Hi; I am new to the whole online dating thing, and haven't been all that successful dating in general. I almost feel safer just being alone and mildly lonely. Than to put myself out there and deal with the rejection, and do all the mental things to myself like question myself on should I have said less on my profile, why am I not getting any replies, What's wrong with me kind of insecurities. When I know full well that I am a good man and a wonderful person who is just a little out of practice. Any comments, suggestions, tips would greatly be appreciated

You won't die of rejectionitis. A lot of times I go into a situation with the plan of just messing with people and there is usually one or two who are into and the others? Well I was messing with them anyway.

Rejection is a word full of pathos.
There are many stepping stones to
cross the pond.
They serve a purpose.

Patience, enjoin the forums,
let the charm shine though.
Welcome :-)

A suggestion to you, is just be who you are. Don't come across overly interested or it may come off as desperation. Also, There is nothing wrong with being honest in your profile, about who you are and what you are looking for. Some lady out here will see something about you and reply back, you just have to be patient too. It does not happen overnight. Don't assume because you hear nothing, there is something wrong with what you wrote about yourself. But, do be patient. You sound like a nice man and that is what most women want. They may seem like they are playing games or stuck up, and do you really want that type anyway? Good luck.

Don't worry about rejection. If you come into this with an open mind, and the full intent to just meet a few people to talk to, swap ideas with and laugh a little, you will get a lot further than you will if you come into it wondering of you might be rejected or not.

Get active in the forums, and just be yourself. The rest will fall into place.

Welcome to the site.

it's kind of like driving a car when you're late for work.
you can play it safe
and still be late
and make up some story about
a car-b-que on the interstate
that had all the traffic stopped
for miles
and feel bummed all day for
making up a story.
or you can live on the edge
speed really fast
blow through all the lights
out run the cops
be early
and pat yourself on the back.
or .... well, you get my point,
it's a crap shoot, you have to decide if
you wanna be early for work or not.
:)

The more you put yourself out there the more accustomed to rejection you'll be and you'll improve at socializing in general. Keep trying and refining yourself(Don't try to fulfill a "role" when interacting either some of my friends do that and it's comical but not really smart :p) eventually you'll find someone~ you're a handsome man! Also(i know hard to do but) don't ruminate on the negative it just makes little problems seem larger than life! Good luck finding what you're looking for though! :]

Welcome along,I haven't been here long myself but its all fun and it won't be long till you meet some friends-look you have got 7 replies already!

Okay, just to let you know Goooooddude. I left a woman's house 2 hours ago, cuz she is a mental case; came home, got on another site asked a woman if she had challenged me to a bowling match (she hadn't) and have a date next Wednesday, never even met or talked with her. It is not always that easy, but get out there and just do it.