A person has said they will give me a kidney after school in the fall...Monday Dec 17, 2012 to be exact.

My problem is this person is a chronic liar. So should I get my hopes up? A gift like this is hard to come by, but I don't trust them to keep it.

Should I hide my ambiguous feelings I am having and go with the flow?

I just don't know how to act. Any advice?

Promises, from those who do not know how to
keep them, are pretty useless.
I would keep ALL my options open, and my
mouth shut.
Anything might tick that person off.

I would vent after said kidney has already
been transferred.
At which point, it would not have
been an issue.

i think it's best never to expect anything from anyone. that way if it doesn't happen, no big deal. if it does, it's a pleasant surprise

if your really want to make sure your chronic lying friend comes through, then i recommend the following:

a handkerchief soaked with cloroform
a sharp knife, rubber gloves, and a sewing kit
an anatomy book showing the specific location of the kidneys in a human body
small ice cooler large enough to hold a kidney
bathtub half filled with ice
a forged note saying "merry christmas, here's a kidney" in your chronic friends handwriting
a prepaid cell phone with a note saying "stay in the ice, dial 911, one of your kidneys has been removed" *be sure this note is not in your handwriting
your chronic lying friend

i guarantee i guarantee you'll have a happy christmas and a dialysis free new year (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

* some of this post is a joke

Hippie! Have No expectations Sir!

I agree with soufie here.... except for the venting part afterwards.
That gift would dwarf any of my beefs with them... FOREVER! You may remind them HOW IMPORTANT this is to you now. Go into great detail and humanize yourself and them... Then hope for the best... and best of luck!

Is the kidney compatible?

Since you said they're a chronic liar, say thanks and keep your options open as if they didn't offer.

Ok, I knew in my heart to assume I was NOT getting one and I see by your responses I should discount their offer.

It is just hard not to get hopes up. They still have to pass the donor tests, and then maybe they will or maybe they won't donate.

I would hope for the best, but expect the worst. Expect this person to renege but don't give them a reason to.

Promisses are not written on stones and can be broken without any serious consequiences. However, any promiss should be appreciated withtout expectation and judgement.
Every human being is equiped with the most powerful tool for manifesting our desires - our minds hence our thoughts. You are the creater of your own reality, however, thinking of your friend as cronic liar, using words such as "hard to come by" and "don't trust" will only bring you more of hardship and untrusting people into your life.
It's about time you start believing in yourself, appreciating the body that you,have, the organs that good and be grateful to the organ not at ease for bringing you to this point in time.
Believe in your body and its ability to heal itseff, believe an organ will come your way without doubt and universe will set everything in youf favour. So I say go with flow, just remember some of the pointers mentioned above.
Hope this helps.

I would ask this friend, if they are sure they will keep their promise, and I'd also tell them that if they aren't sure, not to skirt around the issue. Let this person know [but you don't have to do it in a nasty way] that you have MANY donors lined up. Sometimes, people who mess with our minds, get off on thinking they're the only one you can rely on. Heaven knows why. They just do. I'd let them know not to mess me around. I sure hope you DON'T get messed around though.

Just like a first date...... Stay optimistic, but No expectations= No disappointment.

Considering the critical nature of your need I think I would totally extract myself from this attention whore/emotional vampire and face the fact that this is a stunt that is most likely to leave you worse for the wear when you can least afford this cruelty.

I think you know this person is so wrong for pulling this and trying to rationalize how anyone could pull this crap with that microscopic hope that maybe this could work out.

You have every right to feel any way you want to about this. REPEAT you have every right to feel any way you want about this!

However I think you need to prepare yourself to have a wide range of feelings as the reality of this situation sets in. Hopefully you have dear close friends to become knowledgeable about what you are going through and or you will allow yourself to develope them through peer support group but even that is not going to keep you totally out of the situation. .

Huh? You are asking advice about whether a chronic liar will deliver on a promise? I think the answer is very obvious. That just means you will get one from elsewhere.

They failed the tests to donate.

They still have my undying gratitude for trying.

Who? The blackbelt or the new offer?

Sorry things fell through. I don't know anyone deserves undying gratitude for trying to donate or even for donateing. Yes it is a nice thing to do but should not be a pay day or anything someone gets anything for.

I know someone we knew took the time to set down and explain how little of a thing it is to donate. The basics that it doesn't cost those who do anything or disfigure them or really much of a risk since the procedure is simple for people in good enough shape to donate. Because of it my husband's wish was to donate organs and tissues and that was a great comfort in a very dark time for our family. Luckily some really cool people got the help they needed.

IMHO that made him nor me a saint anymore than it does any other kindness people do. You give something to someone wheather it is a kind word, the strength of your mind, or body, or even something like a part we can sometimes spare, or need no longer, you are really giving yourself a gift of making the world a better place. Someone as nice as you sure does that.

My hope is you will soon get the kidney I know you grow weary waiting for. Or they can repair the ones you have. I beleive miracles are a lot closer than we once thought. I am sure a lot of people have signed up to be someone's blessing because you are so nice and honest about all of this.

I didn't get an organ donor to pass health tests. But I greatly appreciate what they tried to do, and hope I can return a favor someday.

I hope you will get a
kidney soon as well
and I hope only the best
for you and best
of wishes for you
.

Blessings ƸӁƷ Harmony