why do people send friend requests to you if they have never contacted you before? it's stupid

Maybe they saw something in your profile and want to be friends?

but i don't know who they are, you wouldn't just walk up to someone and be best friends with them would you

You do it at parties!

Well she is right....... they should at least say Hi!

A woman being right? Excuse me


EDIT: sorry katy, could not resist. I have a strange sense of humor.

I agree with the OP, basically. But we must understand that people, some few people, or a lot of them, seek the attention of pretty persons, and they figure "friend request" is a proper, valid form of doing so. And in the past they may have succeeded to do so with perfect strangers, so your (to me valid) objection may place you in a given community as a person who is critical, vampy, scritty.

Also, this site is not famous for it, because we have a very good community spirit, due to the relentless and tireless continual efforts of our beloved (not joking!!) moderators, there are sometimes cliques on forum sites, and cliques recruit from the new members who are pretty, show that they have a sense of humour, have a somewhat weak self-value that can be made a strong one by the community support of a clique, which supports its own members for the price of complete buy-in and conformity to the values of the clique, and of reciprocal and unconditional support for the clique's other members.

Sometimes people ask newcomers to be friends, because they want to show warmth, as a sign or token gesture of welcoming them.

It is impossible for the newcomer which friend request comes from whom.

I am not a pretty man, so I get very few friends requests, and I accept them all unconditionally.

Some very good looking people do too, those who are magnanimous.

Some people reject them, on grounds of it being an error in the logistics of socializing, like you declare here, OP. I can see that happen, too.

They are not asking to be best friends. People add friends or accept friend requests and sometimes you dont even chat with them. Take it as a compliment, even if you decline the request.

Yeah some people tend to nudge every cute face they see and never say anything its up to you if you want to care or not right? you dont have to except the friend requests Katy its your choice

sorry best friends wasn't the word i was looking for, i mean being very friendly like always wanting to chat

as i have just joined here and i'm unsure how it works,it is easy to think this is what you do.i now realise it's not,so sorry to anyone i have nudged or friended.i would also say mybe some people are very shy and feel by friending someone they have broken the ice?? just a thought.

I think some people think that's how these kind of sites work. Or, they're too shy to actually write anything, so they hope a friend request or nudge will do the talking for them. Unfortunately, they probably miss out on getting to know more people because of that, as most want an email first.

Singmesweet summed it up nicely there. A lot of people I think just don't fully understand how the site works, and quite a few of them probably have the facebook mentality of just wanting to "like" something without really exploring it or getting to know the person behind the profile.

Finally, some people just like to collect "friends". Maybe they show them to other people or brag to someone on or offline or something, I have no idea. But I do know people do it and they inhabit virtually any sort of media site.

It takes alot to get on my friends list. I must know them a while, develop some special repor with them.
But.....
I ain't in to collectin friends.
I am friendly with everyone!!!!

thanks for the replies

Doesn't it make sense for everyone to want to be friends with the Scottish?

I really liked Braveheart.

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Well, if they had a Mingle Newsletter, Mingle social etiquette could be taught. But stumbling around in the dark has its perks.

Stubbing ones toe is a perk?