Angelsing & all, there are many different reasons for this kind of behavior. Sometimes, it is a sign of controlling issues and red flags for potential domestic abuse, but not always. Everyone has different levels of social comforts. In fact, there are quite a few domestic abuser that are quite the social charmer. Thus, I would not jump to any conclusions about angelsing's x-b/f unless there were other signs & evidence to support actual violent nature.


I also agree that it is important in relationships for "time spent together" as well as "time spent away from one another." We all have are set of "baggage" so, try not to judge to harshly others for having theirs. In most cases, there is a reason for it.

Take Care and Good Luck.

Lex - it is amazing what we will put up with. I am glad you finally got away from her. She was amazingly controlling and you don't need that in your life.

Took me 10 years to get away from my ex, just amazing there are people out there like them.

We all learn from our mistakes and hopefully will never repeat them, went through hell and came out the other side a lot smarter.

Dang Seahawks, good idea, I never thought of that one.

sorry read into the question wrong, yup sounds controllin and insecure, should never put family n friends b4 a relationship.

I just don't understand why couples aren't in general more social, and less reclusive. You know how your friends get married or get a new boyfriend, and you don't see them anymore.
That might be one reason why relationships don't last anymore.

Then they come back cryin to you about, what happened when it dosen't work out. And you're like, hey, you weren't interested in talking to me when he/she was your it and all

rephrase relationship ahead of family.!!! doh!!!!!!!!!

Angel -- Yeah, a lot of times, they get married and then it's like they've vanished into another dimension. And then you don't hear from anybody until the breakup, at which point you're expected to provide the supportive shoulder....!

It's even worse when you've been friends with both parties; then it becomes a competition for your counseling services....

well said lex, wish i could type n think at the same time.!!! lol

Lex. Yea, and as you console them, you're thinking to yourself, na na na na na, that's what you get

Yeah, that's why you find another shoulder for them to cry on! As you run out the door.............. I'm joking.........

Well, maybe. It depends.

Hey, what goes around comes around, and turning about and running out the door is fair play

Now, remember, don't leave your friends and family just because you find somebody special. Other people in your life love you too.

well said friends and family will stay with you forever while not all guys do. i lost a lot of my friends when i was with my ex he wouldnt let me go out and do anything and ended up being abusive and controlling. i finally got out and got my life back together now trying to find friends for life now...

The RIGHT person will understand that you have a life outside of the parameters of your relationship and will respect that....

Or at least that's what the Magic 8 Ball said....

Okay, all laughing aside. The truth it is a gray area. Sometimes the right thing to do is be there for others and others times is to acknowledge that their problems are not our own. 24/24 vision is always hindsight.

Unfortunately, their problems become yours too and that's why you got ta do the check up from the neck up, before you sign up.

Everything in moderation is key.

Hmmm, I wonder where the bar code is?????? Maybe before ringing them up, I could just ask for the fact sheet?????

man, if i met someone, i would never diss you guys. you are the best!!!

Locate the X. They'll tell you everything, all the bad stuff.


at viva.

Hi all
I agree Lex
Clarify in the beginning so it has no chance to snowball.

lol