I hope that the moderators will not object to me linking to an article titled "Why You Haven't Met Mr. Right".

The article is written by dating coach Ronnie Ann Ryan.

I believe that the article may be helpful to some of our female members.

I would also like to see a discussion here about what the article's author says.

Here is the article's first paragraph:

I do see this attitude a lot, but if perhaps there is two sides to this coin. I don't particularly agree or disagree with the article, I just feel that is a generalization, and I can honestly say, I never did this before.

One more point I'd like to make is, when things are going well, and the person you are in relationship with confides something in you, if you break up, you (both men and women), should never repeat it.

That's not my attitude at all. Still haven't met him though. lol Was really hoping you were going to have the answer to this for me

well every guy i have met talks about his ex or girlfriend and can't shake the baggage from the past i'm on here to find new love story not to here one.

I've been thru a divorce, and it did affect my views on men for a while. My marriage was not good, and it did play a big part on how I interacted with men for a long time. But I've had my time to heal, and now I can appreciate a good man and a healthy relationship. So, I'd say there might be some truth to that bit you posted, but some women can change that.

i have seen this attitude, but i've never adopted it.
i am a minimizer, so once i'm through the muck, i don't
hold onto it, or carry it around, or make others the
brunt of the pasts burdens. usually, i see newness,
as a breath of fresh air.

I have to agree with spyder and Blue.....

Been there, done that.....don't want nor will I let my Future be dictated by my past.

I want something new, another chance if you will........

Not gonna let the past get in the way.

The Past is the past for a Very Good reason!!!!

Jmo

Its clearly just human nature!

Let me explain!

When a relationship breaks down one person always feels rejected

Humans like to be liked and love to be loved,

So when a relationship breaks down WE question OUR choice/s of partner and rather than be rejected, we reject until someone makes you feel safe enough to feel love again,

As a defence in the 'rejected - love' stage we repel the opposite sex as a sort of safeguard so as we cannot feel anymore pain and we can 'heal',

Thinking about it the way some people act when been approached by someone who fancies them probably helps them 'heal' and prepare them for love again! Not nice if its you approaching someone though, but not as bad as rejection from someone you love Hmmm!!!

But Like I say it's human nature/animal instinct.

Don't get upset if someone just don't fancy you back we all meet someone worthy.....eventually.

I just think if a guy breaks up with me then he thought I wasn't good enough for him. So after being dumped over and over; I just don't bother trying anymore. So, I have come to the conclusion there is no Mr. Right but I do very much love and care for my male friends.

Every person is different. I don't make others pay for the past. If I look behind me ...how am I ever going to move forward.