Im kind of confused,, does it make a guy terrible if he doesnt want kids?

There are a lot of reasons people don't want to date parents.

Some people have been parents all their life for siblings and just want to have a time in their life to make themself a priority.

Some people already have a children and don't want to attempt a blended families; considering the failure rate in these relationships they maybe doing you a Favor.

Some people have lost a child to institutionalization, incaceration, death, or even just previous relationship and they are still greiving.

Some people have probation and parole issues that preclude them being around children.

Some people know they have physical or emotional limits that would make parenting too much responsibility.

Some people don't like your choices being dictated to them as having to be their choice.

Some people actually want to be parents but they don't want any other adult having the ultimate say and their parenting rights always being last priority or not even considered.

Yea children are and asset for everyone to a degree but it should be and investment that a person wants to make; parents got the choice so why the heartburn when another exercises the same choices?

If someone can not accept your child, are they really worth your time? Even if they don't have kids and you didn't have children, you know exactly how they would treat kids...not so good!
Being single is not hard, you just have to remember that YOU set the rules. You be straight forward with them and let them know that you have a child and if they don't like it...WALK AWAY!!!!
MEN/WOMEN COME AND GO BUT YOUR CHILDREN WILL BE PICKING OUT YOUR NURSING HOME, SO TREAT THEM RIGHT!

I think because someone is not ready for kids at some particular point in their life is no indicator that they would not be at some other time or that they treat children poorly.

Im just missing what happened to draw these conclusions about someone besides that they didnt approach someone when they saw her with a child......?

Back in the old days when I was a single parent with small kids I did get "approached" by a few men even when I had my kids with me...But it turned out that most of these men didn't really "factor-in" my kids. They were "ditch the kids" kind of men. (And some were divorced and "once-in-awhile dads" to their own kids.)...They just weren't "family-minded" kind of men in general. They still wanted to live the single lifestyle...I was in a different "place." And I didn't want to play "let's ditch the kids" and pretend that they don't "exist" or really "matter!"

This thread made someone think.

A young man widowed early and who had lost a child said it prompted him to make a little better explanation to someone. Now they have a coffee date and I am crossing my fingers that with time and friendship maybe resolve a lot on both sides.

So often as a single Mom it was not the rejection but how it was said. As parents if we see someone saying I am not rejecting your choice or it's value to the world; only as it applys to us and to me takes some of the sting out.

Seeing a single woman with a kid to me means she DOES IT, which is a plus. I however prefer something new and not used.