 PM
To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible. I have never met a 30 year old that could even come close to my 50 years of experience. I have met 50 year old guys that are immature but he gets it when I say; I used a manual typewriter and never had computers in school or owning a black and white tv. He gets it when I tell him how hard I worked to be accepted by men in the military. He gets it when I say lots of my friends are dying because of age related illnesses. This are just a few things that come to mind. A 30 year old could not comprehend those things. To me a 30 year will never be on the same level as me.

IspeakLOVE Joined Sat 09/15/12 Posts: 58	Sat 09/22/12 11:37 PM
Im 23 and I wouldnt date a 50-year-old lady . If I were 50 I would love dating a 23- year-old girl :p

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 09/22/12 11:40 PM
I used to have limits. But I am expanding my horizons. I am learning that a rare few people much younger than I.... Have aquired wisdom..... gained knowledge.... developed maturity...... and most importantly..... Find me..... Interesting! At my advanced age!!! I'm sayin about 12 yrs younger is the max for me!!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 09/22/12 11:51 PM
I used to have limits. But I am expanding my horizons. I am learning that a rare few people much younger than I.... Have aquired wisdom..... gained knowledge.... developed maturity...... and most importantly..... Find me..... Interesting! At my advanced age!!! I'm sayin about 12 yrs younger is the max for me!! 12 years isn't too bad. Where I would see the problems with me would be a 20 year gap.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 09/22/12 11:53 PM
I used to have limits. But I am expanding my horizons. I am learning that a rare few people much younger than I.... Have aquired wisdom..... gained knowledge.... developed maturity...... and most importantly..... Find me..... Interesting! At my advanced age!!! I'm sayin about 12 yrs younger is the max for me!! 12 years isn't too bad. Where I would see the problems with me would be a 20 year gap. Yea 20 yrs would freek me out. too close to my oldest childs age....

IspeakLOVE Joined Sat 09/15/12 Posts: 58	Sat 09/22/12 11:54 PM
I used to have limits. But I am expanding my horizons. I am learning that a rare few people much younger than I.... Have aquired wisdom..... gained knowledge.... developed maturity...... and most importantly..... Find me..... Interesting! At my advanced age!!! I'm sayin about 12 yrs younger is the max for me!! 12 years isn't too bad. Where I would see the problems with me would be a 20 year gap. If he is 20 then 12 years would be pretty bad :o

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 09/23/12 03:00 AM
Before I post this I want everyone to know I'm not talking about me. It's just something that came to mind. I'm curious to what folks in general think. Men and women. You're 35. You're at a party with lots of different people. This person approaches you and starts talking to you. Average, But nice looking. This person is 50. Seems like a good person and very datable. Would you consider dating this person? Or is 50 to old? Or would that even be a factor in whether you dated this person or not? At 35, I definitely would not have dated him..but that's not to say that I wouldn't have 'tested' the waters

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 09/23/12 08:54 AM
To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible. I don't think someone that much older than me would be on the same level. We'd be at different places in life and looking for different things. That's why I think age definitely matters.

Mended1 Joined Thu 02/12/09 Posts: 270	Sun 09/23/12 09:00 AM
i will definatly consider dating if he is single with good attitude..

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sun 09/23/12 11:30 AM
To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible. I don't think someone that much older than me would be on the same level. We'd be at different places in life and looking for different things. That's why I think age definitely matters. Yeah; I agree. Goodness knows I am having a hard enough time getting on the same level with guys my age; never mind someone much younger. Personally, I think the most immature thing ever is to not accept who you are at your age. I see young guys trying to act older as well see older guys trying to act younger. We should all be comfortable in our age. When I was 30; I certainly wouldn't date a guy in his 50s as I was smart enough to know we wouldn't be on the same level. Just as now; being 50; I sure as heck wouldn't be on the same level as someone in their 70s.