i do what i can to help out all of man kind

The rules for women are different.

Why?

What makes me contact someone? Attracts me, It's really what she conveys in the profile. A pretty picture will not make me write a woman. It takes more than that. It's how you come across in your writing that gets my attention. Your attitude, How well you write about yourself. Can you make me see what you are trying to convey in my minds eye? Can you "pique" my imagination?

Hum, What do I look for? I've never been one to make a big deal over pictures. It's not the do all,say all of a persons profile. But at the same time when I look at a picture I want to see "you". Not you with your friends. I don't want to have to try to figure out which person goes with the profile. I don't like pictures that are to good. I would rather see you the way you look everyday. Not just on occasion. A lot of people like putting up "glamor" shot pictures or studio pictures. I want to see pictures of you in everyday life. Turn off if you don't.

When I move to your profile, You don't have to tell me your whole life story. You don't have to tell me all your likes and dislikes. Just an over view will do. But even an over view needs some meat in it. So, Don't talk to much. But at the same time give me enough to go on. Something to make conversation with. And please, One thing that stops me dead in my tracks and causes me great confusion, Never,ever say, "Whatever you want to know,Just ask" That stops me dead in my tracks. Turn off. Me personally, I don't want to have to ask 10 thousand questions. I don't like having to pull everything out of a lady. To me, You have to be forth coming with info about yourself. At least a little at the time. I don't mind asking some questions. I just don't want to constantly do it. Give me a little and I will ask a little and I will tell a little about myself as we go. That way I feel you are as interested in me as I am you. Give and take.

I read a lot of profiles. If the first or almost the first thing out of your mouth is your kids and family come first, NEXT PROFILE. I see that a lot. Most men who have already had kids and raised them, Do not want to be # two to yours. They don't expect to be above your kids. Just equal. So leave out the kids thing till he has more time to get to know you. If you come out with it right at the start, It makes it sound like you will put your kids ahead of him. Not equal. That's the kiss of dating death for women.

One last thing, Don't show me to much. Make me imagine what you look like besides your face. I can tell without asking if you have big boobs or not. I don't need a over head shot so I can see down your blouse. Make me wonder. I mean, So many now leave nothing to the imagination anymore. It's a big turn off to me. Make me dream about you. Make me wonder.

I like your take on this and have similar views It's definitely the profiles that are individualistic that draw me. I just get tired of reading the same thing....love the outdoors, laid back, caring.. blah blah blah .... I love it when someone goes against the profile norm. Though i do like some creative pics, just cause they resonate with my creativity, but I do prefer seeing someone in their natural state rather than a knock off model pic, or a bathroom mirror pic with girls making kissy faces ... ugh. Maybe i'm to picky but that's my take on the question.

What I like to see in profiles:

Tell me about yourself, what you want and what you're looking for.
A variety of clear pictures.
Use spell check and make sure what you've written is understandable.

What I don't like to see:

No pictures, old pictures or unclear pictures.
Nothing written.
"Hit me up if you wanna know more."
"Ask me anything."
Misspelled words, horrible grammar and lack of punctuation.

seems no one likees my profile,but i like others why?

Take the time to write more about yourself. There's not much there.

OK - one of you guys said - "don't talk too much" K - got that - thanks

What's "don't talk too much" mean? How much is too much? How much is not enough?

heck if I know. Hopefully the guys will explain their comments.


I would imagine it's an individual thing. I would tend to look at it more like asking the guys to just be themselves and allowing me to do the same - then likes minds will connect.

I think profile length can be an issue if it's so long that you can't possibly remember the gist of it or so short that you're reading "Hit me UP" " If u wanna know mre ask"


I try not to pigeonhole myself with my profile - because my preferences and activities can and have changed over time - but at the same time, give an idea of what I am like. I need photos - gotta get back to that bathroom mirror soon!

This is really very simple. Some things should be kept to ones self. At least for a little while until the guy/gal has a chance to get to know you. Your personal life is just that, personal. You may not believe how many women spill every little detail about there personal lives in their profile.

I was reading one today on POF. In the very first line of her profile, "Didn't think I would be back on here this soon. My last boyfriend got run off by my X husband."

I and 10 thousand others don't need to know this. It's something the woman in question needs to fix before even trying to start dating again. This is just an example. I see stuff like this all the time. TMI at the start.

I saw another where this woman was letting everyone know right at the start that she "pooped" in a bag on her side. Her exact words. Again,TMI right at the start. I can understand "eventually" telling something like this to a potential mate. But I think I would wait a little while about telling it. Sorta ease into it. Stuff like this can spook away a man before he has a chance to get to know you.

I'm not saying one should try to hide problems. I'm just saying problems like an X husband or wife should be dealt with ahead of time. Some problems, maybe one should "ease" into telling about it once a relationship is established.

Well, I'd like to see on the profile people's education level. Although I think a lot of people lie about EVERYTHING online, I want to see people's educational level and figure out if it matches with the way they write. It's true that not all good writers are educated but typically, most educated people have at least the basics down. I doubt anyone with a master's would write crap that's full of errors and text talk that 13 yr olds use...

Damn, I can't believe we as a society has dumbed everything down. There's lack of standards and it's acceptable to have low or no standards at all.

Ah, ok. Yeah, this isn't just a woman thing. Many, many men put this information in their profile, too. If a profile is too negative, I'll just pass it by.

I think you're probably correct that someone with a master's degree wouldn't be misspelling everything and using incorrect grammar. And those things do make a big deal. It's tough to read what someone writes if it's full of errors all the time. Though, I don't think a master's degree is needed for someone to communicate effectively.

the master's degree was just was an example. what people want/require in other people's educational backgrounds is solely up to them. as for me, i find it ridiculous when people do bark their educational backgrounds and then they use text talk n tlk lke dis
that mess really hurts my eyes and brain!!

I don't have patience for that either. If it's too hard to decipher what someone is trying to say, it's just not going to work. It amazes me why people don't use spell check more often. Especially on a site like this, where writing is the form of communication used.

i'm going to give you a blanket answer: it's the internet.

Well, yes that's true.