That theory works only for the kind of women who are willing to date you. Plenty of women here (I know because I have read their profiles) have a different standard when it comes to having sex.

While it is a bit different, as it isn't sex, if a guy hasn't kissed me by the second date, I'd assume he wasn't interested. I'd even wonder a bit if he hadn't on the first date.

I AM Always a.......

Gentleman......

That being said....

There have been occasions when that chemical thing is just Happening on a date....and one thing leads to another....
But its a mutual thing.

If that aint happening, but the date is going well...
Sex wont even come into conversation.

But hey........

Thats just me!!!!

You're likely right. I'm only interested in dating women with a healthy sexual appetite. Sex is, after all, normal and part of any good relationship. I'd even go so far as to say a healthy sexual relationship is part of why most of us are here.

I'm not sure that you could prove that. However, thank you for stating your thoughts.

i don't see how you could be here for dating and not at least HOPE that statement is true.

This coming from an 18 year old..
Sweetheart there is a huge difference between self respect and fear. Here is a saying you should think about "Its not how women you have had its keeping one that make you a man".
I agree even on this site after 2 or 3 emails they are asking personal questions. I dont find it attractive I see it as the opposite.

Men say self respect and confidence is a big turn on then in the next breath want to get laid . Are we missing something here??

This may come as a surprise to someone, but there are Mingle2 members who want to wait until marriage before having sex.

Neither I nor smileyy have criticized people here for wanting sex without marriage. The trouble starts when people are criticized for wanting to wait until marriage.

Healthy relationships include sex. Unless someone is just here to chat, rather than to meet people to date, I wouldn't believe it if they did not even hope sex would be part of that.

AMEN

I didn't see anyone criticizing you. You have gone on about how you have a different standard for sex, though, which can sound like you think others have a lower standard.

Either way, you do what works for you and others will do what works for them.

I have neither said nor implied that others have a lower standard. I have merely pointed out that people here have different standards when it comes to sex.

By the way, the first response after the OP is a criticism of smileyy. Anyway, the OP refers to a man who wants to have sex with a woman during a first date. The OP asks why a man would be like that.

Dodo David, you too want a sexual relationship. You just want the sex part to start after getting married. But, it's still a part of what you're looking for. Right?

Sex is normal.

I don't think it's about not wanting to have sex ever. It's more about some would rather they get to know each other better before diving in (no pun intended)

There is nothing wrong with it either way, but for me, sex isn't the most important thing on a date. If I enjoy the date, I will go on another when there is no sex or kissing. To me, I would rather get to know the person before I do something I consider intimate and special.

The OP isn't talking about someone you have seen several times or in a relationship with. The OP states when you meet someone for the first time. And the issue the OP is facing is that she obviously isn't looking for sex, so those that are looking for it are going after the wrong person. I would be offended if someone assumed I would just sleep with him on the first date.

There are lots of people out there, both men and women, who would consider sex on the first date. There's nothing wrong with that, just as there is nothing wrong with waiting if that's what works for you. If someone wants sex quickly and you don't, I would say move on to someone more compatible.

The desire for sexual fulfillment is normal, and I would not object to it if I were to marry again. However, I have learned that a good marriage is based on love, not sex.

Sure, some men don't wait until marriage before having sex. Other men do wait.

The men who wait are no less men than the men who don't wait (and vice versa).

Likewise, women who wait are no less women than the women who don't wait (and vice versa).

Anyway, the OP isn't about waiting or not waiting. It is about a jerk who went on a first date with a woman because he wanted to hook up with her immediately, and yet she did not tell him that she wanted to hook up.

If your goal is simply to hook up with someone, then say so in advance. That way you avoid the creation of a bad situation.

By the way, TexasScoundrel, I get the impression that you are upfront and honest with your dates about what you want. That is good.

Truthfully, I've never had to talk about it with a date. I've just gotten pretty good at creating an atmosphere that naturally leads to sex. I don't put any pressure on a woman and I don't seduce her. I simply lead things along so that sex is simply the next, natural step. Then I submit to her desires.

Stop, stop !! This is a big misconception. Not at all related to meeting for the first time. We want to get in there any odd time. And honestly, if we weren't interested to get there, you'd worry about what was wrong

What do you mean by We?

You may want to get in there at any odd time, but not every man is like you.

In case you never noticed, there are real men who want to wait until marriage before having sex.



That statement is based on the false assumption that every woman is the same when it comes to sex.

There are plenty of women here (I know because I have read their profiles) who don't want to have sex before marriage.

My point is that, when it comes to sex, you shouldn't assume that everyone thinks the same way that you do.