Those who compliments about looks,generally expects similar response as they have full attention towards the looks.

obviously,they wouldn't feel it proper if there is no compliment in return.


Some people,seldom pays attention towards the appearance & they pay compliments if really someone is looking very happy or really gorgeous,but they don't mind anyway...what compliment is returned to them.

Not true, as I have complimented people on looks and not expected something in return. I'd think it would be pretty obvious if someone were just fishing for compliments.

Why not true?

May be you are from the second category among both which I mentioned!

As I've just said, I have given compliments based on appearance. Your second category says those who seldom pay attention to appearance.

Either way, it doesn't matter. Some people will fish for compliments by giving compliments and expecting some in return. Some won't. Those who give insincere compliments in order to receive them will end up showing that's what they're doing in my opinion.

As I've just said, I have given compliments based on appearance. Your second category says those who seldom pay attention to appearance.

Either way, it doesn't matter. {it does matter. You can't oppose some other opinion and when you are proven wrong you say "it does not matter." It degrades the other person's happiness over winning an argument, and degrades your sensation of negative feelings over losing an argument. By saying "Yes, you won, but it does not matter" is a classic example of "sour loser".
I really wish you'd smarten up on these forums.
You are a smart woman, but you make two major mistakes: 1. You very often only read the first or beginning part of posts, this is not the only time it happened, and respond to that. The remedy to that is that we ask you to please read each and every post to its end before you respond. 2. When you are pointed out the mistake arising from 1., then you backpedal and explain your report card. Sometimes it works, sometimes your backpedalling does not work. }

{Case in point: your backpedalling did not work here because you said "}the second category seldodm pays attention to appearance.{" Yes, but it does not say "never pays attention to appearance".}

{Whereas the person said, "they pay compliments if really someone is looking very happy or really gorgeous,". This is not at all saying "seldom paying attention to appearance". Nobody can avoid noticing appearance; a compliment in this second case was because the person looked particularly good. None of your dismissal to the second part that you claim actually applies.}

{So this does not apply, at all:}
Some people will fish for compliments by giving compliments and expecting some in return.

Some won't. Those who give insincere compliments in order to receive them will end up showing that's what they're doing in my opinion.

{in the quote you respond to, there is no mention of insincere compliments or their return and the motivation. What you are doing here is a fallacy that has a name in classical logic, which replaces the focus to an irrelevant subject and proves that the irrelevant subject is wrong. But that has no bearing on the original subject.}

I guess my issue is with this line "obviously,they wouldn't feel it proper if there is no compliment in return. " If that's the case, it's obvious that they're just fishing for compliments.

I guess my issue is with this line "obviously,they wouldn't feel it proper if there is no compliment in return. " If that's the case, it's obvious that they're just fishing for compliments.

My suggestion to you, Singmesweet, is simple: read each quote to the very end before you respond. I am not saying you should own up or smarten up. You are a very smart woman with a very good mind. You will make no mistake in logic if you respond to what is actually said, not to only the first half of what is actually said.

You are critical, and fine, so am I. You need to learn to criticize properly, though, which involves many things, including, like I already said, not focussing only on one part of a statement but evaluating the whole statemen before you'd make a comment.

Watch: if you follow this advice, you will never have to resort to backpedalling and explaining yourself.

You won't make yourself any more popular, but at least you won't be irritating me. And that's something, too.

Can't really be obvious!

Some people are so particular about giving & receiving compliments that they really feel bad if their compliment is not properly addressed & or or returned,they are of course smart enough to keep themselves neat & clean before admiring someone else,that's why I said there..."as they have full attention towards the looks"

Fishing could be the third category.Yes,they really exists...& are really crazy about that; but typically sincere people wouldn't ever admire those who are not really neat & clean,neither on their own nor in response to their compliment!

As I've just said, I have given compliments based on appearance. Your second category says those who seldom pay attention to appearance.

Either way, it doesn't matter. {it does matter. You can't oppose some other opinion and when you are proven wrong you say "it does not matter." It degrades the other person's happiness over winning an argument, and degrades your sensation of negative feelings over losing an argument. By saying "Yes, you won, but it does not matter" is a classic example of "sour loser".
I really wish you'd smarten up on these forums.
You are a smart woman, but you make two major mistakes: 1. You very often only read the first or beginning part of posts, this is not the only time it happened, and respond to that. The remedy to that is that we ask you to please read each and every post to its end before you respond. 2. When you are pointed out the mistake arising from 1., then you backpedal and explain your report card. Sometimes it works, sometimes your backpedalling does not work. }

{Case in point: your backpedalling did not work here because you said "}the second category seldodm pays attention to appearance.{" Yes, but it does not say "never pays attention to appearance".}

{Whereas the person said, "they pay compliments if really someone is looking very happy or really gorgeous,". This is not at all saying "seldom paying attention to appearance". Nobody can avoid noticing appearance; a compliment in this second case was because the person looked particularly good. None of your dismissal to the second part that you claim actually applies.}

{So this does not apply, at all:}
Some people will fish for compliments by giving compliments and expecting some in return.

Some won't. Those who give insincere compliments in order to receive them will end up showing that's what they're doing in my opinion.

{in the quote you respond to, there is no mention of insincere compliments or their return and the motivation. What you are doing here is a fallacy that has a name in classical logic, which replaces the focus to an irrelevant subject and proves that the irrelevant subject is wrong. But that has no bearing on the original subject.}

We'll just have to agree to disagree. If someone is giving a compliment and expecting one in return, that would, in my opinion, be fishing for a compliment. If you wish to separate these things in different categories, have at it :).

They're distinct categories based on what? Are you saying they're specific categories listed somewhere that have to do with compliments? They weren't just your opinion?

TOO DISTINCT.... based on their behavior in context of this on going topic of course.

Yes,these are my opinion & I'm happy that I could put them clearly.

Sorry,don't have enough time to search for any listing.

No need. You said they were distinct categories, so that's why I asked. I figured they were your opinion.

hey come on...I already said ( though i need not say) that these are of course my opinion & they are really so clearly distinct from each other,I wonder how any one can mess up between them!!