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Topic: Who Takes It Harder
miko1960's photo
Sat 08/11/12 10:34 PM
Edited by miko1960 on Sat 08/11/12 10:39 PM
I think most of us have been cheated on at least once in our life time, do you believe men are woman have a more difficult time handling being cheated on, in my opinion I would have to say us men find it harder to deal with being cheated on.

I base this on the fact that men don't deal with deep emotions very well, then there's that pride and ego factor with us men, i am just curious what everyone's opinion is on this subject.

Totage's photo
Sat 08/11/12 10:39 PM
The one who gave their trust and was betrayed is the one who takes it harder.

The one doing the cheating doesn't even get it most of the time, they're too wrapped up in their self to realize or even care about what they're doing, except for when they get caught and lose, and even then they're only concern is them.

miko1960's photo
Sat 08/11/12 10:47 PM
I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.

msharmony's photo
Sun 08/12/12 12:52 AM
Edited by msharmony on Sun 08/12/12 12:54 AM
I think women are more likely to be culturally encouraged to be forgiving and 'stand by your man' kind of stuff

men are more likely to be encouraged to just collect as many women as possible who want to please them,,,


I think men are more likely to find women expendable than vice versa,,,just seems to be that way mostly,, but not always,,,

so I think it comes down to actual LOVE

women fall easier and more often, as they are trained to desire that one mate

where as men fall less often as they are mostly trained to hunt and be pleased by women,,,

and love is about GIVING As much as taking


so, yeah, Id say when LOVE is actually involved,, there is probably not much difference

but women just tend to love more deeply and quickly than men

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 08/12/12 04:00 AM
IMO why would gender make it any less easier to deal with? Betrayal is betrayal. Men and women both have emotions and would have to deal with the future trust issues. I am really grateful I have never had to experience being cheated on.

GreenEyes48's photo
Sun 08/12/12 07:35 AM
Edited by GreenEyes48 on Sun 08/12/12 07:37 AM

I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.
I've never assumed that all men will eventually "cheat." (Or assumed that all women will eventually "cheat" either.).. I guess there probably are quite a few "cheaters" out there! But I don't think everyone is exactly the "same!"...Anyone (male or female) will probably feel "crushed" and devastated if someone they loved and trusted "cheated" on them. YUK!

GreenEyes48's photo
Sun 08/12/12 07:56 AM

I think women are more likely to be culturally encouraged to be forgiving and 'stand by your man' kind of stuff

men are more likely to be encouraged to just collect as many women as possible who want to please them,,,


I think men are more likely to find women expendable than vice versa,,,just seems to be that way mostly,, but not always,,,

so I think it comes down to actual LOVE

women fall easier and more often, as they are trained to desire that one mate

where as men fall less often as they are mostly trained to hunt and be pleased by women,,,

and love is about GIVING As much as taking


so, yeah, Id say when LOVE is actually involved,, there is probably not much difference

but women just tend to love more deeply and quickly than men
I'm not a very "quick lover" even though I'm a woman! It takes me a long time to trust and let my "guard" down!..I want to make sure that I'm not going to be involved with a "cheater" or "fly by night" or "game player" etc..I think it takes time to see all "sides" to someone. Don't you?.. And I don't want someone to think that they are in love with me right off the bat either! (Before they really "know" me!) How do you feel about it?

oldhippie1952's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:02 AM
Hmm being cheated on hurts like hades.

I don't expect women to cheat just because of past experiences.

I won't cheat because once I make a decision I am happy with it.

Until then I'm going to flirt like crazy!:banana:

BettyB's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:27 AM

I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.

I have to say for myself I do not expect a man to cheat , nor would I handle it better than a man would.
I think being cheating on hurts no matter if you are Male or Female.

bastet126's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:31 AM
i don't see a reason or necessity to put a gender blame spin to this.
i've never cheated, nor been cheated on, although can we count drug
or alcohol addiction of a partner? that sure hurt like hell and
felt like betrayal. regardless, it's a terrible thing to have
the intimacy and trust attached to a relationship ripped out from
a heart, no matter the gender IMHO.

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:36 AM

I think most of us have been cheated on at least once in our life time, do you believe men are woman have a more difficult time handling being cheated on, in my opinion I would have to say us men find it harder to deal with being cheated on.

I base this on the fact that men don't deal with deep emotions very well, then there's that pride and ego factor with us men, i am just curious what everyone's opinion is on this subject.




I don't think it has much to do with whether you are male or female. When you give someone your trust and they betray it, it is going to hurt despite your sex.

GreenEyes48's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:38 AM


I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.

I have to say for myself I do not expect a man to cheat , nor would I handle it better than a man would.
I think being cheating on hurts no matter if you are Male or Female.

I agree...I know I'd be hurt if someone "cheated" on me and stunned and shocked etc. And I'd also be furious and enraged too! How about you?...I know I wouldn't want to stay with a "cheater." There's no way I'd ever be able to trust him again. I'd probably tell the other woman: "Take him! He's yours now! But be careful because he's probably going to 'cheat' on you before long too!"

Kaleijoscope's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:39 AM
i think the person who loves deeper takes it harder...

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Sun 08/12/12 08:44 AM

I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.


I think that's a bunch of bs. People will handle things differently. Not all women will handle it well and not all men will handle it badly.

oldhippie1952's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:53 AM

i think the person who loves deeper takes it harder...


When I love I love all the way so it will definitely hurt me.

Goofball73's photo
Sun 08/12/12 08:55 AM
Lorena Bobbit wins this for the ladies side. Not only do women take it harder, but they will also cut off your penis too. :tongue: laugh

bastet126's photo
Sun 08/12/12 09:23 AM
^^^ so there you have it, and that concludes our program! laugh laugh ((goofball!))

oldhippie1952's photo
Sun 08/12/12 09:27 AM
But Lorena was just wanting the fringe benefits!

Goofball73's photo
Sun 08/12/12 09:28 AM

^^^ so there you have it, and that concludes our program! laugh laugh ((goofball!))


((bastet)) Just giving out the "hard" facts here. laugh

blueeyes2000's photo
Sun 08/12/12 09:28 AM

I was cheated on once, hurt like hell too, it had taken 2 years before I was over it, yet I have known several woman that seem to bounce back fairly quick, this includes cheating husbands, I guess most woman just expect that men will eventually cheat and are able to handle it better.



I disagree, I would think the majority of women would not expect their man to cheat. Nor would the majority of men expect their women to cheat. Why would you go thru life, expecting your partner in every relationship to cheat on you? Not a healthy view of relationships.

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