I want to explore this about all you men and women about this phrase...I WANT HER/HIM BACK!!!...I've been in different relationships and when the relationships is OVER...IT'S OVER!. You will never see me pressing the rewind button and go back to the relationship in the past or see me moving in who I once lived with, it just won't happen. You know when it's done it's done and theirs a pretty good reason why you dumped him or her and I don't understand why anyone wants to go back. I may understand if they were a good piece of ASS or incredible in the sack I understand all that but theirs other people who are incredible in the sack, if you have confidence in your self and have game and you know in some point you will meet somebody else and move on with your LIFE!. But I heard from men and women who wants to go back I mean THAT'S CRAZY that's crazy, you left that person for a reason or more importantly THEY LEFT YOU! for a reason...RIGHT!... He or she cheated on you, nag all the time, had an argument He or She left you for a reason that you couldn't understand...TAKE A HINT....IT'S DONE!...RIGHT...IT'S DONE! And yet I talked to guys and I hear this not just once, not just twice, all the time (WHINING) I WANT HER BACK AND I'M GONNA DO WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO TO GET HER BACK...WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO I'LL GET HER BACK. C'mon I mean nobody is worth that when she cheated on you with your best friend, humiliated you on front of her friends, made you miserable, she disappears on you, all they remember about all the positive things like you remember the laughs but, what about the negative things. I think it's human nature to forget about the bad stuff that happen to you but, you got to remind yourself. I remember I was in a 7 month relationship with somebody with allot of laughs allot of fun, a fun person, a person who lighten my life when I'm feeling pretty down just having the best time but later on things changed, later on she would always trying to command to buy things for her, later on she would constantly nagging, nagging, nagging and never listen to a word I said. I couldn't believe what happen on night and I just remember about this...I remember on night I was with friends and I got this call from my ex begging me to go back with her and if I wouldn't she would kill herself, and later she would never answer her cell phone, didn't answer her home phone friends didn't know where she was or didn't want to tell me where so, I immediately called 911 and the police got involved and they were searching for her. She told me she was gonna do it, she's gonna do herself in. Ultimately it turned out that she was at a local bar had driven herself to the local bar I may add, getting herself drunk and guys were groping all over her and this is her way to get herself attention. Later I got a call from her she couldn't talk and couldn't get herself off the bar stool asking me to pick her up at the local bar...LOL!!

Now doesn't matter how much fun we had together how much laughs we shared together...she had the opportunity be with me already, and does not deserve the bait.

So I know theirs allot of you guys or girls out there uses the phrase: I WANT HER/HIM BACK!

I want to know if this is YOU!

c'mon people I have 51 who viewed this and no reply or comments.

Does this mean that YOU! got back with your ex?.

I've already responded to the one in General Discussion.....

I know what you are saying, when I end it it's over. I know what I want and what I don't want. There are all kinds of people, some of them are always playing games with others and their-selves.

im not even gonna comment on this..im totally done with men..they dont know what they want..this last guy i just broke up with, i'll never take him back..im sick of games..thats all i get, games, games, games..im over the bull****

There are reasons why relationships end. And you have to remember that reason when you want them back.

I go forward, not backward and getting back together with an ex is like going backwards. You will not hear me say, ever, "I want him back". As far as I am concerned, an ex is an ex for a reason, why would I want to put myself through the garbage a second time?

Thank you ladies for commenting.

Bigrob80 said:"And yet I talked to guys and I hear this not just once, not just twice, all the time (WHINING) I WANT HER BACK AND I'M GONNA DO WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO TO GET HER BACK...WHAT EVER I HAVE TO DO I'LL GET HER BACK"

When we hear a guy say that he'll do whatever to get us back, it makes us feel good. Its like "wow, he really does care, maybe he's changed." You go back with him to find that once he has you back, he reverts back to the same old routine, nothing has changed. That man who would do anything to get you back won't do anything to keep you. I do believe that it ended for a reason, I also believe that one more try with the knowlege that it may not change can't hurt. I'm in that situation right now. I broke up with someone, they guilted me and made me feel like I made a mistake by leaving him, then when I agreed to try again... 4 days into being back together and he's lazy about affection once again. And so, I will go back to my own 'never look back' rule.

i just thinks windex works better

No streaks ah?

I like fresh meat........

And that is true gypsy! Learning from our mistakes doesn't mean we need to repeat them!

Now where is that 40 yr old virgin???

Still waiting for you at your high school prom!

I think people in general don't necessarily (always) want that particular person back. What they want is the relationship, when it was GOOD of course.. ... When my ex & I first seperated, I missed having someone around, someone to cook for, talk about our day, etc, and found myself 'wanting him back', only to realize (Thank You, God), it wasn't HIM I wanted, it was change I was having a hard time with.

I also have known people that will start a new relationship right away, just to find out that was a mistake....My grandma used to say "best way to get over one (man) is to get under another"

Agree 100%. When it's over, it's over

I can relate with that, BabyDoll1. In my first marriage my ex and I were compatible sexually. She became a great mother and a great wife in the traditional sense. My problem was I wasn't mature enough to appreciate that. I basically took her for granted. I was what they call young and dumb.

The second time we got married the sex was still great. I didn't take her for granted that time. She was still a great mother and a wife. I found out that I wasn't traditional. I had trouble communicating with her. I found out that we didn't have a friendship because I could talk with my friends with no trouble.

When the relationship was good was when before we were both married the first time. Didn't ever seem like that was ever recaptured. I did okay between the first divorce and second marriage with the loneliness but after the second divorce with her I just about went nuts with it. We almost called the second divorce off but I learned that there was a way that people could discuss things without arguing.

Later when my third marriage came to an end because of death I thought heck what the hey. While attending my daughter's graduation I met my first wife again. I thought we could patch things up and go for round three. Within five minutes we were on the verge on War World three of the arguing. I thought to myself what the hell am I thinking. Since that time I started celebrating my divorce date. Life is so peaceful now. It reminds me of the book War and Peace.

Hey sweetskip40 since you say your threw with men
are you going out with the girl's now??...