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Topic: Christian Ladies
Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Wed 03/28/12 11:37 PM
Why are most christian ladies shy of taking the first step in a relationship. You forget most brothers are too shy to ask you out

breeann Joined Sat 03/31/12 Posts: 3	Tue 04/03/12 06:31 AM
very true, but ladies dont want to end up always making the first move

CowboyGH Joined Mon 10/05/09 Posts: 13651	Tue 04/03/12 10:55 AM
I assume they fear the man's motive behind having anything to do with her is physical. Even if speaking of a "Christian" person or other. The world has become so focused on sex, alot to most especially males have lost the site of what's truly beautiful, the heart and soul of a woman. Not specifically the physical aspect.

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Sat 04/21/12 11:41 PM
I still believe in a man being "the hunter" when it comes to such things. If he cannot take the initiative to ask me out, how will he take the initiative around our household and the role of a man?

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 04/21/12 11:44 PM
I still believe in a man being "the hunter" when it comes to such things. If he cannot take the initiative to ask me out, how will he take the initiative around our household and the role of a man? ^5

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Sun 04/22/12 01:19 AM
I still believe in a man being "the hunter" when it comes to such things. If he cannot take the initiative to ask me out, how will he take the initiative around our household and the role of a man? you dont judge a man's ability to lead a family jst because he couldnt walk up to you for a relationship? The truth is that most men dont know how to handle a rejected application so they just hang back.

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Sun 04/22/12 01:36 AM
Hold on, wait a minute! What is your idea of "the first step?" I would just like to get my facts straight before I reply again.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Sun 04/22/12 04:17 AM
We all fear rejection. Male or female! Asking to be friends first and taking it from there is a safer way of approaching someone u have a 'thing' for.

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Sun 04/22/12 11:10 PM Edited by CeriseRose on Sun 04/22/12 11:21 PM
I still believe in a man being "the hunter" when it comes to such things. If he cannot take the initiative to ask me out, how will he take the initiative around our household and the role of a man? I agree...to a point. There are scores of reasons good men don't commence. A lot of men are not highy vocal... ...and that does not invalidate their manliness. Some men can be so excited about being in your company that they will freeze, so to speak. Some are "clumsy" even... with words. Shyness is not a bad quality in a man (or woman). After hindsight, some men discover that they have no mate because, when given opportunities, they didn't get up the nerve to initiate. --Ladies-- If you are concerned about appearances but you're feeling vibes between the two of you, make your advance in a modest manner. See if you can make him feel at ease. Don't try too hard You may be the only one who's vibing. Lastly, Some men have a defeatist attitude! Thinking in advance that fault may be placed on themselves (since they were the initiators) if the relationship turns sour. Bear in mind, a good man doesn't look forward to a blame-game. _________________________________ Bottom line, As with any prospective relationship YOU have to believe that YOU can communicate honorable intentions toward one another -whether by word or deed. Be responsible and respectful. You owe it to one another as well as yourself.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Mon 04/23/12 02:12 AM
Hold on, wait a minute! What is your idea of "the first step?" I would just like to get my facts straight before I reply again. I believe that would involve making your desire known to the other partner.

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Wed 04/25/12 01:48 PM
@CheriseRose: if I was your teacher I would have given you full marks for effort, love the illustrations :) With regards to the topic at hand...it's touch because some ladies have mastered the art of "flirting" or giving the poor guy all the right signals to let him know that you're interested as whereas some of us do not know how to do all that. If a guy asks me out it simply means that he knows what he wants and will do what it takes to get it and even if it means him writing a heartfelt letter if he can't speak or breathe around me. This is a touch one...

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Wed 04/25/12 03:03 PM
@CheriseRose: if I was your teacher I would have given you full marks for effort, love the illustrations :) With regards to the topic at hand...it's touch because some ladies have mastered the art of "flirting" or giving the poor guy all the right signals to let him know that you're interested as whereas some of us do not know how to do all that. If a guy asks me out it simply means that he knows what he wants and will do what it takes to get it and even if it means him writing a heartfelt letter if he can't speak or breathe around me. This is a touch one... Thanks for the good marks, teacher. Just tryin to help.

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Thu 04/26/12 07:57 AM
hahaha, meant to say "it's tough and not touch." Please do not think I'll illiterate, I'm just special :)

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Thu 04/26/12 06:21 PM
hahaha, meant to say "it's tough and not touch." Please do not think I'll illiterate, I'm just special :) You're ok. Glad to have you with us LyricalCHILD! Welcome to Mingle2 Christian Singles!

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Wed 05/02/12 02:26 PM
You're ok. Glad to have you with us LyricalCHILD! Welcome to Mingle2 Christian Singles! Thank you for making me feel so welcome! God bless! hugs

Coolestguy007 Joined Tue 05/08/12 Posts: 1	Wed 05/09/12 07:59 PM
Hi brothers n sisters in christ,im looking for a chat room where there r christians like me?

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Wed 05/09/12 08:44 PM
Hi brothers n sisters in christ,im looking for a chat room where there r christians like me? Hi and welcome, Coolestguy007!

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Thu 05/10/12 08:01 AM Edited by CeriseRose on Thu 05/10/12 08:17 AM
@CheriseRose: if I was your teacher I would have given you full marks for effort, love the illustrations :) With regards to the topic at hand... ...it's tou[gh] because some ladies have mastered the art of "flirting" or giving the poor guy all the right signals to let him know that you're interested... ...whereas some of us do not know how to do all that. ...If a guy asks me out it simply means that he knows what he wants... ... and will do what it takes to get it ... ...and even if it means him writing a heartfelt letter if he can't speak or breathe around me. This is a tou[gh] one... Yes, it's tough in that... we should all consider not jumping to conclusions about anyone. Our own lack of patience is a stumbling block in interacting with others. Everyone wants "an academy awards", "two thumbs up" kind of romance but that is unrealistic. It may never be that outstanding. But it may turn out to be the best for you and your true needs. People have moods that we can rarely interpret nor predetermine. Patience is an important virtue from beginning to the end of any relationship. You may discover a diamond in the rough.

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Sat 05/12/12 01:45 PM Edited by CeriseRose on Sat 05/12/12 01:50 PM
"Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good."

LyricalCHILD Joined Sat 04/21/12 Posts: 20	Mon 05/14/12 04:58 AM
You're ok. Glad to have you with us LyricalCHILD! Welcome to Mingle2 Christian Singles! Thank you for making me feel so welcome! God bless! hugs hugs thank you so much for making me feel so welcome, are you an angel? =D Another point: It's just as women we are taught alot of incorrect principles whilst growing up, I remember singing "can you pay my bills by Destiny's Child" when I was younger and actually believed that that's the way it should be in a relationship. If the poor guy cannot take care of you financially, buy you a car, give you money to get your nails and hair done, etc. he is not even worth your time. But the flip side of the same coin is that women have become too independent now. We act like we do not need men around except for "reproductional purposes" or physical needs. The body of Christ need to stop thinking as the world does when it comes to a relationship, because even in church we still chase status....or is it just me?