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Topic: why is is so hard to find true love
prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Mon 08/27/12 12:05 PM
I really want to hear why yall think its so hard to find. True love. Does it exist,is it just an emotion brought on by society,or do we. Actually love. That "one"? Yes i am new here. Thoight i would put this up. I want to know why it's called 'true love'. hehe

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 12:32 PM
I really want to hear why yall think its so hard to find. True love. Does it exist,is it just an emotion brought on by society,or do we. Actually love. That "one"? Yes i am new here. Thoight i would put this up. I don't know honestly if true love exists. As for love; the reason I haven't found it is that the relationships are just too demanding on me. When it takes so much effort that you are physically and emotionally burned out; there comes a time when you just can't be bothered anymore. I have hit that point.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 12:42 PM
True love is hard to find because it's like winning the lottery. You have to believe it's possible and then play a lot. And, even then, there's no guarantee.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 12:43 PM
I really want to hear why yall think its so hard to find. True love. Does it exist,is it just an emotion brought on by society,or do we. Actually love. That "one"? Yes i am new here. Thoight i would put this up. I don't know honestly if true love exists. As for love; the reason I haven't found it is that the relationships are just too demanding on me. When it takes so much effort that you are physically and emotionally burned out; there comes a time when you just can't be bothered anymore. I have hit that point. My experience has been the same. But, I've been told that real love is not like that. So I wait.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 02:19 PM
I really want to hear why yall think its so hard to find. True love. Does it exist,is it just an emotion brought on by society,or do we. Actually love. That "one"? Yes i am new here. Thoight i would put this up. I don't know honestly if true love exists. As for love; the reason I haven't found it is that the relationships are just too demanding on me. When it takes so much effort that you are physically and emotionally burned out; there comes a time when you just can't be bothered anymore. I have hit that point. My experience has been the same. But, I've been told that real love is not like that. So I wait. Well Ruth; I hope you truly find what you are seeking. You deserve no less.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 02:24 PM
Well Ruth; I hope you truly find what you are seeking. You deserve no less. Thank you. Whether I do or not, I'm very happy.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 02:30 PM
Well Ruth; I hope you truly find what you are seeking. You deserve no less. Thank you. Whether I do or not, I'm very happy. You know I think that is what is most important is to be happy. Life is too short not to be.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 02:34 PM
You know I think that is what is most important is to be happy. Life is too short not to be. Exactly.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Mon 08/27/12 02:35 PM
I like the attitudes that you ladies have, and i agree...it is paramount to be happy with yourself.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 02:36 PM
I like the attitudes that you ladies have, and i agree...it is paramount to be happy with yourself. Yep as the saying goes; you can't love someone else if you don't love yourself.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Mon 08/27/12 02:39 PM Edited by Kahurangi on Mon 08/27/12 02:50 PM
Could that be "true Love"?? Or is that being too "full of oneself" for the readers? Edit: But wait there's more!! Again...society dictates that we simply "must" have somebody to love us. Why is that? Are we so unlovable that we need somebody to do the loving for us? Just a thought....

Bigblackxxx Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 184	Mon 08/27/12 02:47 PM
It seems we expend energy in search of an utopian perfect love relationship instead of enjoying the best of what we have at hand :-) Being human, perfection is simply beyond us, instead of seeking dreamland perfection from our partners, we accept them for who they are and keep in mind that we're also not perfect :-) While not discounting deceptions, many love relationships actually start out as true intentions, but maybe it is our various long held expectations that eventually lead us to think otherwise :-) Just my thoughts :-)

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 02:52 PM
It seems we expend energy in search of an utopian perfect love relationship instead of enjoying the best of what we have at hand :-) Being human, perfection is simply beyond us, instead of seeking dreamland perfection from our partners, we accept them for who they are and keep in mind that we're also not perfect :-) While not discounting deceptions, many love relationships actually start out as true intentions, but maybe it is our various long held expectations that eventually lead us to think otherwise :-) Just my thoughts :-) Hmmmmm....nope. That's not it.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 02:57 PM
Could that be "true Love"?? Or is that being too "full of oneself" for the readers? Edit: But wait there's more!! Again...society dictates that we simply "must" have somebody to love us. Why is that? Are we so unlovable that we need somebody to do the loving for us? Just a thought.... I don't think it's society. I think it's a natural desire to have a mate. Biologically speaking, we need to need a mate in order to reproduce and raise our young. Now just because we are at an age where we are not going to be reproducing doesn't mean the feeling of needing someone goes away. Plus, it's natural to want the love and affection of someone we feel a connection with. At my age, this is a want. Not a need.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 03:01 PM
Could that be "true Love"?? Or is that being too "full of oneself" for the readers? Edit: But wait there's more!! Again...society dictates that we simply "must" have somebody to love us. Why is that? Are we so unlovable that we need somebody to do the loving for us? Just a thought.... I totally agree with what you are saying. Society does seem to dictate how we should live their lives and I for one have always questioned it. I was just saying the same thing on the Real men/Real woman thread that we should not have to bend to society's will. Its just like the idea that you are not complete unless you are partnered up or you aren't complete unless you have a child, etc. I often wonder if people think this way as they are insecure about themselves?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 03:05 PM
Could that be "true Love"?? Or is that being too "full of oneself" for the readers? Edit: But wait there's more!! Again...society dictates that we simply "must" have somebody to love us. Why is that? Are we so unlovable that we need somebody to do the loving for us? Just a thought.... I don't think it's society. I think it's a natural desire to have a mate. Biologically speaking, we need to need a mate in order to reproduce and raise our young. Now just because we are at an age where we are not going to be reproducing doesn't mean the feeling of needing someone goes away. Plus, it's natural to want the love and affection of someone we feel a connection with. At my age, this is a want. Not a need. I suspect that age does seem to affect our desire to want to have a partner. I think for some; it will always be there but for others they will lose that desire. I think everyone likes the idea of being loved and I think the love of family and friends can fulfill that wanting to be loved but that is just how I feel and I can't speak for how others feel.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Mon 08/27/12 03:10 PM
So...could loving yourself be considered "true love"?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 03:11 PM
So...could loving yourself be considered "true love"? Hmm, that is a good question. Why not?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 08/27/12 03:18 PM
So...could loving yourself be considered "true love"? Well, when you truly love someone you want and do what's best for them. We probably practice self-indulgence a bit more than real self-love.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Mon 08/27/12 05:42 PM Edited by wux on Mon 08/27/12 05:45 PM
I am always taken aback when I hear someone say "well, I am looking for this, and this and this in a person"...yet, what should really be asked is "What can YOU bring to a relationship?" " What do YOU have to offer?" Relationships are not just all about what YOU need. Sorry, Skeptical, but JFK said that already. Not in this thread, but in his State of the Union Address.